No One’s Coming

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How ‘good’ parenting can make for ‘bad’ democracy
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/education/2020/10/13/how-good-parenting-can-make-bad-democracy/%3foutputType=amp

“ Like all of us, they’ve internalized a democracy-corroding narrative: Parents alone bear the risk of educational failure. The state will not be arriving to help. And when parents use race and wealth to navigate their risk, it’s the best of parenting — democracy and equality be damned.”

I am not making other kids' lives worse. I am making my kid's life better as much as I can, at no expense of others. The article is eyeroll inducing to the max.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of cool things online that you can tailor to your kid’s interest. My dc likes drawings so we have found a bunch of drawing tutorials on youtube. Same with history.
Not saying it is a substitute in any way for school, but something to help them stay interested and engaged.

OP here: we do this too, but it's not enough. Not enough time being outside, and not enough socialization that is not structured.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How ‘good’ parenting can make for ‘bad’ democracy
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/education/2020/10/13/how-good-parenting-can-make-bad-democracy/%3foutputType=amp

“ Like all of us, they’ve internalized a democracy-corroding narrative: Parents alone bear the risk of educational failure. The state will not be arriving to help. And when parents use race and wealth to navigate their risk, it’s the best of parenting — democracy and equality be damned.”

The pandemic did not create this dynamic. Reality of raising children in America did. The pandemic only exaggerated it.

Parents expect to hand off their kids to school and let schools do the real parenting. Now parents actually have to do it and they aren't prepared. Schools should offer parenting classes.

My issue isn’t parenting. It’s no in person school from 9-4 during the school year.

Yes, so now you have to parent your child from 9-4 instead of free child care. That is parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of cool things online that you can tailor to your kid’s interest. My dc likes drawings so we have found a bunch of drawing tutorials on youtube. Same with history.
Not saying it is a substitute in any way for school, but something to help them stay interested and engaged.

OP here: we do this too, but it's not enough. Not enough time being outside, and not enough socialization that is not structured.

I agree with you. Just wanted to make a couple of suggestions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of cool things online that you can tailor to your kid’s interest. My dc likes drawings so we have found a bunch of drawing tutorials on youtube. Same with history.
Not saying it is a substitute in any way for school, but something to help them stay interested and engaged.

OP here: we do this too, but it's not enough. Not enough time being outside, and not enough socialization that is not structured.

Take your kid out for a walk or bike ride or hike or even a drive. Spend time with them. I don't get all the complaining. Mine don't have much down time between school. activities (mainly online) and socializing via chat and online gaming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uh, if you visit cousins across the country every few months you're part of the problem, not the solution.

The planes are flying, the tickets are sold, the airports are open. The rest is just another mind game disregarding mental health of many people. The pandemic is driven by people living in multigenerational housing, socializing in huge groups inside, etc. Not a family of 2 flying to see a family of 4 after getting tested and quarantining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of cool things online that you can tailor to your kid’s interest. My dc likes drawings so we have found a bunch of drawing tutorials on youtube. Same with history.
Not saying it is a substitute in any way for school, but something to help them stay interested and engaged.

OP here: we do this too, but it's not enough. Not enough time being outside, and not enough socialization that is not structured.

I agree with you. Just wanted to make a couple of suggestions.

thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of cool things online that you can tailor to your kid’s interest. My dc likes drawings so we have found a bunch of drawing tutorials on youtube. Same with history.
Not saying it is a substitute in any way for school, but something to help them stay interested and engaged.

OP here: we do this too, but it's not enough. Not enough time being outside, and not enough socialization that is not structured.

Take your kid out for a walk or bike ride or hike or even a drive. Spend time with them. I don't get all the complaining. Mine don't have much down time between school. activities (mainly online) and socializing via chat and online gaming.

Oh I do that already. It's not enough. I am not a substitute for his peers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your child is struggling with mental health, its not just about the schools being open. You are being dramatic. If your child attends class and does the work, they are learning. Its not their job to be everything to your child and you need to start parenting. You socializing is part of why we cannot open.

Huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How ‘good’ parenting can make for ‘bad’ democracy
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/education/2020/10/13/how-good-parenting-can-make-bad-democracy/%3foutputType=amp

“ Like all of us, they’ve internalized a democracy-corroding narrative: Parents alone bear the risk of educational failure. The state will not be arriving to help. And when parents use race and wealth to navigate their risk, it’s the best of parenting — democracy and equality be damned.”

The pandemic did not create this dynamic. Reality of raising children in America did. The pandemic only exaggerated it.

Parents expect to hand off their kids to school and let schools do the real parenting. Now parents actually have to do it and they aren't prepared. Schools should offer parenting classes.

My issue isn’t parenting. It’s no in person school from 9-4 during the school year.

Yes, so now you have to parent your child from 9-4 instead of free child care. That is parenting.

I have to supervise, and regularly engage in, schooling from 9-4- that’s called teaching

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You are looking for ways to spread the virus.

First you wanted schools to open no matter what.

Now you advise everyone to socialize outdoors, without masks, presumably.

Stop it. You and people like you are the reason so many people have died and will continue to die. Soon we'll reach HALF A MILLION DEAD AMERICANS.

Stop it, OP.

People like you are the reason there are so many mental health related problems since the pandemic began, including deaths.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No surprise the trolls are out to shame you for making necessary choices for your child. Questioning your complaints about DL is gaslighting at its finest. Maybe it's awesome for some of you people, but most of us have been pretty disappointed.

OP, good for you for taking matters into your own hands and finding a way to help out your kid. That's good parenting. You won't regret it, I'm sure.

Thank you so much! All the best to you as well. Maybe more people will start thinking critically instead of just going along with the official line of thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where are your kids in school that they have had no instruction the past year?

Mine have been doing distance learning but have been receiving a TON of instruction. My daughter is doing her homework right now. She has to write a research paper, do two pages of math problems, and put together a group presentation for her Spanish class. She's CONSTANTLY working.

And why are you waiting for schools to return in person to get your kids into outdoor activities? That's ridiculous.

I am not talking about my kid, but about several million kids who just went off the radar for schools. He is in outdoor activities but I am talking about socialization. In activities they don't talk much amongst themselves.

Then, find different activities. Ours are very social.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your child is struggling with mental health, its not just about the schools being open. You are being dramatic. If your child attends class and does the work, they are learning. Its not their job to be everything to your child and you need to start parenting. You socializing is part of why we cannot open.

That’s not what my pediatrician thinks. She said there’s a massive uptick in juvenile mental health issues. And she told me this with no prompting (my kids are in private school with in person instruction).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No surprise the trolls are out to shame you for making necessary choices for your child. Questioning your complaints about DL is gaslighting at its finest. Maybe it's awesome for some of you people, but most of us have been pretty disappointed.

OP, good for you for taking matters into your own hands and finding a way to help out your kid. That's good parenting. You won't regret it, I'm sure.

We wouldn't have a problem with her screed if she hadn't specifically described at-risk activities. So she's a troll, and she's being treated as one.

How am I a troll? What I am saying is that no one cares about your mental health. You have to sometimes take some risks in the name of balance. It was ok to not socialize for a month, but not for a year.