+2 in this household. You are actually wrong most of the time on this issue. |
To be clear, you are resentful of a kid who watched his dad die of cancer in high school? Got it. Sorry he was so much luckier than you to have his education paid for. Sorry your parents didn’t die, too.. |
I'm not PP, but similar, and, yes, we are 50+ and rented until our early 30s. In fact, most of the people I know in our DC neighborhood are similarly situated. |
i remember a discussion with my brothers we were between 8 and 11 trying to figure out whether we were rich or poor. We lived in a blue collar company town so it was tricky--all the same houses although some people had new cars and their yards and houses were nicer than ours and some had crappier cars and yards and houses. I suppose there are kids who absolutely know they are poor and kids who absolutely know they are rich and a lot in between who try to puzzle it out, but I don't think you can stop kids from trying to figure out their point of view on this. |
I'm guessing he would have had that money even if his father hadn't died, unless his parents were divorced or his mother had died too. Even if it was life insurance, people buy life insurance based on what they expect to provide if they remain alive, don't they? |
If the path to at least UMC wealth is so simply most people would be able to achieve it. You're not as bright as you think you are. And marriage is not going to happen for everyone. |
Phew. This response was everything. and the bolded is soo true and this is exactly the situation that Black Americans are in. |
Only if it was as easy peasy as that. Lol |
Give me a break |
LOL. You got owned. Seriously, just take the L and move on. No one in this thread is talking about the hardship of a parent with cancer. We are talking about money. And your DH received an inheritance that put him way ahead of 99% of people financially. Just STFU. |
Seriously. What kind of dork kid “cruises around” in a 7 series? That is an old man car. |
Just remind yourself that nobody chooses to be born. You’re born into the family you’re born into and it is a totally random thing. Whether you were raised with money or not, whether you are attractive or not, weather you are healthy, smart, athletic, whether your parents had mental health issues or not etc. ALL of this is just...luck of the draw. Nobody gets to choose their windfalls. Nobody gets everything. Some people get nothing. Rich kids didn’t choose to be born into a family that would pass on money. They got lucky. If they don’t appreciate or understand the privilege it provides, that’s a different conversation. You can be jealous in the same way you may be jealous of someone who is more beautiful than you. They were also born into it. You can be resentful at the system that means wealthy people just get wealthier as money is passed from generation to generation. That is a flaw in the way our country organizes taxation. But should you resent them as people just because of their family of origin? I don’t know... |
Mmmmm NP here and I disagree with the 99% figure. 99% of people don’t have college loans. It might make you feel better to imagine you are in the vast majority of people saddled with a ton of college debt, but that’s just not the case. The figure is closer to 15%. |
My DH lost his father in elementary school. It was a tragic, violent death. He didn't get an inheritance so he grew up without a parent and no money. That's what we're talking about here. |
Isn't that life? Why begrudge someone's good decisions? From now on you make good financial choices so that your children can be one of those rich people. I grew up dirt poor, no food no clothes. We couldn't even afford a home phone. I take pride in being the first one in my family to make a good decision and potentially having the ability to have college savings and a home down payment for my kids. My good decision was not getting pregnant in highschool or shortly after and not marrying in my early 20s. |