In this forum we typically hear from the young person who cut off their parent, sibling, or IL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually do know a grandparent who was cut off for “feeding the baby strawberries” (it wasn’t strawberries). I know both the parents and the grandparents in this situation so it wasn’t a one sided narrative.

Baby was diagnosed severely, anaphylaxis-allergic to “strawberries”. Grandparent didn’t “believe in” allergies, said they were all about this generation being too controlling with what the kids eat and her grandson wasn’t growing up never having a “strawberries” sandwich.

Even though her grandson was hospitalized after that event, even though he could have died if EMS hadn’t responded within minutes, even though she had been told upward of a hundred times (and agreed!) not to feed him “strawberries” she still tells everyone her evil, controlling DIL cut her off “just” for feeding her grandson “strawberries”.

Wow! That grandma should be happy with just being cut off and not maimed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually do know a grandparent who was cut off for “feeding the baby strawberries” (it wasn’t strawberries). I know both the parents and the grandparents in this situation so it wasn’t a one sided narrative.

Baby was diagnosed severely, anaphylaxis-allergic to “strawberries”. Grandparent didn’t “believe in” allergies, said they were all about this generation being too controlling with what the kids eat and her grandson wasn’t growing up never having a “strawberries” sandwich.

Even though her grandson was hospitalized after that event, even though he could have died if EMS hadn’t responded within minutes, even though she had been told upward of a hundred times (and agreed!) not to feed him “strawberries” she still tells everyone her evil, controlling DIL cut her off “just” for feeding her grandson “strawberries”.

Wow! That grandma should be happy with just being cut off and not maimed.

Agree, but just look back in the thread and you see someone saying the parents who “need to control everything that passes their child’s lips” need therapy. I wouldn’t be shocked if it’s the same woman I know to be honest.

The thing is— she isn’t lying. It’s true she was cut off for feeding the baby “strawberries”. But people hear that uncritically and extrapolate that parents today are petty and quick to cut people off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually do know a grandparent who was cut off for “feeding the baby strawberries” (it wasn’t strawberries). I know both the parents and the grandparents in this situation so it wasn’t a one sided narrative.

Baby was diagnosed severely, anaphylaxis-allergic to “strawberries”. Grandparent didn’t “believe in” allergies, said they were all about this generation being too controlling with what the kids eat and her grandson wasn’t growing up never having a “strawberries” sandwich.

Even though her grandson was hospitalized after that event, even though he could have died if EMS hadn’t responded within minutes, even though she had been told upward of a hundred times (and agreed!) not to feed him “strawberries” she still tells everyone her evil, controlling DIL cut her off “just” for feeding her grandson “strawberries”.

Wow! That grandma should be happy with just being cut off and not maimed.

Agree, but just look back in the thread and you see someone saying the parents who “need to control everything that passes their child’s lips” need therapy. I wouldn’t be shocked if it’s the same woman I know to be honest.

The thing is— she isn’t lying. It’s true she was cut off for feeding the baby “strawberries”. But people hear that uncritically and extrapolate that parents today are petty and quick to cut people off.

Yup. In-laws basically cut themselves off (pretty sure they are waiting for us to apologize for “being ungrateful”) after it came out that they lied and hid from us that they feed our son a food he was intolerant to. So they can go around saying we cut them off for feeding it to him but in reality it’s over their history of undermining our parenting in front of our child, constant belittling, lashing out when we decline to do things their way, ignoring safety rules, and on and on. And out second child is anaphylactic allergic to a different food so we can never trust them to watch him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually do know a grandparent who was cut off for “feeding the baby strawberries” (it wasn’t strawberries). I know both the parents and the grandparents in this situation so it wasn’t a one sided narrative.

Baby was diagnosed severely, anaphylaxis-allergic to “strawberries”. Grandparent didn’t “believe in” allergies, said they were all about this generation being too controlling with what the kids eat and her grandson wasn’t growing up never having a “strawberries” sandwich.

Even though her grandson was hospitalized after that event, even though he could have died if EMS hadn’t responded within minutes, even though she had been told upward of a hundred times (and agreed!) not to feed him “strawberries” she still tells everyone her evil, controlling DIL cut her off “just” for feeding her grandson “strawberries”.

Wow! That grandma should be happy with just being cut off and not maimed.

Yes, and, of course this isn't the same as just feeding some food ..the context is missing here. No need to use this as an example. The grandparents here put the child's life at risk willfully. In other contexts, not this (!) it isn't as dire and the parents are in hyper control and easily prone to cutting people off for less than valid reasons.

[Anonymous]

^^ Are you a total idiot or what

[Anonymous]

Thats the rub isn't it.
Grandparents NEVER feel like anything they do rises to the level to get cut off. But they don't realize it is death by 1000 papercuts that ends it.
When every request or decision an adult makes is undermined, questioned, overruled by their parents, one day they are going to find out about strawberries and think "EFF this, no more" and cut you off.

Maybe you should ask yourself WHY you can't follow a simple request or respect a decision that an adult child makes, even if you wouldn't make it for yourself. Why is that so hard for you to do. To just not be an ass hole and then pretend like your child went crazy over a strawberry. It was never just the strawberry and you know it.

[Anonymous]

Idk. In my extended social/family circle, I only know of a couple of people who have cut off relatives. Of the ones I know about, they tend to be people I'm wary of and are drama queens about trivial stuff. For instance, the kind of person who nurses a grudge against some poor supermarket checker who made a mistake. So while I think it makes sense to cut off the qanon, racist uncle or the grandmother feeding a kid with allergies that food, in my real life, it's not those people I see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thats the rub isn't it.
Grandparents NEVER feel like anything they do rises to the level to get cut off. But they don't realize it is death by 1000 papercuts that ends it.
When every request or decision an adult makes is undermined, questioned, overruled by their parents, one day they are going to find out about strawberries and think "EFF this, no more" and cut you off.

Maybe you should ask yourself WHY you can't follow a simple request or respect a decision that an adult child makes, even if you wouldn't make it for yourself. Why is that so hard for you to do. To just not be an ass hole and then pretend like your child went crazy over a strawberry. It was never just the strawberry and you know it.

Or people just need to stop being so anal about everything- and just let some things go. Stop with the paper cut analogy. This isn't binary- to cut people off or not. There's so much nuance to consider.

[Anonymous]

Yes! I wish parents would let go of control of their adult children!!