Married with kids v.s. Single by choice lifestyle

[Anonymous]

Will I regret it as a man if I never settle down and just focus on my career and hobbies? I also want to build my own business and don’t think
I’ll have time for that as a married person, especially a father. The married lifestyle looks like slavery to me from the perspective of a late 20’s single male.

[Anonymous]

You won't! I'm a 30-year-old single woman and I'm loving every minute of it! I was never a family-oriented person and just want to focus on work and travel (after COVID ends of course). Marriage and motherhood look miserable to me. As some of my friends start to enter those paths, I'm happy for them but at the same time I'm also quite relieved it's not me. I do not want to be tied down.

[Anonymous]

You will when you're old and lonely.

[Anonymous]

There isn’t a one right path for everyone. If you are happy doing what you’re doing, stick with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You won't! I'm a 30-year-old single woman and I'm loving every minute of it! I was never a family-oriented person and just want to focus on work and travel (after COVID ends of course). Marriage and motherhood look miserable to me. As some of my friends start to enter those paths, I'm happy for them but at the same time I'm also quite relieved it's not me. I do not want to be tied down.

30.

Okay.

[Anonymous]

LOL if you think married life "looks like slavery", please, for the love of god, don't get married. I love how you only frame this as whether or not you might "miss out" on something if you don't get married and have kids. Like having a family is a question of checking life experiences off a list. "I've been to Bali, lived in Manhattan, and held my daughter's hand on the way home from her first day of Kindergarten. What you got?"

Do not get married unless you are so in love that you want to build your life with the other person. Do not have children unless you want to raise children. Don't raise children unless you view that as a valuable, worthwhile activity in and of itself. Do not have a family simply because it's what other people your age are doing, or because wedding and baby announcements tend to get a lot of attention on Facebook, or because some buddy of yours got married and you need to have what he has.

This attitude explains like 90% of the people I encounter in DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You won't! I'm a 30-year-old single woman and I'm loving every minute of it! I was never a family-oriented person and just want to focus on work and travel (after COVID ends of course). Marriage and motherhood look miserable to me. As some of my friends start to enter those paths, I'm happy for them but at the same time I'm also quite relieved it's not me. I do not want to be tied down.

30.

Okay.

What is that supposed to mean?

[Anonymous]

Leo DiCaprio seems happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You won't! I'm a 30-year-old single woman and I'm loving every minute of it! I was never a family-oriented person and just want to focus on work and travel (after COVID ends of course). Marriage and motherhood look miserable to me. As some of my friends start to enter those paths, I'm happy for them but at the same time I'm also quite relieved it's not me. I do not want to be tied down.

30.

Okay.

What is that supposed to mean?

30 is still quite young and you still have time to change your mind.

[Anonymous]

Don't married. You are too selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Will I regret it as a man if I never settle down and just focus on my career and hobbies? I also want to build my own business and don’t think
I’ll have time for that as a married person, especially a father. The married lifestyle looks like slavery to me from the perspective of a late 20’s single male.

It isn’t either or. You could find someone you love and with whom you want to create a life together. You do not have to have children. You may find that you need to commit if you want a relationship to last more than 2 years.

[Anonymous]

Everything in life has a trade-off. Marriage is wonderful to raise a family but of course you trade the fun, excitement and sexual freedom that comes with being single.

So depends how bad you want to have kids.

[Anonymous]

If you meet the right person, and decide not to pursue a family because you don't want to bother, I think you will regret it.

But if you don't meet the right person and try to force it, you might regret that.

So keep an open mind and live your life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You won't! I'm a 30-year-old single woman and I'm loving every minute of it! I was never a family-oriented person and just want to focus on work and travel (after COVID ends of course). Marriage and motherhood look miserable to me. As some of my friends start to enter those paths, I'm happy for them but at the same time I'm also quite relieved it's not me. I do not want to be tied down.

30.

Okay.

What is that supposed to mean?

30 is still quite young and you still have time to change your mind.

Funny how this garbage is only said to women, not men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You won't! I'm a 30-year-old single woman and I'm loving every minute of it! I was never a family-oriented person and just want to focus on work and travel (after COVID ends of course). Marriage and motherhood look miserable to me. As some of my friends start to enter those paths, I'm happy for them but at the same time I'm also quite relieved it's not me. I do not want to be tied down.

30.

Okay.

What is that supposed to mean?

30 is still quite young and you still have time to change your mind.

You may change your mind also.