Did you continue to have kids until you had at least one daughter and one son?

[Anonymous]

Nope. 2 girls here. Super happy.

[Anonymous]

We would’ve had 2 kids no matter what but I am really glad we have 1 boy and 1 girl. If my spouse wanted more kids, I would’ve loved to have had 4-5 kids and would’ve done so whether they were all boys or all girls or a mixture but 2 is my spouses limit and therefore mine as well.

[Anonymous]

Well, technicaly! Have a son and a daughter and we stopped. But, that was not our plan or aim. I wanted 4 kids, would have prefered 2 boys, 2 girls. but my second one had insane GERD, FTT, just two years of screaming, being held, and DH and I were just exhausted.

[Anonymous]

I had 3 girls and was done. It drives me crazy when people tell me next time I'll get my boy - there is no next time. DH loves being a girl dad and doesn't like when strangers pity him, either.

[Anonymous]

When we started a family we thought we'd have two or three kids. Happened to have a boy and a girl. After #2 was born I absolutely thought we'd have a third but as life with two got more challenging we weren't so sure and I spent a year weighing pros and cons and we eventually decided to stick with two. I don't know that we have had a third if we'd had 2 boys/2 girls but it definitely would have added to the pro side for a third in my mind but maybe not enough to outweigh the other considerations.

[Anonymous]

That seems like a really dumb idea. Mess around and end up with 6+ kids.

Sure it would be fun to have one of each, but in the big picture their sex really isn't important, and you can have joy raising 2 boys or 2 girls. Two is my cutoff.

[Anonymous]

No. I have two boys. My BIL wanted a boy and now has 4 daughters.

[Anonymous]

Growing up I knew one family that had 7 girls and one with 7 boys. They tried until they couldn’t try any more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When we started a family we thought we'd have two or three kids. Happened to have a boy and a girl. After #2 was born I absolutely thought we'd have a third but as life with two got more challenging we weren't so sure and I spent a year weighing pros and cons and we eventually decided to stick with two. I don't know that we have had a third if we'd had 2 boys/2 girls but it definitely would have added to the pro side for a third in my mind but maybe not enough to outweigh the other considerations.

Ditto for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well I only have one, so obviously not. But parents who do this are super questionable.

My grandmother had eight boys until she finally got her girl. She also competed with her sister to see who could have the most kids. This behavior is messed up.

Also, women obsessed with having a girl and men obsessed with having a boy — they are really looking for a mini-me. It’s one thing to think “I think parenting a child the same sex as me would be easier or more straightforward” (tho this is not strictly true), but having kids until you get the sex you want means you’ve got very specific ideas about what your child is going to be like. Well, surprise! That’s not what your child is going to be like. I’m sure you’ll handle the disappointment well.

7:20 here and agree—one and done by choice and didn’t care about gender, just wanted the kid to be healthy. Actually, my husband initially wanted a boy to some extent to “play sports with.” I pointed out that girls can do many sports too, despite not having a penis. Our 9yo girl is actually very athletic so kind of proves that point.

What era is your husband from??? He sounds like a dinosaur.

[Anonymous]

2 girls and I love having a set of sisters, so no.

I know so many families (from past generations, not so much now when people have fewer kids) who had 6 boys, 4 girls, 4 boys, and more commonly 3 girl or 3 boy families. So I feel like it's kind of silly. I would have 3 kids if I wanted 3 kids, not because I was hoping for one of a different sex.

[Anonymous]

I have 4, B/G/B/G. Never cared about gender, and it wouldn't have made a difference.

[Anonymous]

I love how everyone chiming in has boys and girls. I have two boys, yes I do want a girl too so sue me. May not happen though, I’ve given away the baby stuff and I don’t want to be pregnant without a Covid vaccine. I’m not actually a very feminine female and I don’t expect any daughter to be like me, my sons are sweet and emotional. I think about old age and my relationship with my grandmother (maternal) and I feel like I may miss a little bit of a special connection if my maternal line doesn’t continue.

[Anonymous]

I have three daughters and was honestly expecting #4 to be a girl too but apparently he’s a boy. Due in January. We had a fourth because we wanted a fourth and I’m afraid people will think we just did it for the boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. 2 sons and done.

Me too. Love my boys!