Uneven Inheritance

[Anonymous]

The title is misleading. The inheritance is not uneven - OP said so in her post.

The inheritance from her grandmother is one-sided - her brother got the house, and she apparently got nothing. The inheritance from her brother's grandfather, who bears no relationship to her, is completely irrelevant. I think the grandmother's inheritance is irrelevant too

OP is mad because (i) her brother is "careless," whatever that means, and (ii) she is going caregiving and he isn't. The second issue can be addressed with her parents now.

[Anonymous]

Op what did your grandparents leave you? Step grandparents are not the same

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I want my parents to put into perspective that I’m the one that’s currently taking care of them and doing their errands and doctors appts always have family dinners, order their groceries , things of this nature

And knowing how careless my brother is he won’t be looking after them or putting their needs first as they age


Plus that since he’s set to receive a house and lump sum.
By them evening out the distribution of their assets it’ll feel some what fair to me

Np But to get your inheritance don't you have to be dead? So, the parents are dead you get the inheritance so there is no one to "care for?" What am I missing??

OP, like many women, will spend year caring for her parents in their old age and then when they die she will receive the same as her brother who has done jack.

Yup. This has been my situation. And yes, it affected my career. My parents still divide their assets equally among us but they have sizable assets so they helps me feel like the fact I am not getting directly compensated is kind of ok. I would probably feel differently if I was barely hanging on financially and my parents had less to divide.

Op, your reasoning is not quite appropriate. Your half sibling inherited assets from his grandparent who is not your grandparent. Your parents are splitting their estate equally. They should not have to give you more to make up for his grandparents’ inheritance.

Now, if you are doing more work for them than your brother and that is affecting your earning ability, I do sort of see your point. It’s hard to know how to rectify that without knowing more about you and your parents finances. For example, if you are broke partly because you spend a lot of time caring for them and it has affected your career, and your parents have lots of money, perhaps they could compensate you an hourly rate or something. Or gift you money each year to make up for it. But if you are still able to work full time, that’s a harder argument to make. It’s a slippery slope to figure out how to compensate family caregivers.

I can't take it anymore. PP, and all you other pretentious nincompoops before this, the verb is "give."

Nope. You’re the nincompoop. “Gift” is used as a verb by estate tax attorneys all day long. It’s because using the word “gift” makes it explicitly clear what kind of tax treatment the money will have vs. “gave,” which could mean anything “gave it as a loan,” “gave it as a gift,” “gave it as repayment,” and so on.

There’s actually fairly high level of education on this board. I don’t see “gift” being used on this board outside of financial posts, which means it’s being used correctly, you nincompoop.