Do you ever stop to think about what you say? |
How about you hand out with them instead? |
Op here. It has more to do with me. I am tired of being the school and the extended day activities for my kid. Ok? This is just part of the problem though because my kid needs to be somewhere where he doesn’t have an option to whine for electronics. I can’t take him out every day ok? |
OP - I hear you and agree completely. I’m exhausted and burned out. So many moms feel the same way you do that the New York Times just published a series on how we are being impacted by the pandemic. Hang in there. |
OP here: I think it’s time to reiterate my initial message. I hear people saying “why can’t school organize an outdoor masked event”. The whole point is that NOBODY cares about your child’s well-being except you. Certain activities or schools are interested because they want to make money off your kids. And there’s nothing wrong with it - that’s why we have certain things still open. Paid activities and maybe even fun stuff.
Public institutions that are heavily subsidized still get money even though they are either closed or virtual. They don’t care your kids don’t get to choose books at the library or learn to swim without paying an arm and a leg. Nobody is there to save you. You have to either pay a lot of money or stay home or be your child’s coach, teacher, and organizer of social events. I am taking the latter route to the extent possible but it’s burning me out big time, and I am breaking rules because the kid travels, sees friends indoors, etc. |
So you are just bad at making your point, whatever it is. That much is obvious. |
1. I don't know why you're so hung up on snow sports, which are mostly inaccessible and expensive. 2. It sounds like you think that it is safe for teens to hang out in groups together. Is that an accurate interpretation? |
developmentally inappropriate for teens to spend the majority of time with their parents. but it seems like you have no idea what is developmentally inappropriate if you think a good lesson for your daughter is to learn to call and complain about the new bath and bodyworks scent. |
I'm not hung up on snow sports, but I anticipate that if I say kids can go out for a hike, you will whine that there's SNOW ON THE PATHS, so I am suggesting in that case, maybe rent some skis or snowshoes or something. Mostly though there isn't any snow around where we live. So hiking would be fine. Yes, I believe if kids and teens are wearing masks and are outdoors, it is considered safe BY THE CDC for them to be social outdoors together. You know, the same CDC that says it is safe for them to be indoors in a school together. Absolutely. |
That doesn't seem like an important thing to complain about. So I wouldn't encourage my child to do something like that. I think those kinds of complaints are petty and unreasonable. But I do think it is important for teens to get skill using the telephone. I saw this with my son was he was working towards his Eagle Scout award, and also, later, applying for internships and college. There were a lot of phone calls he needed to make, and he just didn't have ANY practice doing it in early high school. I have asked around and found that most teens just don't use the phone anymore, and truly prefer to text. That's fine. But when they need to interact with older adults, they do still need to use the phone. So, one thing I am doing with my younger child is encouraging her to make more phone calls herself. I wouldn't have her do it just to be a brat about something though. But there are times when calling customer service gets much better results than sending in a computer form. I think learning when to do that is an important life skill. I agree that developmentally, teens should be doing things out in the world, and hopefully with their friends. But, pandemic. It just isn't happening right now. So.. I suggest for their own mental health, it would be a good idea to get them thinking more about how they can be useful to the family. It's the perfect time for it, because they don't have a lot of other distractions. |
Mom McChores is really doubling down on the "a coat of varnish is just as good as a friend" thing, I see. How weird. |
So, basically you don't enjoy being a parent as that's what parents do. |
You can pick and choose what you want to believe and what is ok, but then stop complaining about schools closed. |
I knew you would use this tired argument. If I don’t want to work 18 hr days, does it mean I don’t like my job? If I don’t enjoy doing something I am overqualified for but can’t outsource, do I hate my job? |
Being a parent is not equal to your list and it’s what you choose when you choose to have kids. |