Should white women who marry "ethnic" men change their last names?

[Anonymous]

OP is beyond dumb.

[Anonymous]

Is taking an Italian surname okay? Because not too many generations ago, that (and many others) would have counted with your “ethnic” group (yikes!) and not “white.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is beyond dumb.

It is not dumb, it is actually very smart. You take Hispanic last name, claim yourself as Hispanic next whatever application you submit.

[Anonymous]

OP please stop. We are maxed out on ridiculous and offensive statements these days.

[Anonymous]

I’m a lily-white Brazilian. Should I change my name to “Katherine Emily Jones”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is beyond dumb.

It is not dumb, it is actually very smart. You take Hispanic last name, claim yourself as Hispanic next whatever application you submit.

Funny story - my white as a ghost friend married a Hispanic man and took his name. She had a job interview and the interviewer was disappointed upon her arrival bc he thought she’d speak Spanish! She never claimed to be anything other than what she is on her application but they assumed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it bad form for a lily-white American woman who marries a man with an obviously Latino/Asian/Middle Eastern-sounding name to change to her husband's name or should she keep her own (anglo-American) surname? Of course some women today prefer keeping their maiden names anyway.

I don't know why, but something just rubs me as cultural appropriation or faking diversity when someone like Larla Jones gets married and becomes Larla Rodriguez, Larla Zhang, or Larla Al-Habib. It's like pretending not to be white.

Why do you sound like a bigot? They can do what they want.

[Anonymous]

There are many ‘lily white’ Hispanics. What’s your problem?

[Anonymous]

LOL ok whatever op. I am a white woman with an “ethnic” last name through marriage. If I kept my maiden name there would be people like you who would be offended by that and assume I was too embarrassed/racist to use my husband’s last name.

[Anonymous]

This is me! I went from having a super-waspy last name to having a very Latino last name. I certainly don’t pretend to be Latino. Interestingly, despite there being plenty of super-white Latinos, Latinos always instantly know it’s my married name - I don’t know why!

[Anonymous]

I'm Asian and maybe I should take offense but I can't help but giggle and think of the Donna Chang episode on Seinfeld.

Sometimes you just need to laugh.

That said...it's pretty ironic because one of the recent "white pretending to be black" grad student white woman had an Arabic(?) last name because of her ex which made her pretending to be other/light skinned black that much easier.

[Anonymous]

I would have preferred to not change my name, but it meant a lot to my husband, so I did. Now I am a white woman with a typical Korean last name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it bad form for a lily-white American woman who marries a man with an obviously Latino/Asian/Middle Eastern-sounding name to change to her husband's name or should she keep her own (anglo-American) surname? Of course some women today prefer keeping their maiden names anyway.

I don't know why, but something just rubs me as cultural appropriation or faking diversity when someone like Larla Jones gets married and becomes Larla Rodriguez, Larla Zhang, or Larla Al-Habib. It's like pretending not to be white.

If Larla Jones is Black does that mean her maiden name she inherited from white slave masters who owned her great grandfather is a form of cultural appropriation since there were no Jones’ in Africa?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are many ‘lily white’ Hispanics. What’s your problem?

In fact a lot of hispanic people consider themselves white.

[Anonymous]

This is either a troll or a liberal. Honestly, it’s getting harder to tell as each day passes.