Is it rude to use They and not made up pronoun

[Anonymous]

My DD's partner uses what I think are made up pronouns. At least I've never heard them before. I feel a bit silly using them and much prefer to default to they. Would that be extremely rude? I'm not going to name the pronouns but they're unique and not even ze/zir, per/pers, ey/em, xe/xem, etc, which I think are pretty infrequently used but I've heard of before

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

How much do you value your daughter? Her partner?

[Anonymous]

Ok that's what I thought. I will use the preferred pronouns!

[Anonymous]

If someone asks you to use specific terminology to refer to them, then yes of course it is rude not to.

[Anonymous]

I hate the made up pronouns too. I find that just using someone's name allows me to avoid using them. I think that's better than outright refusing to use their chosen pronouns.

[Anonymous]

It's rude to not even try. It's ok to make a mistake and correct yourself.

I don't find that pronouns come up much. "Is Larla coming to dinner" doesn't require pronouns. If you would normally follow that with "What does he like to eat," then "What does Larlo like to eat" is a fine replacement.

[Anonymous]

I find made-up pronouns very precious and annoying, but you still need to call someone what they ask to be called.

[Anonymous]

I get that it's also hard to keep track of, but if there's only one important person in your life whose pronouns you need to pay attention to, then I think you can do it. You should.

[Anonymous]

Gri, Grk, grkx right?

[Anonymous]

It is rude for the partner to require the whole world to use made up words and new speech patterns just to feel validated. What if everyone did this?

[Anonymous]

Just omit pronouns when you remember to and tell them you’re too old for this narcissistic puerile silly nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Upon consideration, I think I will just omit pronouns and use the proper noun. I think the partner is pronoun borders on cultural appropriation And it just feels wrong to use it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Upon consideration, I think I will just omit pronouns and use the proper noun. I think the partner is pronoun borders on cultural appropriation And it just feels wrong to use it

How is it cultural appropriation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's rude to not even try. It's ok to make a mistake and correct yourself.

I don't find that pronouns come up much. "Is Larla coming to dinner" doesn't require pronouns. If you would normally follow that with "What does he like to eat," then "What does Larlo like to eat" is a fine replacement.

It gets ridiculous pretty fast.

I hope Larlo's bringing Larlo's famous brownies. I enjoyed them so much last time Larlo was here. I heard Larlo learned the recipe when Larlo was growing up from Larlo's grandma.