Be honest. Which of your kids is your favorite?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t love them all the same, but I love them all equally.

My oldest is the oldest and my first born. He is also a lot like DH, and I love watching him grow up and turn into a young man. He is quiet and serious and has so much intensity. I love getting into his mind and finding out what he is thinking.
My second child is a lot like me. We like a lot of the same books and movies. We worry about the same things. I feel like I have a special bond with him because I usually know what he is thinking.
My third child is my only girl. She loves art and music and sees the beauty in everything. Everyone loves her. At her first communion, she stood up in front of the entire congregation and described love as a feeling like warm soup is filling all of the parts inside you that you didn’t know were cold and empty.
And my youngest is my baby and my extrovert with the big personality. He is the kind of kid that had teenage and adult friends that I had never met before when he was four or five years old. People just walk up to him on the playground or in the hallway, call out his name, and give him a five or a handshake.

Wtf are you babbling about?

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Depends on the day. I have 3. Usually the oldest.

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Anonymous wrote:I have no favorite. I love both of my daughters equally.

::coughbullcrrapcough::

Yeah, this. I love both my kids so much it hurts but right now, struggling a bit with the fact that one of them is just SO much easier.

Same, but I still love them equally.

Same here, but I love both my boys equally.

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Love them all the same, but there are different things I find special about each of them.

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Love both the same.

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I have three and they all equally annoy me at different times. So at any given moment, I have a least favorite. Does that count?

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I love my oldest F-Sun most

I love my youngest M-Th most.

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Anonymous wrote:Middle child. Oldest child has ASD and brings no joy to our lives. I love the youngest but she has a difficult temperament.

Do you also love your oldest?

No. Used to, but now only feel duty. There is no reciprocity and my child is violent.

This is horrible. I bet your child can feel that. It's your job as a parent to love your children unconditionally.

Until you have had a child like this keep your judgement to yourself. It is a horrible enough thing without your judgement piling on.

Signed, a mom who has spent time in the pediatric psychiatric emergency hold, on legal obligation due to my ASD child’s inability to function. At 7. I don’t have a favorite in my family but I am lucky that my ASD child is getting it together right now so I can bring the warm feelings. The pps post is a terrible situation for him/her and aggression is well established to damage parental bonds. I’m sending my thoughts to this parent.

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I have two boys. It truly depends on the situation.

I love the conversations I have with my older son. He’s perceptive, and funny, and engaging, and kind. If I was picking a favorite to go on a road trip with, it would be him.

My younger son isn’t as open, but we enjoy more of the same interests. He has a similar personality to me, so I “get” him on a level I don’t always with my first. If I was picking a favorite to do something with arriving at my destination, it would be him.

Love both those kids to the moon and back.

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I’m not going to answer which kid is my favorite, and I haven’t read all 7 pages of responses, so I apologize if this has been addressed. I’m a mom of three, and one of them is without a doubt the easiest. Mild mannered and a straight A student with an easy temperament. I have to put in very little effort to parent this one. Yet, if I can pretend to have a crystal ball, my easy kid will unlikely be the one I’m closest to down the road. The things that make her easy to parent, make her hard to connect with. She’s so independent that she is easy now, but I imagine that independence will push me out in the future. She’s hands down my favorite kid to parent. But she’s not my favorite (not saying I have one) and I will spend my life making sure we have a strong relationship until I die. My difficult kids—those devils will love me for life.

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Anonymous wrote:DP. If you have a favorite, why is it them?

I said on the first page that my son is my favorite. It's him, then three daughters. Plus a stepson and stepdaughter.
1. He's special because he's my only son (if he were my only girl he'd be special too - I am not obsessed with having a son)
2. He's a mama's boy. Even now as a grown adult, he holds my hand when we're walking somewhere, if he sits next to me on the couch he's physically touching me, if someone was even the tiniest bit mean to me, he'd be searching my face to see if I was upset, he brings flowers when he comes over, he is the only of my kids who would ask in the evening "how was your day?" I could go on and on.
3. He's super easy. Even though he's my most sensitive kid, I found it very easy to understand what he was sensitive about and why, and help him be more comfortable.
4. He writes the sweetest cards and has since he was little.

Although I feel sorry for you daughters, I can understand why in this case.

I think people here assume that because he is my favorite, I favor him. But that's not true. If anything, because he was our first, he was the one we were most cautious/strict with and the younger ones get more leeway.

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Anonymous wrote:DP. If you have a favorite, why is it them?

I said on the first page that my son is my favorite. It's him, then three daughters. Plus a stepson and stepdaughter.
1. He's special because he's my only son (if he were my only girl he'd be special too - I am not obsessed with having a son)
2. He's a mama's boy. Even now as a grown adult, he holds my hand when we're walking somewhere, if he sits next to me on the couch he's physically touching me, if someone was even the tiniest bit mean to me, he'd be searching my face to see if I was upset, he brings flowers when he comes over, he is the only of my kids who would ask in the evening "how was your day?" I could go on and on.
3. He's super easy. Even though he's my most sensitive kid, I found it very easy to understand what he was sensitive about and why, and help him be more comfortable.
4. He writes the sweetest cards and has since he was little.

Is your son married? How does he treat his husband/wife? How do you get along with your SIL/ DIL?

He's not married. He's had two serious relationships since college, and he's seemed to treat both very well from what we've seen/heard. I'm sure I'll get along with whoever he marries.

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I have 4 and can honestly say I don’t have a favorite. I always wanted a girl and have 1 girl and 3 boys, so she is the front runner to be the favorite, but she is just so dang difficult that she cannot win the title! Lol!


I know people will say bs to me, but I honestly don’t prefer one. It depends on the situation as to which one rises to the surface.

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The middle daughter right now. She’s so interesting, curious, stubborn, funny and smart. A typical 5 year old and an old soul at the same time. The other two are wonderful, too.

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Whichever one is not driving me crazy at the moment!