What is the birth order of your special needs kid?

[Anonymous]

What is the birth order of your special needs kid, and did the impact whether you chose to have more kids?

[Anonymous]

All my kids are SN. Nothing I could have screened for or prevented.

If you can’t handle the thought of one, don’t have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the birth order of your special needs kid, and did the impact whether you chose to have more kids?

Second child and fourth child.

Second child has problems with emotional regulation, so didn’t really know until she was 4 or 5.

4th child has a rare genetic syndrome. We had planned her as the last child, but the genetic aspect of it would have made us pause if we had been planning for more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All my kids are SN. Nothing I could have screened for or prevented.

If you can’t handle the thought of one, don’t have kids.

What? No one said that.

[Anonymous]

3rd child.
My sibling's SN child is her first.

[Anonymous]

3rd

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter. I'm a developmental psychologist and birth order doesn't matter.

Now older parents do matter so kids that are last and parents are around 40 matters but other than that, it doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

1st kid of 2. ASD and ADHD diagnosed after second was born

[Anonymous]

1st child. Autism. They tend to be firstborns because the firstborn child gets 2/3 of the mother's toxic burden

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't matter. I'm a developmental psychologist and birth order doesn't matter.

Now older parents do matter so kids that are last and parents are around 40 matters but other than that, it doesn't matter.

That is not what OP is asking. It amazes me that people are answering while they didn't seem to read her question.

She is asking the order of birth because she wants to know if having a child with special needs have impacted your decision to have more children (or would have if child was the first born for example).

[Anonymous]

2nd kid. We weren't going to have more kids anyway. Oh, and I was in my late 20's when she was born.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1st child. Autism. They tend to be firstborns because the firstborn child gets 2/3 of the mother's toxic burden

There are conflicting studies on this, as a quick search will show. No one here can add additional information to that.

[Anonymous]

First and only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1st child. Autism. They tend to be firstborns because the firstborn child gets 2/3 of the mother's toxic burden

There are conflicting studies on this, as a quick search will show. No one here can add additional information to that.

If this was even remotely true, 80% of the world's special needs kids would be coming out of China over the past 10 years given the insane pollutants they are breathing in every single day. But we can obviously see it's not true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1st child. Autism. They tend to be firstborns because the firstborn child gets 2/3 of the mother's toxic burden

There are conflicting studies on this, as a quick search will show. No one here can add additional information to that.

If this was even remotely true, 80% of the world's special needs kids would be coming out of China over the past 10 years given the insane pollutants they are breathing in every single day. But we can obviously see it's not true.

We don't know anything about the rate of special needs in China.