S/o: Men, is chivalry dead?

[Anonymous]

S/o of the helpless wife post...

Men: is chivalry and kindness dead? If you see a woman alone outside of her car on the side of the road would you stop and offer help? Do you hold the door open for women regularly or offer to help a women clearly struggling with something?

[Anonymous]

I’m not a man, I’m a woman. From my perch, no, chivalry is not dead.

The thread you’re referring to, that guy has contempt towards his spouse and it is much deeper than a display (or lack) of traditional etiquette.

[Anonymous]

No, I will not stop on the side of the freeway to help. Good way to get #metooed.

I will open the door, or let a woman go ahead of me in line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a man, I’m a woman. From my perch, no, chivalry is not dead.

The thread you’re referring to, that guy has contempt towards his spouse and it is much deeper than a display (or lack) of traditional etiquette.

True, but someone chimed in men haven’t stopped roadside for women with car trouble in decades. Wondering if that is how most feel...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a man, I’m a woman. From my perch, no, chivalry is not dead.

The thread you’re referring to, that guy has contempt towards his spouse and it is much deeper than a display (or lack) of traditional etiquette.

True, but someone chimed in men haven’t stopped roadside for women with car trouble in decades. Wondering if that is how most feel...

Nope. One comment, anecdotal, just as my experience is. Men have stopped to help me, changed their route to hold doors, walked me to my car far in a parking lot, helped carry cumbersome packages. I’m no damsel in distress either, ever. They’re just gentlemen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I will not stop on the side of the freeway to help. Good way to get #metooed.

I will open the door, or let a woman go ahead of me in line.

LOL! I respect the gravity of the me2 environment; I’ve got my own example. However, not all men are this way, and not all women think a man being friendly or courteous is a come on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I will not stop on the side of the freeway to help. Good way to get #metooed.

I will open the door, or let a woman go ahead of me in line.

LOL! I respect the gravity of the me2 environment; I’ve got my own example. However, not all men are this way, and not all women think a man being friendly or courteous is a come on.

Male kindness is so alien to us, we assume it is seduction every time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I will not stop on the side of the freeway to help. Good way to get #metooed.

I will open the door, or let a woman go ahead of me in line.

LOL! I respect the gravity of the me2 environment; I’ve got my own example. However, not all men are this way, and not all women think a man being friendly or courteous is a come on.

Male kindness is so alien to us, we assume it is seduction every time.

Speak for yourself. It isn’t always about that. Often... but not always.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think so. I think it is instinctual for men to want to help women.

I was in rural Maine last summer and got my cell phone reception dropped. I got turned around and pulled over so I could get the paper map out. Within a couple minutes of being stopped and pulled over, a nice man pulled over and knocked on my window to see if I needed help. I didn’t think men did that anymore (and it had been a lot of years since I’ve needed to pull over on a road). But it was very kind.

I also get doors held open regularly too. I always offer to hold a door for the person behind me if they are at close pace, man or woman. The men almost always grab the door and insist I go ahead before them.

[Anonymous]

Outside of the DMV, people do stop and help and make kindness a way of life. Here people glare at you if you dare to even say good morning to a stranger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Outside of the DMV, people do stop and help and make kindness a way of life. Here people glare at you if you dare to even say good morning to a stranger.

They smile and say good morning. You just have to say it first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:S/o of the helpless wife post...

Men: is chivalry and kindness dead? If you see a woman alone outside of her car on the side of the road would you stop and offer help? Do you hold the door open for women regularly or offer to help a women clearly struggling with something?

Yes, thanks to the me too movement and job competition

[Anonymous]

Please don’t stop and help me. I’ll be in my car with the doors locked waiting for roadside assistance. The last thing I want is a strange man approaching... I would be uncomfortable. Sorry. I know you mean well but keep on driving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t stop and help me. I’ll be in my car with the doors locked waiting for roadside assistance. The last thing I want is a strange man approaching... I would be uncomfortable. Sorry. I know you mean well but keep on driving.

You're smart. Many women have been raped roadside when a man stopped to help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t stop and help me. I’ll be in my car with the doors locked waiting for roadside assistance. The last thing I want is a strange man approaching... I would be uncomfortable. Sorry. I know you mean well but keep on driving.

You're smart. Many women have been raped roadside when a man stopped to help.

That’s where the bear spray comes in handy.