Guy disappeared after death

[Anonymous]

In college I had a job at Chili’s that I hated. I told my supervisor I had to quit because my brother had leukemia. I don’t have a brother.

[Anonymous]

OP agree. I am not a troll. I was not expecting a ton of communication from him. Just a quick text to say he lost a family
Member and needed time. Everyone grieves differently. I just think it’s off that he didn’t communicate at all. And I had to reach out to him 3 days later when we communicate multiple times a day daily typically. I wasn’t even asking for a call. Just a two sentence text.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP agree. I am not a troll. I was not expecting a ton of communication from him. Just a quick text to say he lost a family
Member and needed time. Everyone grieves differently. I just think it’s off that he didn’t communicate at all. And I had to reach out to him 3 days later when we communicate multiple times a day daily typically. I wasn’t even asking for a call. Just a two sentence text.

Well, excuse him for you not being his first thought when his sister died. You're asking too much from a man you have only known for 6 weeks. He doesn't owe you anything. Stop being so entitled and self-centered.

[Anonymous]

OP, sorry people are being so harsh.

I was dating a guy for a similar amount of time when I had to deal with an unexpected death in the family (plus I lost my job). I wasn't that into him, so I sent a text letting him know what happened and then ghosted him.

Had I been into him, I would have communicated more. But I wasn't into him, so it was easier to just ghost and move on.

I'd say start moving on with your life. Don't feel like you need to wait around for him. Get back on the dating sites and start seeing people.

[Anonymous]

Are you even exclusive??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a guy for 6 weeks. We have a lot in common. We typically talk or text daily. Recently I hadn’t heard from him in 3 days, which is unusual so I assumed he was ghosting me. I sent him a text about it, and said his sister died unexpectedly and he wasn’t ready to talk about it. A few days later he said he would give me a call that evening but never did. I feel like I should be done with him, am I jumping the gun? I enjoyed his company prior to his sister passing, but feel like he should’ve communicated about it. Not necessarily tons of detail but just a text saying he had a family death and needs some time. I also don’t like that he said he would call and didnt. We’ve had one phone call since his sister died and he sounded horrible like he’d been crying all day. Am I being unreasonable here?

You two don't have anything common on important issue.

[Anonymous]

OP, I was on your side at first. I lost my dad earlier this year, and had just started seeing someone new at the time, I told him what was up, and I disappeared at the time, for a few weeks actually, just couldn't talk even though I wanted to, he was pretty understanding, and he checked in on me from time to time without being pushy , it's one of the reasons we're still together.

Where you lost me is being upset that he sounded like he had been crying. That's just a bit over the top.


So no, I don't think a text saying he lost his sister is too much but and here's the big thing it's possible he's just not as serious about you as you are him and therefore didn't say anything which is okay too , you know what's up now.


Or he may be and this is how he grieves, which is also good to know.

You two just aren't compatible right now and that's okay doesn't make either of you bad people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Guys, this is a troll for sure.

Agree. There have been a lot of weird relationship posts lately that all have some weird "but what should I do?!??" Undertone

I agree. We need some good threads, though. I hate when the trolling is obvious.

All of them have been boring lately. Maybe we should make up a game story about a relationship drama? Each poster writes 3 full sentences. You have to build on and connect to the previous post so the story makes sense.

OP, if you’re not a troll, you’re being anxious and needy. Sounds like the timing might be off for a love connection. Be kind and thoughtful, maybe he will circle back. But don’t take it personal if you never hear from him again.

[Anonymous]

Seperate Ly, could you snoop if you know where the sister is etc. there must be an obituary somewhere... assume it is not a troll post but I find it weird that he didn’t even announce the death until asked. Something is off.

[Anonymous]

You’ve been together since the middle of October and you are upset because you haven’t heard from him for three whole days AND he lost a sibling? Have you ever lost someone close to you suddenly? You wouldn’t even be on my top three people to call after suffering a tragedy. He’s dealing with parents, funeral arrangements etc. You should send him a card and back off. He may come back, he may not, but you are practically a stranger to him after only a month an a half.

[Anonymous]

Did you check the obituaries? Some men will come up with the most appalling excuses..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In college I had a job at Chili’s that I hated. I told my supervisor I had to quit because my brother had leukemia. I don’t have a brother.

That's disgusting!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes you are completely and totally unreasonable. He lost his sister. If you've never lost a sibling, you cannot even imagine the pain of it. You are making this about you and placing expectations on him. You are wrong.

This!!! I divorced my husband because he a feud like you are acting when my sister died. He should dump you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys, this is a troll for sure.

Agree. There have been a lot of weird relationship posts lately that all have some weird "but what should I do?!??" Undertone

I agree. We need some good threads, though. I hate when the trolling is obvious.

All of them have been boring lately. Maybe we should make up a game story about a relationship drama? Each poster writes 3 full sentences. You have to build on and connect to the previous post so the story makes sense.

OP, if you’re not a troll, you’re being anxious and needy. Sounds like the timing might be off for a love connection. Be kind and thoughtful, maybe he will circle back. But don’t take it personal if you never hear from him again.

Make it happen!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a guy for 6 weeks. We have a lot in common. We typically talk or text daily. Recently I hadn’t heard from him in 3 days, which is unusual so I assumed he was ghosting me. I sent him a text about it, and said his sister died unexpectedly and he wasn’t ready to talk about it. A few days later he said he would give me a call that evening but never did. I feel like I should be done with him, am I jumping the gun? I enjoyed his company prior to his sister passing, but feel like he should’ve communicated about it. Not necessarily tons of detail but just a text saying he had a family death and needs some time. I also don’t like that he said he would call and didnt. We’ve had one phone call since his sister died and he sounded horrible like he’d been crying all day. Am I being unreasonable here?

Yes. His sister died and all you are thinking about is yourself. You are being unreasonable, and selfish.