Nanny going to funeral

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why was she off for 6 months?

I’m curious about this too. And were you paying her this whole time?

[Anonymous]

Just pay for her to have a COVID test. She will be out just a few days waiting for the result, not 2 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just pay for her to have a COVID test. She will be out just a few days waiting for the result, not 2 weeks.

If she gets a Covid test the day after the funeral she is not going to be positive - best case scenario it takes 2-3 days to develop symptoms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why was she off for 6 months?

I’m curious about this too. And were you paying her this whole time?

OP again, we didn’t have her come for a few months once COVID got bad since she takes public transportation and does not drive. We drove her daily for a couple weeks but it was just too much (45 mins each way). Then, since the kids’ summer camp wasn’t happening we decided to go to my parents’ for the summer and just returned after Labor Day. She was collecting unemployment the whole time, but from what I understand terminated it when she came back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why was she off for 6 months?

I’m curious about this too. And were you paying her this whole time?

OP again, we didn’t have her come for a few months once COVID got bad since she takes public transportation and does not drive. We drove her daily for a couple weeks but it was just too much (45 mins each way). Then, since the kids’ summer camp wasn’t happening we decided to go to my parents’ for the summer and just returned after Labor Day. She was collecting unemployment the whole time, but from what I understand terminated it when she came back.

So you weren’t paying her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why was she off for 6 months?

I’m curious about this too. And were you paying her this whole time?

OP again, we didn’t have her come for a few months once COVID got bad since she takes public transportation and does not drive. We drove her daily for a couple weeks but it was just too much (45 mins each way). Then, since the kids’ summer camp wasn’t happening we decided to go to my parents’ for the summer and just returned after Labor Day. She was collecting unemployment the whole time, but from what I understand terminated it when she came back.

Wow, so you just got away with nearly 6 months of not paying her and then want to complain about this when she gets back? Where is the guarantee your “interim help” won’t be living her life as well? At some point you just accept a certain amount of risk if you are going to have a nanny in your home. You trust her to watch your child, so you should trust her judgement generally. You’re lucky she is telling you any of this to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why was she off for 6 months?

I’m curious about this too. And were you paying her this whole time?

OP again, we didn’t have her come for a few months once COVID got bad since she takes public transportation and does not drive. We drove her daily for a couple weeks but it was just too much (45 mins each way). Then, since the kids’ summer camp wasn’t happening we decided to go to my parents’ for the summer and just returned after Labor Day. She was collecting unemployment the whole time, but from what I understand terminated it when she came back.

Wow, so you just got away with nearly 6 months of not paying her and then want to complain about this when she gets back? Where is the guarantee your “interim help” won’t be living her life as well? At some point you just accept a certain amount of risk if you are going to have a nanny in your home. You trust her to watch your child, so you should trust her judgement generally. You’re lucky she is telling you any of this to begin with.

I am not complaining about paying her, I am mainly saying after being off for 6 months it’s frustrating that she is now doing something I deem risky that prevents her from working for two weeks when she just came back.

And while I didn’t pay her, she collected more in unemployment than she gets paid so she was thrilled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why was she off for 6 months?

I’m curious about this too. And were you paying her this whole time?

OP again, we didn’t have her come for a few months once COVID got bad since she takes public transportation and does not drive. We drove her daily for a couple weeks but it was just too much (45 mins each way). Then, since the kids’ summer camp wasn’t happening we decided to go to my parents’ for the summer and just returned after Labor Day. She was collecting unemployment the whole time, but from what I understand terminated it when she came back.

Wow, so you just got away with nearly 6 months of not paying her and then want to complain about this when she gets back? Where is the guarantee your “interim help” won’t be living her life as well? At some point you just accept a certain amount of risk if you are going to have a nanny in your home. You trust her to watch your child, so you should trust her judgement generally. You’re lucky she is telling you any of this to begin with.

I am not complaining about paying her, I am mainly saying after being off for 6 months it’s frustrating that she is now doing something I deem risky that prevents her from working for two weeks when she just came back.

And while I didn’t pay her, she collected more in unemployment than she gets paid so she was thrilled.

That means you don’t pay a living wage.

Please do not make a big deal about the funeral. And yes, obviously, pay her if you expect her to quarantine.

[Anonymous]

Wow! In your initial post when you complained that your nanny was just coming off of 6 months off, most would assume you were actually paying her for that time period as most decent people did. Instead, you actually laid her off because she didn’t have private transportation (probably because she couldn’t afford it on the salary that you pay and you weren’t willing to either assist or give her a transportation supplement). Then you apparently decamped to live with family, where you were probably able to telework and benefit from free childcare, while the taxpayer paid your nanny’s unemployment but you justify it in your mind because she made more than she would have working for you. With the current demand for nannies I have no idea why yours decided to come back to work for you but you should definitely fire her now for attending her brother’s funeral so that she can find a decent employer.

[Anonymous]

Omg u sound really needy ... u went to your parents for the whole summer for help with your kids? That being said everyone knows that indoor social gatherings (weddings, funerals, graduation parties) are high risk and need to be avoided by everyone in a household.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg u sound really needy ... u went to your parents for the whole summer for help with your kids? That being said everyone knows that indoor social gatherings (weddings, funerals, graduation parties) are high risk and need to be avoided by everyone in a household.

How is 2 full time working parents who need to entertain 2 kids with zero camp or summer activities needy if her retired parents ask for everyone to come stay at their beach house over the summer? My parents had the best summer of their lives and it happened to be helpful for us. I know dozens of people who did this same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow! In your initial post when you complained that your nanny was just coming off of 6 months off, most would assume you were actually paying her for that time period as most decent people did. Instead, you actually laid her off because she didn’t have private transportation (probably because she couldn’t afford it on the salary that you pay and you weren’t willing to either assist or give her a transportation supplement). Then you apparently decamped to live with family, where you were probably able to telework and benefit from free childcare, while the taxpayer paid your nanny’s unemployment but you justify it in your mind because she made more than she would have working for you. With the current demand for nannies I have no idea why yours decided to come back to work for you but you should definitely fire her now for attending her brother’s funeral so that she can find a decent employer.

We did pay her from March 16 to the end of June when we left DC, and she was the one who told me most of her friends were “furloughed” and she could just file for unemployment so we wouldn’t need to pay her for the summer.

We also told her we completely understand if she wants to find a new job but she said she was happy to have some time off and wanted to return in the fall.

[Anonymous]

Have her bring in the results of a rapid covid test maybe a few days after the funeral.

[Anonymous]

Two week quarantine and a test. It’s her choice to attend and your choice that she quarantine so I’d offer half pay or full pay but she use her vacation.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for having us tax payers take care of your nanny’s salary