Missing college student in the Dominican Republic from Ashburn

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Anonymous wrote:This story is so sad. I feel like girls especially have it drilled in their head to look out for their friends and yet this sort of thing happens. I wonder if she had known the boy for a few days so had an illusion of safety and so did her friends.

I really don't like blaming the friends. She clearly wanted to stay behind with him. It was after 5am and the friends wanted to go to bed at last. If she didn't want to go with them, please tell me specifically what they should have done.

My understanding is they took her phone so find my phone would show her in the hotel room. They were doing what she wanted.

Is this understanding from anything official or simply the game of telephone (pun intended) being played in this thread?

Nothing official. More likely she didn't want her phone to get wet or sandy, or it was dying.

Right. We just know she asked her friends to take it, several possible reasons why.

Im new to the phone theories. I assumed it was on the beach chair. So the girls have it? That’s unfortunate if true.

If you have an older teenage child, you might be aware that they DO NOT like being tracked by their parents. Some have no choice, the parents are controlling. If the parents are not, some kids usually elect to turn off location sharing because, surprise, they like privacy. In this case, if there is controlling parent and she wanted to fool them into thinking she was with her friends whose parents might be in contact with her parents, she gives friends the phone to throw them off the trail of her hormonal intentions.

Haven't you seen posts from mid-life adults who's 80 year old mother will call because middle aged child was at a doctor's office 3000 miles away and pesters about middle aged child's reasons for being at doctor's office?

This. She could turn off location, but then the tiger mom would start calling her friends in panic mode. She had no other option than send the phone with friends to send them off track. How sad. The phone perhaps would have saved her, we will never know. This is something young women should always do, have a friend check back on her every hour to see if she's good and if they don't hear back then time to get alert.

Overly controlling parents think their 20 year old daughter should not have some "fun" with a guy she liked. It's quite normal and she should be allowed to have safe fun. The phone is something she should not leave ever. I know young women who will go crazy if their phone reaches a certain level of charge and they will go out of the way to get it charged. I also know overly controlling parents who will enforce a curfew on their daughter at home when she is actually hooking up with random guys in college. Such parents think their daughter is a "good girl" or should be one. There is nothing that will make her a bad girl if she had some safe fun, they should be allowed to do that without overbearing parents tracking them every where.

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Anonymous wrote:Another day without finding her? At this point they might have to use divers. Maybe her body is caught up in the bottom of the ocean.

It's long gone, eaten by a shark.

The possibilities?:

-drowning
-eaten
-walked away from resort (missing or ?)
-went back to hotel (no video footage though) missing
-that guy did something to her
-someome else did something to her
-voluntarily left (missing or ?)

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Just last year Riley Strain was last seen stumbling down the streets of Nashville from a night of drinking, to be found in the river after a lengthy 2 week search.

There are too many of these tragedies that happen on spring break.

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Info re who is being re-interviewed

https://www.foxnews.com/us/missing-american-college-student-seen-resort-surveillance-dominican-republic.amp

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Blaming the grieving parents is also gross.

The guy killed her or she drowned.

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If he did return scratched up, I hope that was documented. Wonder how many stories he had re what happened to his shirt?

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Anonymous wrote:Another day without finding her? At this point they might have to use divers. Maybe her body is caught up in the bottom of the ocean.

It's long gone, eaten by a shark.

At that point they would find something. Like hair

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Anonymous wrote:This story is so sad. I feel like girls especially have it drilled in their head to look out for their friends and yet this sort of thing happens. I wonder if she had known the boy for a few days so had an illusion of safety and so did her friends.

I really don't like blaming the friends. She clearly wanted to stay behind with him. It was after 5am and the friends wanted to go to bed at last. If she didn't want to go with them, please tell me specifically what they should have done.

My understanding is they took her phone so find my phone would show her in the hotel room. They were doing what she wanted.

Is this understanding from anything official or simply the game of telephone (pun intended) being played in this thread?

Nothing official. More likely she didn't want her phone to get wet or sandy, or it was dying.

Right. We just know she asked her friends to take it, several possible reasons why.

Im new to the phone theories. I assumed it was on the beach chair. So the girls have it? That’s unfortunate if true.

If you have an older teenage child, you might be aware that they DO NOT like being tracked by their parents. Some have no choice, the parents are controlling. If the parents are not, some kids usually elect to turn off location sharing because, surprise, they like privacy. In this case, if there is controlling parent and she wanted to fool them into thinking she was with her friends whose parents might be in contact with her parents, she gives friends the phone to throw them off the trail of her hormonal intentions.

Haven't you seen posts from mid-life adults who's 80 year old mother will call because middle aged child was at a doctor's office 3000 miles away and pesters about middle aged child's reasons for being at doctor's office?

This. She could turn off location, but then the tiger mom would start calling her friends in panic mode. She had no other option than send the phone with friends to send them off track. How sad. The phone perhaps would have saved her, we will never know. This is something young women should always do, have a friend check back on her every hour to see if she's good and if they don't hear back then time to get alert.

Overly controlling parents think their 20 year old daughter should not have some "fun" with a guy she liked. It's quite normal and she should be allowed to have safe fun. The phone is something she should not leave ever. I know young women who will go crazy if their phone reaches a certain level of charge and they will go out of the way to get it charged. I also know overly controlling parents who will enforce a curfew on their daughter at home when she is actually hooking up with random guys in college. Such parents think their daughter is a "good girl" or should be one. There is nothing that will make her a bad girl if she had some safe fun, they should be allowed to do that without overbearing parents tracking them every where.

Didn't reports say there was a power outage at that resort? So she likely didn't get a chance to charge her phone there. Could she have thought power may come back on so better to get the phone inside with her friends to get it charged in her room? No one knows (well maybe the friends do) if she was trying to throw parents off track.

Wow some posters thinking parents were overbearing possibly in this case. Share how you know this? Do you know them or has this been reported and the source of reports.

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Anonymous wrote:Just last year Riley Strain was last seen stumbling down the streets of Nashville from a night of drinking, to be found in the river after a lengthy 2 week search.

There are too many of these tragedies that happen on spring break.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG her friends went on a day trip without even looking for her?!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14485901/amp/joshua-riibe-sudiksha-konanki-dominican-republic-missing.html

Have a bad feeling about this huge guy, could be another Natalie Holloway.

Claiming she was not seen out of water and that she was, which is it? If he saw her after the water, where is she?!!!

Well, her "friends" aren't much better.

We need to do a better job teaching kids how to identify who your friends are and how to be better friends. I feel terrible for this family. Tragic.

Who are you to judge that?

Well, let's see...They hadn't seen their friend since around 4:00 a.m. and didn't know where she was in a foreign country but thought they'd just go on a day trip?!

How were they going to reach her if 1. She didn't have her phone on her, 2. Or they tried reaching her but she didn't pick up maybe because they thought she was still sleeping or with that guy? 3. Things werent known at time of them going on a day trip? Didn't read all the reports to know if any of those questions were answered.

Was the guy known to them on that trip prior to that night? One of the young woman's friend could have stayed with her tho on the beach (being a better friend). Does anyone actually know what occurred before the friends left to go back to the hotel and her staying on beach?

No. Friend's job was to tell her why this is a bad idea and to inform resort desk that she didn't come back at night before going for the scheduled trip. She wasn't required to put herself in danger at night at beach in a foreign country with a drunk male.

Kids go to places like DR to be irresponsibly drunk and for casual hook ups. With that implicit understanding, one's friends will not stand in the way of actualizing that goal.
Sorry, DR is not Disneyland.

Exactly. I think a number of posters on this thread did not have traditional American college experiences.

Plenty of people on here let their kids go to beach week or have parties where they serve alcohol. A kid is sitting in Arlignton county jail right now after killing his friend from a drunk driving accident whole being so completely hammered and “supervising” a freshman high school party.

Most parents DO NOT CONDONE this. I never did. My adult sons are very successful and never felt the need to get wasted. As my son is in medical school this is frowned upon.

You don't know everything your children do. I am a very successful female adult, went to an Ivy, got great grades and never caused my parents any trouble. I didn't even drink for most of college. However, I made a ton of stupid naive mistakes in college that could've turned out poorly if things happened differently.

Yes, but you are an American. Sudiksha’s parents are culturally Indian and were raised in India.

In India, good girls (ie - the upper caste / intelligent girl), would never behave in such a fashion. What would happen if a girl were to behave in this way and word got out? The whole family could be dishonored by such shameful behavior. People talk you know.

No. Sudiksha is a good girl, as father has already stated.

If she's such a good girl, what's up with all those selfies of her in tight clothing, or scantily clad or looking to show cleavage?
This girl's parents may be culturally Indian, but she didn't seem to be given that she was engaged in what I consider slatternly American college girl behavior by going to some poor country that has nothing else going for it but notoriety for drunken spring break escapades.
It wasn't like she was in the DR for anthropology studies or looking to help the self-imploding Haitian nation next door.

It's not like middle class or upper middle class girls in India, especially in major metros these days aren't hooking up with random guys either. Some Indian parents have this weird thing about culturally good values like it is the 1960's. They have no clue their daughters go to college and they hook up, then come home and pretend to be the good girl that mom and dad wants. That's not the fault of their daughters but of the parents and their inability to get more open minded. She behaved like an American girl on spring break, but made some poor choices and for whatever reasons didn't keep her phone with her, and the likely reason is to avoid being tracked by controlling parents. Allow her some freedom and also teach her how to use safety protocols instead of telling her not to do it what they should've done. But anyway, I am not going to sit here and victim blame the parents too much since they are already going through hell.

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Anonymous wrote:Her friends really failed her.

By allowing her autonomy and giving her the privacy she requested?

I agree blaming the friends is uncool. They had no reason to think she'd do something dumb like swim in rough seas at night.

How do you know she *chose* to? Did reports say that? Eyewitnesses or video?

It’s you again. I went to McDonalds today. It’s logical to infer I chose to go there.

You’re not the feminist you think you are. Because something bad happened to this young woman, we don’t get to then decide it wasn’t the result of a decision she made. We don’t get to play women make decisions for themselves, but if something bad happened it must not be their fault.

There is evidence to indicate she chose to go in the water. There is zero evidence to support that any decisions made were not her own.

Look it's name calling poster thinking they know who someone is or if they are a feminist or not. YOU don't know what went on at that moment. Or were you at Riu for a McDonald's too?

it's the YOU poster ...

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Anonymous wrote:This story is so sad. I feel like girls especially have it drilled in their head to look out for their friends and yet this sort of thing happens. I wonder if she had known the boy for a few days so had an illusion of safety and so did her friends.

I really don't like blaming the friends. She clearly wanted to stay behind with him. It was after 5am and the friends wanted to go to bed at last. If she didn't want to go with them, please tell me specifically what they should have done.

My understanding is they took her phone so find my phone would show her in the hotel room. They were doing what she wanted.

Is this understanding from anything official or simply the game of telephone (pun intended) being played in this thread?

Nothing official. More likely she didn't want her phone to get wet or sandy, or it was dying.

Right. We just know she asked her friends to take it, several possible reasons why.

Im new to the phone theories. I assumed it was on the beach chair. So the girls have it? That’s unfortunate if true.

If you have an older teenage child, you might be aware that they DO NOT like being tracked by their parents. Some have no choice, the parents are controlling. If the parents are not, some kids usually elect to turn off location sharing because, surprise, they like privacy. In this case, if there is controlling parent and she wanted to fool them into thinking she was with her friends whose parents might be in contact with her parents, she gives friends the phone to throw them off the trail of her hormonal intentions.

Haven't you seen posts from mid-life adults who's 80 year old mother will call because middle aged child was at a doctor's office 3000 miles away and pesters about middle aged child's reasons for being at doctor's office?

This. She could turn off location, but then the tiger mom would start calling her friends in panic mode. She had no other option than send the phone with friends to send them off track. How sad. The phone perhaps would have saved her, we will never know. This is something young women should always do, have a friend check back on her every hour to see if she's good and if they don't hear back then time to get alert.

Overly controlling parents think their 20 year old daughter should not have some "fun" with a guy she liked. It's quite normal and she should be allowed to have safe fun. The phone is something she should not leave ever. I know young women who will go crazy if their phone reaches a certain level of charge and they will go out of the way to get it charged. I also know overly controlling parents who will enforce a curfew on their daughter at home when she is actually hooking up with random guys in college. Such parents think their daughter is a "good girl" or should be one. There is nothing that will make her a bad girl if she had some safe fun, they should be allowed to do that without overbearing parents tracking them every where.

Didn't reports say there was a power outage at that resort? So she likely didn't get a chance to charge her phone there. Could she have thought power may come back on so better to get the phone inside with her friends to get it charged in her room? No one knows (well maybe the friends do) if she was trying to throw parents off track.

Wow some posters thinking parents were overbearing possibly in this case. Share how you know this? Do you know them or has this been reported and the source of reports.

How do I know this? patterns. Observed many parents who do this, especially among Indian and Asian communities. Some even try this with their boys, but of course the boys grab their freedom at that age and refuse to comply with phone tracking or even social media tracking by parents. Girls on the other hand comply, but try to do it in a sneaky way because they don't want to offend anyone while at same time they have to get their freedoms too just like everyone around them.

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Anonymous wrote:Another day without finding her? At this point they might have to use divers. Maybe her body is caught up in the bottom of the ocean.

It's long gone, eaten by a shark.

At that point they would find something. Like hair

In the middle of the ocean? Unfortunately I believe she’s gone, never to be found like Natalie or any of the people on that Malaysian Air flight. She floated off to sea, the odds are they won’t find anything. Her poor parents may never get closure.

My relative drowned in the Bay and it took 5 days to find him. A family friend went fishing in the Bay by Annapolis a few years ago and his boat was found without him on it. They never found him either. It happens.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG her friends went on a day trip without even looking for her?!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14485901/amp/joshua-riibe-sudiksha-konanki-dominican-republic-missing.html

Have a bad feeling about this huge guy, could be another Natalie Holloway.

Claiming she was not seen out of water and that she was, which is it? If he saw her after the water, where is she?!!!

Well, her "friends" aren't much better.

We need to do a better job teaching kids how to identify who your friends are and how to be better friends. I feel terrible for this family. Tragic.

Who are you to judge that?

Well, let's see...They hadn't seen their friend since around 4:00 a.m. and didn't know where she was in a foreign country but thought they'd just go on a day trip?!

How were they going to reach her if 1. She didn't have her phone on her, 2. Or they tried reaching her but she didn't pick up maybe because they thought she was still sleeping or with that guy? 3. Things werent known at time of them going on a day trip? Didn't read all the reports to know if any of those questions were answered.

Was the guy known to them on that trip prior to that night? One of the young woman's friend could have stayed with her tho on the beach (being a better friend). Does anyone actually know what occurred before the friends left to go back to the hotel and her staying on beach?

No. Friend's job was to tell her why this is a bad idea and to inform resort desk that she didn't come back at night before going for the scheduled trip. She wasn't required to put herself in danger at night at beach in a foreign country with a drunk male.

Kids go to places like DR to be irresponsibly drunk and for casual hook ups. With that implicit understanding, one's friends will not stand in the way of actualizing that goal.
Sorry, DR is not Disneyland.

Exactly. I think a number of posters on this thread did not have traditional American college experiences.

Plenty of people on here let their kids go to beach week or have parties where they serve alcohol. A kid is sitting in Arlignton county jail right now after killing his friend from a drunk driving accident whole being so completely hammered and “supervising” a freshman high school party.

Most parents DO NOT CONDONE this. I never did. My adult sons are very successful and never felt the need to get wasted. As my son is in medical school this is frowned upon.

You don't know everything your children do. I am a very successful female adult, went to an Ivy, got great grades and never caused my parents any trouble. I didn't even drink for most of college. However, I made a ton of stupid naive mistakes in college that could've turned out poorly if things happened differently.

Yes, but you are an American. Sudiksha’s parents are culturally Indian and were raised in India.

In India, good girls (ie - the upper caste / intelligent girl), would never behave in such a fashion. What would happen if a girl were to behave in this way and word got out? The whole family could be dishonored by such shameful behavior. People talk you know.

No. Sudiksha is a good girl, as father has already stated.

If she's such a good girl, what's up with all those selfies of her in tight clothing, or scantily clad or looking to show cleavage?
This girl's parents may be culturally Indian, but she didn't seem to be given that she was engaged in what I consider slatternly American college girl behavior by going to some poor country that has nothing else going for it but notoriety for drunken spring break escapades.
It wasn't like she was in the DR for anthropology studies or looking to help the self-imploding Haitian nation next door.

It's not like middle class or upper middle class girls in India, especially in major metros these days aren't hooking up with random guys either. Some Indian parents have this weird thing about culturally good values like it is the 1960's. They have no clue their daughters go to college and they hook up, then come home and pretend to be the good girl that mom and dad wants. That's not the fault of their daughters but of the parents and their inability to get more open minded. She behaved like an American girl on spring break, but made some poor choices and for whatever reasons didn't keep her phone with her, and the likely reason is to avoid being tracked by controlling parents. Allow her some freedom and also teach her how to use safety protocols instead of telling her not to do it what they should've done. But anyway, I am not going to sit here and victim blame the parents too much since they are already going through hell.

How do you know they were controlling? Share. Was it reported?

Anyways, you already did some blaming by writing about them above without knowing who they are (or you know them or read reports about how they are).

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Anonymous wrote:OMG her friends went on a day trip without even looking for her?!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14485901/amp/joshua-riibe-sudiksha-konanki-dominican-republic-missing.html

Have a bad feeling about this huge guy, could be another Natalie Holloway.

Claiming she was not seen out of water and that she was, which is it? If he saw her after the water, where is she?!!!

Well, her "friends" aren't much better.

We need to do a better job teaching kids how to identify who your friends are and how to be better friends. I feel terrible for this family. Tragic.

Who are you to judge that?

Well, let's see...They hadn't seen their friend since around 4:00 a.m. and didn't know where she was in a foreign country but thought they'd just go on a day trip?!

How were they going to reach her if 1. She didn't have her phone on her, 2. Or they tried reaching her but she didn't pick up maybe because they thought she was still sleeping or with that guy? 3. Things werent known at time of them going on a day trip? Didn't read all the reports to know if any of those questions were answered.

Was the guy known to them on that trip prior to that night? One of the young woman's friend could have stayed with her tho on the beach (being a better friend). Does anyone actually know what occurred before the friends left to go back to the hotel and her staying on beach?

No. Friend's job was to tell her why this is a bad idea and to inform resort desk that she didn't come back at night before going for the scheduled trip. She wasn't required to put herself in danger at night at beach in a foreign country with a drunk male.

Kids go to places like DR to be irresponsibly drunk and for casual hook ups. With that implicit understanding, one's friends will not stand in the way of actualizing that goal.
Sorry, DR is not Disneyland.

Exactly. I think a number of posters on this thread did not have traditional American college experiences.

Plenty of people on here let their kids go to beach week or have parties where they serve alcohol. A kid is sitting in Arlignton county jail right now after killing his friend from a drunk driving accident whole being so completely hammered and “supervising” a freshman high school party.

Most parents DO NOT CONDONE this. I never did. My adult sons are very successful and never felt the need to get wasted. As my son is in medical school this is frowned upon.

You don't know everything your children do. I am a very successful female adult, went to an Ivy, got great grades and never caused my parents any trouble. I didn't even drink for most of college. However, I made a ton of stupid naive mistakes in college that could've turned out poorly if things happened differently.

Yes, but you are an American. Sudiksha’s parents are culturally Indian and were raised in India.

In India, good girls (ie - the upper caste / intelligent girl), would never behave in such a fashion. What would happen if a girl were to behave in this way and word got out? The whole family could be dishonored by such shameful behavior. People talk you know.

No. Sudiksha is a good girl, as father has already stated.

If she's such a good girl, what's up with all those selfies of her in tight clothing, or scantily clad or looking to show cleavage?
This girl's parents may be culturally Indian, but she didn't seem to be given that she was engaged in what I consider slatternly American college girl behavior by going to some poor country that has nothing else going for it but notoriety for drunken spring break escapades.
It wasn't like she was in the DR for anthropology studies or looking to help the self-imploding Haitian nation next door.

It's not like middle class or upper middle class girls in India, especially in major metros these days aren't hooking up with random guys either. Some Indian parents have this weird thing about culturally good values like it is the 1960's. They have no clue their daughters go to college and they hook up, then come home and pretend to be the good girl that mom and dad wants. That's not the fault of their daughters but of the parents and their inability to get more open minded. She behaved like an American girl on spring break, but made some poor choices and for whatever reasons didn't keep her phone with her, and the likely reason is to avoid being tracked by controlling parents. Allow her some freedom and also teach her how to use safety protocols instead of telling her not to do it what they should've done. But anyway, I am not going to sit here and victim blame the parents too much since they are already going through hell.

Agree. I lived in India for 4 years as an expat. Many young adult college aged Indian women dressed just as scantily clad as American college students.