Women who quickly divorce with young kids and refuse marital therapy

[Anonymous]

Would you brand them as selfish? Someone I knew flat out refused marital therapy after her 27 yr old husband flirted over text. They had a 2 yr old. Told the child would need therapy in the future but she said idc. She didn't care and quickly divorced. Her parents were never supportive of the marriage due to hating the Christian religion.Years later she remarried a richer older man and has her parents support. Child cries everyday and is unhappy since the divorce. Is she a selfish b?

[Anonymous]

You have no idea what was actually going on. MYOB. I never told anyone why I divorced my ex (constant visits to ‘massage’ parlors) because I didn’t want to humiliate my child. I’m sure people like you judged me. You literally have NO IDEA what is happening.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a troll.

But, in case not, think she found a reason to dump a guy her parent's didn't like anyhow. Went with what her parents wanted, now finds herself unhappy because she is older and wiser.

[Anonymous]

The child has other issues or this is a troll. The kid was 2 when the divorce happened and she cries every day years later? That has nothing to do with the divorce. There are other issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you brand them as selfish? Someone I knew flat out refused marital therapy after her 27 yr old husband flirted over text. They had a 2 yr old. Told the child would need therapy in the future but she said idc. She didn't care and quickly divorced. Her parents were never supportive of the marriage due to hating the Christian religion.Years later she remarried a richer older man and has her parents support. Child cries everyday and is unhappy since the divorce. Is she a selfish b?

OP- there was more than her husband flirting over text going on in that marriage. People don’t divorce over flirting over a text. You just never know what goes on in people’s lives behind closed doors. She might have been having an affair and used the text as a pretext for divorce. You just don’t know.you also don’t know that she doesn’t care about her child. You have NO idea. You need to learn not to be so judgmental, especially when you do obviously don’t know all of the facts.

[Anonymous]

Step back and stop assuming the worst in others based on limited information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have no idea what was actually going on. MYOB. I never told anyone why I divorced my ex (constant visits to ‘massage’ parlors) because I didn’t want to humiliate my child. I’m sure people like you judged me. You literally have NO IDEA what is happening.

I do. I lived with the family at that time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a troll.

But, in case not, think she found a reason to dump a guy her parent's didn't like anyhow. Went with what her parents wanted, now finds herself unhappy because she is older and wiser.

Sounds likely. She was a people pleaser definitely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The child has other issues or this is a troll. The kid was 2 when the divorce happened and she cries every day years later? That has nothing to do with the divorce. There are other issues.

The issues surround themselves around what happened after the divorce and how his new family treats him and ignores him and how he wishes both his parents were together again before she found this new guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you brand them as selfish? Someone I knew flat out refused marital therapy after her 27 yr old husband flirted over text. They had a 2 yr old. Told the child would need therapy in the future but she said idc. She didn't care and quickly divorced. Her parents were never supportive of the marriage due to hating the Christian religion.Years later she remarried a richer older man and has her parents support. Child cries everyday and is unhappy since the divorce. Is she a selfish b?

It sounds like she was having an affair. Saying a 2 year old needs therapy at age 2 is absurd. The issue is Mom probably doesn't let Dad see the child but after a while the child will forget and Mom will recreate the story about Dad is a bad guy and how he doesn't want the kid.

[Anonymous]

If you actually think the child is still crying over the divorce daily then you're an idiot. There is obviously something else going on that has nothing to do with the divorce

[Anonymous]

I think you're a bad person and I think the mom is immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you brand them as selfish? Someone I knew flat out refused marital therapy after her 27 yr old husband flirted over text. They had a 2 yr old. Told the child would need therapy in the future but she said idc. She didn't care and quickly divorced. Her parents were never supportive of the marriage due to hating the Christian religion.Years later she remarried a richer older man and has her parents support. Child cries everyday and is unhappy since the divorce. Is she a selfish b?

OP- there was more than her husband flirting over text going on in that marriage. People don’t divorce over flirting over a text. You just never know what goes on in people’s lives behind closed doors. She might have been having an affair and used the text as a pretext for divorce. You just don’t know.you also don’t know that she doesn’t care about her child. You have NO idea. You need to learn not to be so judgmental, especially when you do obviously don’t know all of the facts.

I lived with them and no there was nothing else going on. She wasn't having an affair. She was very lazy as a mom and didn't want a child or even the baby when she got pregnant. And call me Brenda. I hate being called OP lol.

[Anonymous]

You seem to be under the impression that marriage therapy is this magic thing that fixes major issues in a marriage. Just because you lived with them doesnt mean you know everything that was going on. Sometimes divorce is the best option even without therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you actually think the child is still crying over the divorce daily then you're an idiot. There is obviously something else going on that has nothing to do with the divorce

This.