Did anyone here NOT have a perfect wedding?

[Anonymous]

My bouquet arrived dead. Dead white roses. It was an evening winter wedding. Decided if I acted like a didn't notice, maybe most other people wouldn't notice. Still looks bad in the pictures though.

We never saw our limousine. It showed up but one the groomsmen commandered it. He used it to run an errand, we're not sure.

Having left the reception in our own car, the police pulled us over. They had lots of questions. I think they couldn't believe someone driving an old junker would be pulling into The Hay Adams Hotel.

One of my brothers came down with pneumonia and was hospitalized three days before the wedding. I wrestled with the decision to postpone, and of course was very worried about him. We went ahead

And yet, it's only someone asking, "what went wrong?" that makes me remember the bad stuff. Overall it was wonderful. My overall memory ~ it was wonderful.

[Anonymous]

Wedding #1: occurred 7 months before it was supposed to and in the chapel at Ft Bragg because he was deployable within 18 hours and received orders.

Wedding #2: courthouse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My bouquet arrived dead. Dead white roses. It was an evening winter wedding. Decided if I acted like a didn't notice, maybe most other people wouldn't notice. Still looks bad in the pictures though.

We never saw our limousine. It showed up but one the groomsmen commandered it. He used it to run an errand, we're not sure.

Having left the reception in our own car, the police pulled us over. They had lots of questions. I think they couldn't believe someone driving an old junker would be pulling into The Hay Adams Hotel.

One of my brothers came down with pneumonia and was hospitalized three days before the wedding. I wrestled with the decision to postpone, and of course was very worried about him. We went ahead

And yet, it's only someone asking, "what went wrong?" that makes me remember the bad stuff. Overall it was wonderful. My overall memory ~ it was wonderful.

Are you still friends with him? What kind of errand did he run?

[Anonymous]

It wasn't perfect but I wasn't really bothered by it. I'd just finished grad school 500 miles away and hadn't really spent much time planning it despite having a traditional big wedding and reception. I bought my dress on sale, off the rack, no alterations. But our friends and family were there and we had fun.

By contrast my DD did have the perfect expensive wedding and obsessed over every detail. We spent more on her dress and accessories than my parents spent on my entire wedding. People had a blast so it seemed worthwhile.

[Anonymous]

My wedding was far from perfect but I still have fond memories. All of the negative things about my wedding day were other people being lame, whether it was my mom refusing to take off her sunglasses for photos (really) or my boss having a tantrum at me in the middle of the reception.

Other people are wildcards, and big events like wedding sometimes bring out the worst in them. But at the end of the day (1) we got married, (2) most of our friends and family had a great time, and (3) we have a handful of lovely photos and memories. I no longer care about the rest and feel sorry for the people who were too up in their own heads to just enjoy a party someone else planned and paid for.

[Anonymous]

My wedding planning was not perfect:

-Dad gave brother money for wedding but not me.
-In Laws didn't acknowledge finances; complained about flights and hotels
-Mother didn't understand why I couldn't do fun pinterest stuff like a fancy exit car...
THEN

-We had to call all of our guests two weeks before and tell them not to come due to COVID.
-My sticky boobs didn't work on the day off so I had to go braless.

At the time it wasn't perfect, but the day of was so perfect. I could not be happier that we had a special day for just us with no family

[Anonymous]

My planned wedding should have been last summer so not perfect for obvious reasons.

Ended up getting married with parents and siblings. I have sweet memories of it but not what I dreamed of and we didn’t do most of the wedding traditions which I am sad to have missed out on.

[Anonymous]

We eloped to a courthouse while on vacation for practical, not romantic, reasons. I wish I had had a small wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a wedding where the bride's grandmother literally dropped dead in the middle of the dance floor.

Alright, I think we have hit bottom and can shut the thread down. Wow. Doesn't get much worse than that.

It was so awful. She just fell over backwards like a tree, right on the dance floor. One of the guests had EMT training but she was unrevivable. They had all the guests go out into the foyer hall of the facility, and closed the doors until ambulance came and took her away.

I feel so had for the couple... I'm sure every wedding anniversary has a tinge of sadness due to Grandma's death, and every time someone brings up weddings in general.

[Anonymous]

Mine was for my mother and I hated every minute. I was 24 and too immature to speak up. Eloping would have been way better for us. 35 years ago. Total waste of money. Even the song we danced to as our first dance was my mother's pick.

Brothers' wedding was even worse. The police came because my 60-year-old paternal grandmother stabbed my 61-year-old maternal grandfather with a fork. Which started a huge fight with both families, not the brides, the groom's maternal vs paternal. No one was physically hurt, but emotionally my poor SIL and her family. They were the loveliest people. Divorced after 25 years of marriage and one child. She should have left him at the altar, brother is a horrible human, unfortunately. The wedding was a precursor for things to come.

My DH thought it was the best wedding ever. The video guy got it all down.

[Anonymous]

Mine was similar to how Steve Harvey described his niece’s wedding.

[Anonymous]

Me. Flooded venue due to natural disaster. Vendors left pre-ceremony. I never saw my flowers or tables or heard a note of the band. Photographer was an absolute standout, though.

[Anonymous]

We spent a ridiculous amount on our wedding (upwards of $70K) and still it wasn't perfect. We had a close family member die before the wedding, several others who were in poor health and couldn't attend. We had issues with the flowers and the florist not really grasping what I had wanted. We were planning from out-of-town and even with a planner, something got lost in translation. The flowers also wilted on the way to the venue. We had a few other minor issues..or what now is minor but then seemed like a catastrophe. I think most weddings don't go completely as planned as there are too many moving parts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a wedding where the bride's grandmother literally dropped dead in the middle of the dance floor.

Alright, I think we have hit bottom and can shut the thread down. Wow. Doesn't get much worse than that.

It was so awful. She just fell over backwards like a tree, right on the dance floor. One of the guests had EMT training but she was unrevivable. They had all the guests go out into the foyer hall of the facility, and closed the doors until ambulance came and took her away.

I feel so had for the couple... I'm sure every wedding anniversary has a tinge of sadness due to Grandma's death, and every time someone brings up weddings in general.

OMG_ at least she died having a good time. But oh my- I do feel bad but your post hit a funny nerve

[Anonymous]

Married 25 years ago and I can't remember being nervous about wedding planning- it was a nice wedding but I wasn't looking for "perfect". Now there are TV shows, social media, etc. that put so much pressure on couples getting married.