Am I Being Unrealistic?

[Anonymous]

I’m 32 and single. I’ve been looking for marriage but it’s been hard to find a guy I can see myself marrying. I want a specific type of man with a good career who give me a certain lifestyle. Do you think I’m being unrealistic?

[Anonymous]

Well, you're 32 and single so presumably you've been looking for this for many years. How's that working out?

[Anonymous]

It’s impossible to know based on what you said. If you are a nice person and you are looking for a guys who is a functional adult who can be an equal partner in supporting your family, you can probably find that. If you need a guy with a certain job, an income that is much higher than yours, or you are not a nice person to be around, you are probably being unrealistic.

[Anonymous]

Your entire risk is in looking for anyone to give you a lifestyle you cannot build or sustain alone. So perhaps divulge more specifics so we don’t have to assume.

[Anonymous]

Give yourself a lifestyle, don't wait on a man to do it for you.

[Anonymous]

You're 32, single, and asking a bunch of anonymous people on the internet what you should do.

There's your answer!

[Anonymous]

It’s not unrealistic in general so it must be unrealistic in the specifics.

[Anonymous]

As pp said, need more details. Wanting a man who is kind, respectful , hardworking of a similiar education and salary to you who wants a family that you are attracted to.... no.


If you are waiting for a European prince to come riding up to your doorstep to sweep you off your feet ...yes

[Anonymous]

Him: specific type of man + good career + give you a certain lifestyle.

You: 32 and single.

Yes, you're unrealistic. You and he do not match.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you're attractive, you can always find a man to give you a certain type of lifestyle...at least temporarily. The problem is, if he is just looking for a woman who looks a certain way, then you're in a losing game. Your looks will decrease over time while his wealth will increase. Then, he'll trade you in for the newer version.

It's better to find a partner and build the lifestyle you want together.

But I'm sure you already know this.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you're 32 and single, then I suppose you've been looking for awhile. So yes, it's unrealistic in your case.

[Anonymous]

Impossible to know from the information you provided but mostly likely not completely unrealistic regarding the career and income portion of your criteria. No idea what “specific type” you’re seeking apart from career/income so could be quite realistic or completely impossible.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I want a guy with a good career, makes at least $150k/year, lives alone, never been married, and no kids. I prefer white men, in shape but not too muscular, no tattoos, no facial hair ( a little stubble is okay), and short hair. My lifestyle is having 2-3 kids and being able to live a comfortable life. We would have money to pay for childcare, family vacations, college, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I want a guy with a good career, makes at least $150k/year, lives alone, never been married, and no kids. I prefer white men, in shape but not too muscular, no tattoos, no facial hair ( a little stubble is okay), and short hair. My lifestyle is having 2-3 kids and being able to live a comfortable life. We would have money to pay for childcare, family vacations, college, etc.

Um yea, that’s more than a little specific. You need to broaden your horizons a bit, and think more about shared values than facial hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I want a guy with a good career, makes at least $150k/year, lives alone, never been married, and no kids. I prefer white men, in shape but not too muscular, no tattoos, no facial hair ( a little stubble is okay), and short hair. My lifestyle is having 2-3 kids and being able to live a comfortable life. We would have money to pay for childcare, family vacations, college, etc.

What do you bring to the table? Why do you suppose men like this are still out there.