Nanny going to funeral
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Anonymous
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My nanny just started back this week after being off for 6 months. When she came in this morning she told me her brother in law passed away (he had cancer) and the funeral is on Monday. There will only be family attending but she has a very large family, so guessing it will be around 40 adults plus kids. The service is outdoors but she was very vague about whether the family will be together afterward which is probably my bigger concern.
I would never ask her not to attend the funeral, but my bigger question is should she quarantine after for 2 weeks to be safe? And given that she has just been off for 6 month am I supposed to pay her for the 2 weeks? I will need to find interim help because DH and I have to work so that will cost me a lot of money. |
Anonymous
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You can't make her quarantine, but you can ask her not to come in for two weeks after the funeral. I think you should pay her for that time, though, since it would be at your request.
Also, are you and your spouse working from home? Or do one or both of you work out of the house? |
Anonymous
She wears a mask and keeps distance. Don't be an idiot. Do you really think she is going to lolling all everyone? You probably are around more people than the nanny. |
Anonymous
You know this how? Oh that's right. You don't. |
Anonymous
| I would have her wear a mask to work, wait till Friday, take a test and have her continue wearing the mask till the results come back negative. We did this for our nanny. Or have her wear a mask for two weeks. If you request she doesn’t come in for two weeks, you should pay her. |
Anonymous
| Pay her for two weeks if you don't want her to come in. |
Anonymous
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My sister is a health care provider and attended an indoor funeral in June where most people were unmasked, and they were all hugging and crying.
I don't begrudge people their humanity but this was hard to hear. I think she should have at a minimum not given people lengthy bodily-fluid soaked hugs, or attended just the outdoor portion. Our I suppose done what she did and not seen patients for two weeks or until a negative test was documented. She returned to work the next day. |
Anonymous
| While I feel sorry for your nanny’s loss, this would be more than I could take after paying her for six months she wasn’t working. I don’t know what to tell you, OP. |
Anonymous
| OP here. DH and I are still working from home and are pretty cautious - not eating out at all, don’t let the kids go to the playground, get most groceries delivered, etc. Our nanny says she is very cautious too, but I know personally there is no way I would go to a family funeral right now. Again, she gets to make that decision, I just don’t personally feel comfortable having her in our home. Even if she wears a mask we have a 10 month old she holds a lot. |
Anonymous
| Just have her get tested. |
Anonymous
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You can't order an employe not to lead her life. Such as not going to a funeral. Since it sounds that she did not get sick in months, she was likely careful. If you are unable to have her work, and accept that this has some risk, you should tell her that you are sorry but it will not work out. You work from home, sure. Did you employeer tell you where you can and can't go when work hours are done?
You pretty much know you don't want her there, you said that in your update. |
Anonymous
| I work in a place with very tight restrictions on employees who travel and our public health consultant would suggest that she quarantine for 7 days upon her return to the area and she could come in after that as long as she is symptom-free. |
Anonymous
The recommendation is 14 days. You can be infectious and asymptomatic. |
Anonymous
| Why was she off for 6 months? |
Anonymous
| If you want her off, you pay her. |