Boyfriend doesn't want to renew lease

[Anonymous]

Long story short, we are both on the lease, I cannot afford this on my own.
Money was ok when we moved in, I had savings
Then covid hit and initially I got some more pay. I couldn't take the stress and went back to my old job that paid less, but had a promise of advancement. This hasn't materialized. I want to go back to school and study part time, which means not much change financially for the duration.
He is very irritated that I do not pay my way. I want to, but my pay just doesn't go far enough.
Now he is talking about not renewing the lease.

[Anonymous]

Yes, not being able to handle financial commitments is a huge red flag when dating. If your boyfriend is paying any of your bills because you’ve not budgeted appropriately, then he’s right to move out and end the relationship.

Perhaps you should be looking for a housing arrangement that you can afford, with roommates to share the cost of rent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, not being able to handle financial commitments is a huge red flag when dating. If your boyfriend is paying any of your bills because you’ve not budgeted appropriately, then he’s right to move out and end the relationship.

Perhaps you should be looking for a housing arrangement that you can afford, with roommates to share the cost of rent?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, not being able to handle financial commitments is a huge red flag when dating. If your boyfriend is paying any of your bills because you’ve not budgeted appropriately, then he’s right to move out and end the relationship.

Perhaps you should be looking for a housing arrangement that you can afford, with roommates to share the cost of rent?

You sound superficial

[Anonymous]

Dang I wouldn’t want to renew my lease with you either. On top of that, I don’t think I would date you anymore either.

[Anonymous]

This is what happens when you play house before figuring out your sh-t. Sorry, OP. Sounds like you guys have more of a roommate situation set up so you need to be able to pay your way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dang I wouldn’t want to renew my lease with you either. On top of that, I don’t think I would date you anymore either.

+1 You went from a decent-paying job to a job where you cannot pay your share, and now you want to downshift further to bringing in nothing at all? That's called freeloading, OP. He's right to cut and run.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you're in a place to be in a relationship right now, at least not a serious one where you are living together. I think you need to focus on you and getting the career that you need.

I don't think it's fair for you to expect only a boyfriend to basically finance you why you do this.

[Anonymous]

Apply for assistance
Housing voucher, food stamps, help with energy bills.
If you are low income you qualify

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is what happens when you play house before figuring out your sh-t. Sorry, OP. Sounds like you guys have more of a roommate situation set up so you need to be able to pay your way.

This, spouses help pick up the financial slack for things like schooling not boyfriend/girlfriends

[Anonymous]

You guys aren’t on the same page with your goals.

Ideally, your partner is supportive of you reaching your goals and recognizes that it’ll help you out as a couple in the long run. Sacrificing a year or two now will set you up to be more financially stable in the future.

A good partner also wouldn’t want you to be stressed out at a job you hate just because it makes more money.

He’s a jerk, but it’s better to find out now than later on. You don’t want to be married to a bean counter - trust me, I’ve been there.

Can you afford another place on your own? Is there family you can stay with while you go back to school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys aren’t on the same page with your goals.

Ideally, your partner is supportive of you reaching your goals and recognizes that it’ll help you out as a couple in the long run. Sacrificing a year or two now will set you up to be more financially stable in the future.

A good partner also wouldn’t want you to be stressed out at a job you hate just because it makes more money.

He’s a jerk, but it’s better to find out now than later on. You don’t want to be married to a bean counter - trust me, I’ve been there.

Can you afford another place on your own? Is there family you can stay with while you go back to school?

What? He's been financing her for a year and she's expecting him to ramp it up indefinitely! "I don't want to be your sugar daddy" is not a bean counter. The idea that you think you should be able to float through life with someone else picking up the tab, and if they object that's a character flaw on their part, is hilarious. Get a job.

[Anonymous]

How old are you both?

How long have you been together?

How long have you been living together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, not being able to handle financial commitments is a huge red flag when dating. If your boyfriend is paying any of your bills because you’ve not budgeted appropriately, then he’s right to move out and end the relationship.

Perhaps you should be looking for a housing arrangement that you can afford, with roommates to share the cost of rent?

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This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, not being able to handle financial commitments is a huge red flag when dating. If your boyfriend is paying any of your bills because you’ve not budgeted appropriately, then he’s right to move out and end the relationship.

Perhaps you should be looking for a housing arrangement that you can afford, with roommates to share the cost of rent?

You sound superficial

? Why? I thought pp was right on.