Guy disappeared after death
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Anonymous
| I’ve been dating a guy for 6 weeks. We have a lot in common. We typically talk or text daily. Recently I hadn’t heard from him in 3 days, which is unusual so I assumed he was ghosting me. I sent him a text about it, and said his sister died unexpectedly and he wasn’t ready to talk about it. A few days later he said he would give me a call that evening but never did. I feel like I should be done with him, am I jumping the gun? I enjoyed his company prior to his sister passing, but feel like he should’ve communicated about it. Not necessarily tons of detail but just a text saying he had a family death and needs some time. I also don’t like that he said he would call and didnt. We’ve had one phone call since his sister died and he sounded horrible like he’d been crying all day. Am I being unreasonable here? |
Anonymous
| Yes you are completely and totally unreasonable. He lost his sister. If you've never lost a sibling, you cannot even imagine the pain of it. You are making this about you and placing expectations on him. You are wrong. |
Anonymous
| I would send a text, just ONE, tomorrow. "I'm so sorry, and I'm thinking of you and your family. No need to respond." And then leave it. You will be doing him a kindness to simply let hi, pff the hook. |
Anonymous
| Yes. You’re actually ridiculous. He just lost his sister - he has many things to worry about than someone he has only been dating for 6 weeks. I think he is going through things and you need to give him space. I would either leave him alone or send him a text letting him know how sorry you are for his loss and that you’re here for him if he ever needs to talk. Then let him have his space to grieve and sort things out. He will get in touch when he’s ready. |
Anonymous
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I e had several people very close and important to me die during my life, parents, cousins, friends, and I’ve always enjoyed the company of whatever girlfriend I was seeing at the time (I’m divorced so didn’t have a spouse during most of these deaths).
I would think this guy would want the comfort of this new girlfriend but people are all different. He could be using it as an excuse to break up with you. |
Anonymous
| Guys, this is a troll for sure. |
Anonymous
| You are incredibly off-base and are acting immaturely. Drop all expectations. |
Anonymous
| I say do this guy a favor and never contact him again. He just lost his sister and all you can think about is being upset he didn’t tell you. It’s been 6 weeks. He doesn’t have to tell you anything. Upset that he didn’t call? Someone died. Sorry you’re too self-centered to realize his life doesn’t revolve around you. Let him find a more compassionate and supportive woman. |
Anonymous
Agree. There have been a lot of weird relationship posts lately that all have some weird "but what should I do?!??" Undertone |
Anonymous
| It takes a special type of jerk to turn someone's else's loss into their own needs. |
Anonymous
+1. Do this man a favor and find someone else who will put up with your ego. |
Anonymous
| Im confused OP, are you actually annoyed that on your one phone call it sounded like he had been crying?!? |
Anonymous
| He's lying about his sister's death. He doesn't want a relationship with you. |
Anonymous
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Move on, OP. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, just move on.
He’s a horrible human being because his sister that he’s known his whole life has died, probably suddenly, but he can’t find time to pay attention to all important y8, that he has known a whole 6 weeks. He’s not communicating openly or freely, and dammit, what are you supposed to do in your whole entire life while you’re bored and lonely? I mean, crying all day and sounding like it when he called you? What a beta! |
Anonymous
I agree. We need some good threads, though. I hate when the trolling is obvious. |