Slept with friend
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Anonymous
| I slept with a friend last night after having a bad week. We have been friends for a while but never anything romantic. We were both tipsy. It was good but just sex for me. He woke up today and texted me how he has liked me since we met but never made a move because I was in a relationship. He thinks we should give it a chance. I don't want to hurt him but I'm not interested in dating him. How do I let him down gently without horribly screwing up our friendship? |
Anonymous
| You could let him know, but seriously, you should at least give him a parting BJ. would be a great kindness. |
Anonymous
| Tell him that you're not into him and then sleep with him again as a consolation prize. Trust me, he will appreciate it. |
Anonymous
Similar to what I wrote above. I think OP will see if he graciously accepts the parting hook up or BJ then it is OK. If he pouts and ruins it, she has her answer right there. |
Anonymous
| Say hey the sex was great but it was a one time thing I enjoyed but not looking for more not looking for anything other than continuing our friendship. If he ask why, say that is how I feel, respect or don’t. Whichever you choose, please do not peruse a romantic relationship with me or that will be the end of our friendship. |
Anonymous
I would not do this. Too formal and will guarantee end of any friendship. See above, give him the parting gift, build him up that it was wonderful, but it won't happen any more because you are just too special as a friend. |
Anonymous
OP here. This will not be happening. |
Anonymous
OP here. It isn't even so much him. I'm fresh out of a very long and serious relationship that I thought was it. We were making plans to get engaged and then he just broke up with me. He decided he didn't want marriage or kids and felt I deserved someone who did. I'm still very hurt and not in a place to date or get serious with anyone. |
Anonymous
OP here. He made the first move. We were never romantic before yesterday. He made the attempt to have sex. I never would have. |
Anonymous
Honestly, if I were him, and I got no parting connection to provide comfort I would feel very hurt and probably never talk to you again. I would want you to know that, were I him, that in doing what we did, and then not seeing me worthy of a follow up, you have really hurt my core. |
Anonymous
Then tell your friend that. |
Anonymous
What if he makes the first move? |
Anonymous
| Just tell the truth. No parting gift or consolation prize, he should clerk lucky he got to where he did. Be honest, better in the long run. |
Anonymous
| Clerk??? I meant feel. |
Anonymous
| This happened a couple of times; the friendships died. These were wonderful friends, but they wanted more and I did not. I miss those friends. No more sleeping with friends. |