Did anyone here NOT have a perfect wedding?

[Anonymous]

My wedding time was extremely stressful and traumatic. We were a mixed race-interfaith couple and neither set of families were happy about our union. We also did not have money for a wedding. We put something together last minute and it was stressful and just not fun. If I could do it over, I'd have just eloped.

[Anonymous]

My wedding wasn’t perfect. It was stressful due to my mom micro-managing everything, petty strife among wedding party, DH not wanting to do much more than show up to wedding. I had to do all the planning while studying for and taking the bar exam two weeks prior. More stressful than joyous. We’ve been married nearly 25 years now so it’s all good.

[Anonymous]

I did not want to have the perfect wedding. The wedding was perfect. I was not happy. I doubted getting married. Divorced many years later.

The marriage is way more important. Try not to dwell on not having the perfect wedding...it does not even matter. Truly.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Mine was nowhere near as bad as yours. I’m so sorry.

I was going to complain about mine because my MIL said she would do all sorts of things: take care of food, take care of sending thank-you cards, centerpieces, flowers, etc., and she basically didn’t do any of it. With food for the reception she had people come over to her house and she served apple cider and zucchini bread. She never sent our thank-you cards, the centerpieces were fake flowers from the dollar store, and she was late bringing the bouquets. I really do love her but it was such a mistake to depend on her.

That said, I don’t have terrible memories like you, OP. So sorry that happened to you on your wedding day!

[Anonymous]

Mine wasn’t perfect but it was the best we could do on a very small budget. But, 34 years later we are still together and very happy. When we hit the 30 year Mark my husband said the wedding cost per year of marriage is now under $100.

[Anonymous]

Same OP. Lots of family drama. I honestly wish we had eloped too. I was in tears (not of joy) on several occasions on my wedding day.

[Anonymous]

I eloped for the exact reasons you posted.

We had a “party” later and that was a bit of a show.

I told my H I wanted a surprise baby shower do I didn’t have to deal with the drama.

Before I arrived ... My MIL told 2 of my friends there was no room even though they were invited and RSVPd (my mom and sil (on my side) gave up their seats), my aunt and SIL (his side) almost got into a physical fight over balloons vs flowers and my FIL spent 20 minutes in the ladies bathroom with my crying SIl.

[Anonymous]

I found the wedding planning very stressful, and I also don't like being the center of attention. If I could do it over, I would have eloped too.

[Anonymous]

Our wedding was fine. I wasn’t so invested in the wedding as an event though. Like a PP, I think focusing on the wedding instead of the marriage is a recipe for disappointment, both on the wedding day and after. Happily married now for almost 20 years and barely ever think of our wedding day.

[Anonymous]

LOVED our wedding. It wasn't perfect, but so glad we got to do it the way we did. Important relatives died soon after, and so glad they were included. The people that were going to hate on the wedding no matter what - so, you learn a LOT about people during weddings (and funerals, for that matter).

Originally we planned to elope, and sometimes I say we should have, but so glad those relatives were there to take part. I was also just really shocked at how sh&tty some people can really be. There were only a couple that acted out, but still - they were adults, and they didn't act like it, at all. Glad we got to see some true colors. Namely, who could be happy for us, and who could not bring themselves to be happy for someone else, period.

[Anonymous]

Not at all. Tons of in-law drama. Don't have one damned picture of our wedding up in our house for that reason.

[Anonymous]

The day went fine, with a few imperfections. The real issue is that it wasn't a marriage to the right person.

[Anonymous]

Mother in law got arrested at mine. So, no, not the best one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Mine was nowhere near as bad as yours. I’m so sorry.

I was going to complain about mine because my MIL said she would do all sorts of things: take care of food, take care of sending thank-you cards, centerpieces, flowers, etc., and she basically didn’t do any of it. With food for the reception she had people come over to her house and she served apple cider and zucchini bread. She never sent our thank-you cards, the centerpieces were fake flowers from the dollar store, and she was late bringing the bouquets. I really do love her but it was such a mistake to depend on her.

That said, I don’t have terrible memories like you, OP. So sorry that happened to you on your wedding day!

Thank you cards are your responsibility as couple.

Mine wasn't perfect. Pictures took far too long. I believe we finally said "enough". I didn't want the wedding we had. DH did. It ended up being fine. It doesn't have to be perfect.

We found out after that the limo driver was hitting on one of the bridesmaids, and gave her a card for his "modeling " business. I complained and he was fired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mother in law got arrested at mine. So, no, not the best one.

What happened??