Just for the record, Chores McMom isn’t the person arguing OP doesn’t want to parent! |
I really don’t understand the argument that parents are making about how their children “need to see their friends” so schools should open. It’s like people have blinders on and refuse to acknowledge that isolation is literally the only way to control the spread of the virus. Of course your children are isolated. If they aren’t, you’re not doing it right. Does it suck? Yes. Does dying alone gasping for air on a ventilator also suck? Yes.
Further, if you really think it’s safe for groups of people to gather together, nothing is stopping you from allowing your child to hang out with their friends. Nothing. It doesn’t mean we need to endanger thousands of people who actually care about mitigation and preventing the spread of the new variants (and further mutation of the virus). Do people not understand that we could wind up with vaccine resistant strains and prolong the pandemic by YEARS by refusing to comply with social distancing? I’m so sick of living this way because some people refuse to make ANY sacrifices. |
Yeah, you need to take it down a notch. |
We have our daughter in soccer which is still playing. There is horseback riding and teens can safely get together. Find a family to bubble with who have kids.
It’s not mentally healthy or sustainable to be without peers for over a year. |
Online sports are not worth it. We have sports happening in Maryland. I don’t know what hard outside soccer has on anyone COVID wise.
My kids have been in private schools which have been open with some sports all year. I think people can find these activities. They may not be cheap anymore. |
No, I didn't choose to be cooped up with my 10 yo 24/7. Kids were going to school when I was pregnant, you know? Anyway, your arguments are stupid. Good bye. |
I don't know what other people's situation is but for me, I am not really friends with any of the parents in my kid's class. For one reason or another he is not invited for playdates. I have invited two of his friends. One just never reciprocated, the other's mom said she would get back to me and never did. I am not going to try again, I just don't have the energy. At school they were seeing each other naturally, I didn't have to do anything. same with aftercare. |
You are right, not cheap. My kid is in 2 activities. I don't have money for more of them. |
Yeah, literally most of the parents here were talking about how their children were making great sacrifices in a critical period of their lives. Children as a whole are giving up the most during the pandemic. These are documented and increasing harms. At some point, you have to consider whether responsible adults should be making potential sacrifices in support of the actual sacrifices of children, who lack agency here. |
yeah i know people here are super protective of adult lives in one profession, but we have knowledge of the health outcomes for children with lower educational attainment. Lower education is a significant factor in a reduced lifespan. this is know. probably this won't be your child, but i encourage you to think outside of yourselves. it is time to compare the ongoing and increasing actual harm to a generation of children versus the potential for harm to a small number of adults. a moral thinker will come down on the side of those experiencing actual, accumulated harm. or, said another way, if you don't come down on the side of the children, you're not thinking morally. |
like i don't know how there are so many people who have children, and who can only look at present harm and not clear evidence of greater future harm. the moral calculus here is...ugh...i worry for our future.
i say this as someone who doesn't even have a child, but who cares deeply about education and evidence, and data-driven best practices. |
this is the reason we haven't grappled with climate change--we have such a difficult time placing value on future outcomes relative to present sacrifices. |
You don’t get to ask other adults to sacrifice for your children. That’s outrageous. You’re free to sacrifice whatever you want for them. I’m not going to sacrifice my own health and abandon my children for yours. Dream on. |
Are you a teacher, PP?
If so - know that millions of women have given up jobs and career advancement to stay at home to help their children. Millions. We are, as women, employed at rates now from the 1970s. So, if you are a teacher and refuse to work IN PERSON - QUIT. Stop collecting your pay other and benefits. And stop the drama of “you are sacrificing” if you have to be in person. Are you a smoker, obese or above 65? Move on. |
I mean this is true. I’m a joiner and starter and a organizer and a PTA Exec board member at times. I definitely understand that if you want something, you often gotta do it yourself. |