Slept with friend

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Anonymous wrote:What’s keeping you from just going with it? You cared enough to hook up with him. Are you sure there are no feelings there on your part? Are you sure he’s not what you want?

OP here. I don’t like him. I was tipsy, he kissed me, and we had sex. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a week ago. I’m not ready for anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him that you're not into him and then sleep with him again as a consolation prize. Trust me, he will appreciate it.

Only men would come up with this stuff.

Letting you put your junk inside our bodies is not a little party favor.

We are not receptacles.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Say hey the sex was great but it was a one time thing I enjoyed but not looking for more not looking for anything other than continuing our friendship. If he ask why, say that is how I feel, respect or don’t. Whichever you choose, please do not peruse a romantic relationship with me or that will be the end of our friendship.

OP here. It isn't even so much him. I'm fresh out of a very long and serious relationship that I thought was it. We were making plans to get engaged and then he just broke up with me. He decided he didn't want marriage or kids and felt I deserved someone who did. I'm still very hurt and not in a place to date or get serious with anyone.

Use this explanation: I am not ready for a relationship WITH ANYONE

"I appreciate all of the ways in which you have supported me...but I want to be clear that my participation was not meant as a move to a different type of relationship. I am just not ready for that."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What’s keeping you from just going with it? You cared enough to hook up with him. Are you sure there are no feelings there on your part? Are you sure he’s not what you want?

OP here. I don’t like him. I was tipsy, he kissed me, and we had sex. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a week ago. I’m not ready for anything.

Just curious: how many people have you slept with only because they wanted to/initiated it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You crossed the friendship line and and it will be tough to go back without some hard feelings.

Plus, now you know he has feelings for you. So you will both be more careful and self conscious in your interactions.

With time comes change. Might be best for him to move on, and stop fantasizing that romance is in the cards.

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"Sorry it has been a roller coaster of a week and my head is all over the place. I'm not in a place where I should be even considering dating just yet."

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Anonymous wrote:What’s keeping you from just going with it? You cared enough to hook up with him. Are you sure there are no feelings there on your part? Are you sure he’s not what you want?

OP here. I don’t like him. I was tipsy, he kissed me, and we had sex. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a week ago. I’m not ready for anything.

Just curious: how many people have you slept with only because they wanted to/initiated it?

She was highly vulnerable, and had been drinking.

Stop being so harsh. We all need ways to get through the night.

[Anonymous]

Her friend is probably the nice guy always on stand by when some jerk breaks her heart. Maybe take a look at the types you choose to date and the ones that actually care for you.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s keeping you from just going with it? You cared enough to hook up with him. Are you sure there are no feelings there on your part? Are you sure he’s not what you want?

OP here. I don’t like him. I was tipsy, he kissed me, and we had sex. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a week ago. I’m not ready for anything.

Just curious: how many people have you slept with only because they wanted to/initiated it?

She was highly vulnerable, and had been drinking.

Stop being so harsh. We all need ways to get through the night.

No. For an adult, this is such a selfish, immature way to behave. OP owes her friend a sincere apology. She used him.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s keeping you from just going with it? You cared enough to hook up with him. Are you sure there are no feelings there on your part? Are you sure he’s not what you want?

OP here. I don’t like him. I was tipsy, he kissed me, and we had sex. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a week ago. I’m not ready for anything.

Just curious: how many people have you slept with only because they wanted to/initiated it?

She was highly vulnerable, and had been drinking.

Stop being so harsh. We all need ways to get through the night.

No. For an adult, this is such a selfish, immature way to behave. OP owes her friend a sincere apology. She used him.

This is her friend. He knows she just broke off a long term relationship that she thought was heading towards marriage. His timing to pursue was terrible.

[Anonymous]

Tell him he's too small and you're used to a bigger man.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What’s keeping you from just going with it? You cared enough to hook up with him. Are you sure there are no feelings there on your part? Are you sure he’s not what you want?

OP here. I don’t like him. I was tipsy, he kissed me, and we had sex. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a week ago. I’m not ready for anything.

Just curious: how many people have you slept with only because they wanted to/initiated it?

OP here. I’ve only been with 4 men total. 3 boyfriends and this guy friend. I don’t sleep around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him he's too small and you're used to a bigger man.

I don’t know about size, but clearly to the extent it’s a metaphor for performance he clearly was a fail. If he gave her serious and intense pleasure she’d be back for more. This whole “I broke up a week ago” goes right out the window if he really railed her to the Max.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him he's too small and you're used to a bigger man.

OP here. It’s not true and he knows it. He is hung. I would never say that to anyone though.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s keeping you from just going with it? You cared enough to hook up with him. Are you sure there are no feelings there on your part? Are you sure he’s not what you want?

OP here. I don’t like him. I was tipsy, he kissed me, and we had sex. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a week ago. I’m not ready for anything.

Just curious: how many people have you slept with only because they wanted to/initiated it?

She was highly vulnerable, and had been drinking.

Stop being so harsh. We all need ways to get through the night.

No. For an adult, this is such a selfish, immature way to behave. OP owes her friend a sincere apology. She used him.

This is her friend. He knows she just broke off a long term relationship that she thought was heading towards marriage. His timing to pursue was terrible.

I disagree. The poor guy.