Uneven Inheritance

[Anonymous]

My parents just outlined who will receive what between my brother and I

My brother is set to inherit grandmothers house in SC
In addition to 100K which was passed down to him directly from his grandfather (totally understandable)

My parents will spilt their home 50/50 between myself and him
And and other assets


I’m just venting I guess, because I’m hurt that they wouldn’t have done something around the lines of 70/30
To make up for the fact, I would not receive anything from either grandparents


It hurts because my brother is a careless person and I know that I’ll be the person caring for them when they get older


How do I just let this go and focus on my family?

[Anonymous]

I would tell them that you're hurt, and you hope that they realize how it feels to be on the receiving end of such an unequal distribution. But realize that they probably had nothing to do with the grandparents' distributions, and wanted to keep it as fair as possible themselves. Then try to let it go and move on.

[Anonymous]

Why did you receive nothing from your grandparents while your brother received south?

[Anonymous]

Can you explain what’s going on with the grandparents? What do you mean “his grandfather”?

[Anonymous]

Your inheritance from your parents has nothing to do with your grandparents.

[Anonymous]

why won't you get anything from grandparents? Did they die before you were born (but he was)? Or is this a step/half siblings thing?

In either case, I think it might be nice if it were more fair, but not sure you can do anything about it, so just let it go.

[Anonymous]

Why didn't your grandparents give you anything?

[Anonymous]

Do you have a different set of grandparents?

I'd let this go OP, your parents are treating you and your brother equally with the estate they control, their own.

[Anonymous]

I am confused.

Are you half siblings?

Or full siblings and your grandparents favored your sibling?

Did the grandparents make this decision, perhaps by putting it in trust, with your parents as the inheritors and then your sibling as the remainderman?

[Anonymous]

NOW is the time to say something, OP. It might not change what they do, but at least you'll have said your piece. Otherwise you'll stew for a long time.

My mother and siblings spent 25 years in an inheritance lawsuit. It split the family apart. Some cousins don't talk to me, because I'm my mother's daughter. All this because my grandfather circumvented the law (in another country) to bestow most of his fortune on his sole male heir, and not on any of his daughters.

I've learned from this that I will split my money equally.

[Anonymous]

What is the background? Is he taking care of the grandparents and you are not? Or, are these your grandparents or do you have different grandparents?

[Anonymous]

Same mother side
Different fathers
Yes I understand grandfather

I was born before brother about 4 years and my grandfather knew me since that time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
NOW is the time to say something, OP. It might not change what they do, but at least you'll have said your piece. Otherwise you'll stew for a long time.

My mother and siblings spent 25 years in an inheritance lawsuit. It split the family apart. Some cousins don't talk to me, because I'm my mother's daughter. All this because my grandfather circumvented the law (in another country) to bestow most of his fortune on his sole male heir, and not on any of his daughters.

I've learned from this that I will split my money equally.

That is exactly what OP’s parents plan to do.

[Anonymous]

Grandfather = fathers side
Grandmother = mothers side

[Anonymous]

Guess I’m just hurt because he’s careless and I look after my parents now

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