Where to post about issues with my older child? Where to post about the 16-24 young adult age group?
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Hi. I've been stuck on this for awhile. My kid is 19, and I would love to get some input on how others are dealing with their kids/young adults ages 16-24. The tween/teen forum seems to be dominated by parents of younger kids. Even parents of 9 and 10 year-olds post there, so I'm sure that they can't help me with my kid who is living at home as a near-adult. My kid is not 100% in college yet, either (he is PT at CC, and working FT at a low-level job), so the College/University forum doesn't seem right, either. And the midlife forum doesn't seem to be a fit.
Given the impact of the pandemic on the lives of kids these ages, and the lives of their parents like me, who continue to house them while they work, and/or do CC, or fully attend remote college -- well, I just wish we had a forum devoted to the issues that arise when living with an older kid. It is not easy. Kids have lost jobs and moved back home, or they never left home to begin with, creating all sorts of strife, and questions to be solved about everything from getting a job to car use to drug use to chores and more. Anyway, I would love to see a category added for "parenting young adults 16-24" - even though I'm sure, as webmaster, you are loathe to add any more categories! But I have often felt that there are many issues for this age group that the general parenting group just doesn't cover, and which don't fit nicely into other established forums. Here's an article to support my suggestion! It would feel so great to have the support of others facing these same issues, so I hope you consider my idea. Thanks!! https://tcf.org/content/commentary/young-people-will-bear-brunt-covid-19s-economic-consequences/ Because young adults suddenly found themselves disconnected from work and school in droves during the pandemic, many moved in with family. In July, 52 percent of those between the ages of 18 and 29 years old had moved back in with family—the highest share of young adults living with family since the Great Depression—and growth was sharpest for those ages 18 to 24. While a summer uptick in this statistic is normal, as college students often return home during break, the 2020 uptick was much larger than normal. Nearly one in five of all young adults who moved back in with family reported that the decision was directly related to financial reasons, including the loss of a job. |
Anonymous
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You can just post in the Family section. Just include the age of the child you're posting about.
And if your adult child's issue is about college, you can post there even though they're only part time. They're still in college. |
Anonymous
| Seems like maybe OP threw a dart and landed on the college and university forum: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/971437.page |
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| Thanks. I moved that to the Relationship forum. |
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Anonymous
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I have an 18 y.o. and I was also considering asking Jeff for a Parents of Young Adults forum.
I've been on DCUM a long time, and it does feel weird when you realize you've outgrown a forum. The latest is the "Teen and Tween" which look, the issues that come up with parenting a 12 y.o. is very different than an 18 y.o. Prepuberty, puberty, and post-puberty are all jammed in one section. I would love a Parents of Young Adults forum, which I think can handle all of: ~18 y.o. kids who are still at home and in high school, kids who are out of the house and in college, kids who are at home but in college, kids who are at home and not in college (working), and Kids who are out of the house working Lots of different situations there, but it would be so much better if we had a forum for all those situations rather than in the Teens, or the College forum. Really this age is about how to get them to fledge, which involves preparing them to fledge, fledging, watching them falter from afar and helping but not rescuing them. The parenting style is completely different again, from tweens and young teens. |
Anonymous
| Drives me crazy to have preteens in the teen forum. 12 year olds and 18-20 year olds do not have the same problems. |
Anonymous
| I'd also like to see a Parenting Young Adults Forum. |
Anonymous
Then you really need to get out more, take a walk in the sunshine, or something. |
Anonymous
You’re right, but I’m busy with teenagers with real problems, so at night my anxiety kicks in. When I reach out for advice I don’t appreciate a tween mom with awful advice or blame. Good luck on your own teenagers, you seem to have it figured out. |
Anonymous
No one has it figured out. 
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Anonymous
| Jeff, can we please try a Parents of Young Adults forum? |
Anonymous
NP. Yikes. |
Anonymous
Yes please! |
Anonymous
That's a great idea. |