Should white women who marry "ethnic" men change their last names?

[Anonymous]

Is it bad form for a lily-white American woman who marries a man with an obviously Latino/Asian/Middle Eastern-sounding name to change to her husband's name or should she keep her own (anglo-American) surname? Of course some women today prefer keeping their maiden names anyway.

I don't know why, but something just rubs me as cultural appropriation or faking diversity when someone like Larla Jones gets married and becomes Larla Rodriguez, Larla Zhang, or Larla Al-Habib. It's like pretending not to be white.

[Anonymous]

This is not your business.

[Anonymous]

Wow, you are a jerk.

[Anonymous]

What about when mr Al-Habib decides to take her name and becomes mr Jones

[Anonymous]

Her husband is okay whith "whitening" his legacy so I'm not going to be upset on his behalf.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s stupid to change your name to match your husband, but OP, you’re an a$$hole.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you understand what cultural appropriation means, OP. These women are taking their husbands’ last names like millions of women do every day when they marry. They just happen to be of a different ethnicity. Many women also want the same last names as their children.
It’s not like they just changed their names without any connection to that particular culture.

[Anonymous]

It’s tradition, fool. Woke has limits.

[Anonymous]

I got so much advice from people ranging from:

Don't take his name or you'll never go through an airport smoothly again.
Take his name, you've had it too easy and now you'll see what it's like.
Don't change your name bc it sounds wrong with your first name.
Change your name bc otherwise airports won't think your kids are yours.
Don't take the name bc women in that country don't do that.
Take the name bc that's what people do here.

It goes on an on. Can't win.

I hyphenated but it's a flipping mouthful.

[Anonymous]

Question for OP - are you ok with brown women changing their names to white surnames?

[Anonymous]

Btw. Don’t call people ethnic, it’s offensive.

[Anonymous]

Who the hell gets married for that reason. My guess is that you wouldn’t blink an eye if they changed their name to O’Reilly, so you shouldn’t worry about “ethnic” names either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Btw. Don’t call people ethnic, it’s offensive.

+1

Very offensive

[Anonymous]

Maybe marrying someone of a different culture is cultural appropriation! Ha!

[Anonymous]

Maybe the DH with the “ethnic” surname is part of a family that immigrated many generations ago!