No One’s Coming

[Anonymous]

This what I realized in the fall. If you have a misfortune of living in a school district not interested in reopening, there is no one to help you. They will carry on, finding new justifications for why they can’t reopen. Bottom line: they don’t care about your or your kids’ mental health.
So it’s time to take matters into our own hands. I don’t mean protests, there’s no momentum etc.
I mean we are each responsible for our own well-being.
Find families that understand that outdoor socializing of asymptomatic kids is low risk, heck, even indoors is not terribly dangerous. My kid is super selective in friendships and it was hard but we found a family plus he has cousins across the country who we visit every several months.
Find ways for your kids to learn. I have no money or space for a tutor so I teach him myself as much as I can. Some things I let go (so much junk taught at school).
Getting angry and staying angry at those who don’t reopen schools is not productive.
It’s time for us to stop following guidelines blindly without regard for our kids’ mental health and find ways to balance risk and self-care.
Thank you for listening. Just wanted to get it out there. Not looking to argue - but maybe someone reluctant will read this and know what to do.

[Anonymous]

Also reopening won’t solve all problems: lack of teachers, getting rid of any little differentiation there was, kids coming back that received 0 schooling this past year vs kids who had individualized instruction at home...
we are in it for the long haul. I feel very sad as someone who doesn’t have money for private.

[Anonymous]

Where are your kids in school that they have had no instruction the past year?

Mine have been doing distance learning but have been receiving a TON of instruction. My daughter is doing her homework right now. She has to write a research paper, do two pages of math problems, and put together a group presentation for her Spanish class. She's CONSTANTLY working.

And why are you waiting for schools to return in person to get your kids into outdoor activities? That's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

This pandemic is going to encroach on normal living for at least two years. I’m not considering consistent in person education to be a viable option even in private for at least another year.

[Anonymous]

How ‘good’ parenting can make for ‘bad’ democracy
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/education/2020/10/13/how-good-parenting-can-make-bad-democracy/%3foutputType=amp

“ Like all of us, they’ve internalized a democracy-corroding narrative: Parents alone bear the risk of educational failure. The state will not be arriving to help. And when parents use race and wealth to navigate their risk, it’s the best of parenting — democracy and equality be damned.”

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of cool things online that you can tailor to your kid’s interest. My dc likes drawings so we have found a bunch of drawing tutorials on youtube. Same with history.
Not saying it is a substitute in any way for school, but something to help them stay interested and engaged.

[Anonymous]

Uh, if you visit cousins across the country every few months you're part of the problem, not the solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How ‘good’ parenting can make for ‘bad’ democracy
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/education/2020/10/13/how-good-parenting-can-make-bad-democracy/%3foutputType=amp

“ Like all of us, they’ve internalized a democracy-corroding narrative: Parents alone bear the risk of educational failure. The state will not be arriving to help. And when parents use race and wealth to navigate their risk, it’s the best of parenting — democracy and equality be damned.”

The pandemic did not create this dynamic. Reality of raising children in America did. The pandemic only exaggerated it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where are your kids in school that they have had no instruction the past year?

Mine have been doing distance learning but have been receiving a TON of instruction. My daughter is doing her homework right now. She has to write a research paper, do two pages of math problems, and put together a group presentation for her Spanish class. She's CONSTANTLY working.

And why are you waiting for schools to return in person to get your kids into outdoor activities? That's ridiculous.

Perhaps. But I notice you did not say she is learning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How ‘good’ parenting can make for ‘bad’ democracy
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/education/2020/10/13/how-good-parenting-can-make-bad-democracy/%3foutputType=amp

“ Like all of us, they’ve internalized a democracy-corroding narrative: Parents alone bear the risk of educational failure. The state will not be arriving to help. And when parents use race and wealth to navigate their risk, it’s the best of parenting — democracy and equality be damned.”

The pandemic did not create this dynamic. Reality of raising children in America did. The pandemic only exaggerated it.

Parents expect to hand off their kids to school and let schools do the real parenting. Now parents actually have to do it and they aren't prepared. Schools should offer parenting classes.

[Anonymous]

You are looking for ways to spread the virus.

First you wanted schools to open no matter what.

Now you advise everyone to socialize outdoors, without masks, presumably.

Stop it. You and people like you are the reason so many people have died and will continue to die. Soon we'll reach HALF A MILLION DEAD AMERICANS.

Stop it, OP.

[Anonymous]

No surprise the trolls are out to shame you for making necessary choices for your child. Questioning your complaints about DL is gaslighting at its finest. Maybe it's awesome for some of you people, but most of us have been pretty disappointed.

OP, good for you for taking matters into your own hands and finding a way to help out your kid. That's good parenting. You won't regret it, I'm sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How ‘good’ parenting can make for ‘bad’ democracy
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/education/2020/10/13/how-good-parenting-can-make-bad-democracy/%3foutputType=amp

“ Like all of us, they’ve internalized a democracy-corroding narrative: Parents alone bear the risk of educational failure. The state will not be arriving to help. And when parents use race and wealth to navigate their risk, it’s the best of parenting — democracy and equality be damned.”

The pandemic did not create this dynamic. Reality of raising children in America did. The pandemic only exaggerated it.

Parents expect to hand off their kids to school and let schools do the real parenting. Now parents actually have to do it and they aren't prepared. Schools should offer parenting classes.

My issue isn’t parenting. It’s no in person school from 9-4 during the school year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No surprise the trolls are out to shame you for making necessary choices for your child. Questioning your complaints about DL is gaslighting at its finest. Maybe it's awesome for some of you people, but most of us have been pretty disappointed.

OP, good for you for taking matters into your own hands and finding a way to help out your kid. That's good parenting. You won't regret it, I'm sure.

We wouldn't have a problem with her screed if she hadn't specifically described at-risk activities. So she's a troll, and she's being treated as one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where are your kids in school that they have had no instruction the past year?

Mine have been doing distance learning but have been receiving a TON of instruction. My daughter is doing her homework right now. She has to write a research paper, do two pages of math problems, and put together a group presentation for her Spanish class. She's CONSTANTLY working.

And why are you waiting for schools to return in person to get your kids into outdoor activities? That's ridiculous.

I am not talking about my kid, but about several million kids who just went off the radar for schools. He is in outdoor activities but I am talking about socialization. In activities they don't talk much amongst themselves.