Did you continue to have kids until you had at least one daughter and one son?

[Anonymous]

And how many kids do you have?

I know some families who have four kids (the first three were either all boys or all girls).

This wasn't important to me or DH. DH is the youngest of four brothers and his parents have said that they had hoped that he would be a daughter, which he didn't like hearing growing up.

[Anonymous]

They’re not collectibles.

[Anonymous]

I was just watching an old Chopped episode, and there was a male chef who was the youngest of 6 kids in the family, and he had 5 older sisters!

[Anonymous]

Nope. 2 sons and done.

[Anonymous]

No. I have four kids.

I had 2 boys, then a girl, then another boy.

If my daughter had been a boy, I wouldn't have had a fourth child. I did NOT want to be a mother of four boys. Three is my limit.

[Anonymous]

Well it worked out that way (one of each) but I would have stopped at two regardless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well it worked out that way (one of each) but I would have stopped at two regardless.

Same here

[Anonymous]

No, but a family member did. Had two girls, but apparently really wanted a boy. The girls are very bright and healthy but the boy has severe autism and is nonverbal. I know this scenario is rare but scares me about trying for one gender.

[Anonymous]

Well I only have one, so obviously not. But parents who do this are super questionable.

My grandmother had eight boys until she finally got her girl. She also competed with her sister to see who could have the most kids. This behavior is messed up.

Also, women obsessed with having a girl and men obsessed with having a boy — they are really looking for a mini-me. It’s one thing to think “I think parenting a child the same sex as me would be easier or more straightforward” (tho this is not strictly true), but having kids until you get the sex you want means you’ve got very specific ideas about what your child is going to be like. Well, surprise! That’s not what your child is going to be like. I’m sure you’ll handle the disappointment well.

[Anonymous]

No. Two kids is all I can handle. Had one second first, and then wanted the same sex second.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I only have one, so obviously not. But parents who do this are super questionable.

My grandmother had eight boys until she finally got her girl. She also competed with her sister to see who could have the most kids. This behavior is messed up.

Also, women obsessed with having a girl and men obsessed with having a boy — they are really looking for a mini-me. It’s one thing to think “I think parenting a child the same sex as me would be easier or more straightforward” (tho this is not strictly true), but having kids until you get the sex you want means you’ve got very specific ideas about what your child is going to be like. Well, surprise! That’s not what your child is going to be like. I’m sure you’ll handle the disappointment well.

7:20 here and agree—one and done by choice and didn’t care about gender, just wanted the kid to be healthy. Actually, my husband initially wanted a boy to some extent to “play sports with.” I pointed out that girls can do many sports too, despite not having a penis. Our 9yo girl is actually very athletic so kind of proves that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well I only have one, so obviously not. But parents who do this are super questionable.

My grandmother had eight boys until she finally got her girl. She also competed with her sister to see who could have the most kids. This behavior is messed up.

Also, women obsessed with having a girl and men obsessed with having a boy — they are really looking for a mini-me. It’s one thing to think “I think parenting a child the same sex as me would be easier or more straightforward” (tho this is not strictly true), but having kids until you get the sex you want means you’ve got very specific ideas about what your child is going to be like. Well, surprise! That’s not what your child is going to be like. I’m sure you’ll handle the disappointment well.

7:20 here and agree—one and done by choice and didn’t care about gender, just wanted the kid to be healthy. Actually, my husband initially wanted a boy to some extent to “play sports with.” I pointed out that girls can do many sports too, despite not having a penis. Our 9yo girl is actually very athletic so kind of proves that point.

Yes, exactly!

I was nervous about having a girl because I didn’t have a great relationship with my mom. But then fate handed me a girl and our relationship is great. In the end I think it actually helped me get past some of the stuff with my mom because I stopped viewing my experience with her as something that would dictate how motherhood went for me. You just have to trust that your kids are the exact right kids for you, whoever they wind up being. The path to joy in parenting is through an open mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re not collectibles. [/quot+1

[Anonymous]

I didn’t want one of each but that’s what I got! Trying for a third anyway for that sweet sweet baby head smell.

[Anonymous]

No, I had the number of kids I wanted (3) but I didn’t care if they were boys or girls.