Could be worse. My parents COULD do all that yet they didn’t/don’t. That’s even harder to comprehend. |
When I was a teen at my home country in the 90s, one of our neighbors bought a used white Honda and parked it under our apartment building. It was a car that my parents would never be able to afford, and it looked so gorgeous to me that I even wrote a poem about how perfect it is and how I wish I could have one later in life
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NP here, but honestly it seems that whoever has more than someone else is privileged. In that case everyone is privileged in some way, including you and me and that guy next to you. Also, she did make her money. True, her husband didn’t have to pay for college, but still had to go out and earn a living. There is quite a bit of gray space between poor and rich. |
You may have felt average, but you weren’t. And it simply isn’t possible that on 500k you couldn’t afford a nice house in a good school system. Maybe you had more expensive tastes or just wanted to feel like the wealthiest person in the room or were just more comfortable in a different setting, but you were certainly able to afford it. |
Sit down. You have no idea how difficult the immigration process is here in the US. You also have no idea how much it hamstrings folks and keeps them from earning at their full potential for decades. H-1b workers in many cases are stuck with the same employer for years on end waiting for that green card. They have to stick it out with no vertical movement so they do not jeopardize their green card applications. you have any idea how miserable it is to not be promoted or try to change jobs because you have to wait 10+ years for a green card? You also don't understand the sacrifice of leaving an entire family behind and likely not being able to visit for years (particularly if one is in the H-1b, I-140, I-485 loop that leasts for decades in some cases). To say that immigrants trying to navigate this process are privileged is the height of ignorance. And congrats to you for not having experienced it. |
I didn't say I was 100% self made. Both spouse and I grew up in safe neighborhoods and intact families. No substance abuse, violence, etc. Good suburban schools. All gifts from our parents who cared for us deeply. But - no trust funds, tuition paid for, or other things that are always mentioned. The path to at least UMC wealth in the US is pretty simple. Be smart, work hard, have a stable marriage, and avoid human failings like substance abuse, crime, and the like. |
Take risks, fail get up and try it all over. At some point you are likely to make it. Only in America! |
Seriously, be an entrepreneur. If you lack the guts, accept your fate and get out of the way. |
I grew up pretty privileged and had access to the camps and schools and things that provide connections to stay rich later in life.
I am 45 now and will soon have access to the family wealth that gave me those privileges. I spent a few decades without that security even though I knew in the back of my mind I would have it at some point. My kids will be able to benefit hugely and I plan to make their lives easier in certain ways. I would definitely be resentful of how money makes life easier for those who have it if I didn't have it. That is the main thing about it. |
That's what rich kids don't understand. It's extremely easy to take risks when you know you have a cushion of wealth to fall back on when you fail. When you're in a position where a failed investment is a major catastrophe for your family finances, the risk calculation is much different. It is not unintelligent to avoid risks like this - quite the opposite, it's often reckless for people to make high risk investment choices with their family's future on the line. So please, even if you lie to yourself, stop lying to the non-wealthy about how it's all because they aren't taking more risks. It's BS and we know it. |
Nope. And this is why MC people are so angry. Respectable lower class/blue collar types don’t envy you. They work hard, then go home, go to church, attend to their families, whatever. They’re not looking at some middle manager in a McMansion out in Loudon County trying to figure out how to change places. And actual poor people or the less respectable LC frankly don’t give a single f$CK about anything you do. They sure as hell wouldn’t want to trade places. They love their lives with a reckless abandon that, psychologically, approximates the freedom that comes with wealth. Nope, it’s only the middle class. Close enough to real money to see it, and pine for it. Paying hefty taxes on regular income, while the rich work the system and the poor attract more and more benefits for doing less and less. This is why they’re so angry, trying to fight people in grocery stores over wearing a mask like idiots. The simmer is rising to a boil. |
get over it. somewhere in the family line someone worked their ass off and they are now enjoying. why dont you work your ass off so the ones that come after you can enjoy it too! |
+1 I live in DC and did have tuition and home purchase paid for by parents. But also my dad worked 3 jobs, while also in school, to support us when I was born. They were living in a studio apartment at the time with 4 people - parents, me and a grandparent. My grandparents worked double shifts in clothing sweatshops in Queens through the 90’s to help. My parents eventually did pretty well but don’t think I don’t understand what working ones tail off is, and that hard work was not engrained in my at all costs, for better and for worse. |
Yeah, anyone who has a work ethic and even an ounce of pride does not, as an adult, let mommy and daddy buy them a house. It was readily available to me as well, but by the time I was ready to buy our first house I was way beyond needing someone else to pay for it. But sure, keep patting yourself on the back. |
You are right! My bad, PP, He was so privileged to watch his dad die of cancer when he was a sophomore in high school! Thanks for setting me straight. |