Dating A " God Fearing" Person
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Anonymous
| I met a new guy that I really like but he is a newfound god fearing person. I never grew up religious but my parents were raised catholic. I believe in god, but I have no interest in taking up a religion. He was raised catholic, abandoned that faith as he grew up, and is now religious again. He is not into going to church but he believes in having a relationship with god, doing your best in every situation, treating everyone with love and kindness because we are all gods children, etc. I'm sure I'm not fully representing it well. He said he was living a life that didn't make him proud ( nothing criminal - partying and sleeping around, etc.) and he wanted to change to be a better man. He looked to god to lead him in the right direction, and felt he wasn't doing right by god, etc. I respect his choice to include god in his life. I'm not interested in that lifestyle though. |
Anonymous
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If you aren't interested in the lifestyle, let it go. The strongest men of God demonstrate it in their work, not their words. Actually sometimes I think it is a red flag, they may have issues with power and control if they are misinterpreting the bible or not connected with a good ministry for teaching/leadership.
He identified a problem through self-reflection. I would be curious to know if there was something that was the final straw that broke the camel's back. It is great that his response is self-improvement. The hesitation is around his leading with this; the timing seems too new. My concern is around him leading with this in introductory conversations, that it is an adjustment for him in his approach to how he prioritizes his life and he hasn't figured it out yet (even if the change is good). Add that to you not being interested and it is something that I wouldn't push unless there was something so amazing and convincing otherwise that it is worth fizzling out from possible scenarios exampled above. |
Anonymous
| It doesn’t really sound like you are compatible. He is probably going to join a church sooner or later. |
Anonymous
| You're not compatible. |
Anonymous
| I'm pretty sure you posted about this guy before, my answer is the same when it comes down to it your values are different. Stop trying to be the square peg that fits the round hole. |
Anonymous
| Break it off, obviously. |
Anonymous
| He sounds like, gasp, a good person. |
Anonymous
| No. Move on. |
Anonymous
| Religion, sex and money—being incompatible in your values and approach in any of these areas is a recipe for disaster. |
Anonymous
| As my mom always said, why before it again if you can just grow up the first time. |
Anonymous
Auto correct should be “born again” not “ before it“ |
Anonymous
| It doesn’t necessarily have to be an issue but if he’s not plugged into a church that isn’t all cult-like, he is at risk of getting sucked in. Some churches out there are c-r-a-z-y and would be super offensive to me (no leadership roles for women, their marriage “counseling” is basically just telling women to endure whatever because “sanctity” of marriage, teaching traditional gender roles to kids, political homogeneity, etc.). I am a Christian but I would be wary of someone who hasn’t found their place and community. There are lots of great Christian communities but also some that are NOT for me - and likely not for you given your post. |
Anonymous
| He’s ahead of the game. Most people are lost until they are on their deathbed. Then it’s like all sincere, deep and stuff |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't. Simply because I don't believe in fearing god. |
Anonymous
Not really. It sounds like something he’s trying out and isn’t super committed to. How long was he sleeping around? How long has been a man if his? Religion probably feels familiar because of his upbringing, so that’s an easy outlet. Yet, he’s not committed enough to go to Church. It sounds like religion is the new flavor of the week. |