Where on earth does one meet men in midlife?

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Anonymous wrote:I am a divorced woman in my 60s who is not looking for a man but if I was I would easily find one on the golf course. I play on public courses, sometimes they put me with other players if there is less than four players in their group. Other times I end up playing with two or three other singles, none of us know each other. The ones I end up playing with are 90% guys and an occasional woman or two, and many of them are single. They range in age from late teens to late 80s with many in your age range. Typically it is fun to chat with them and even during covid it is not at all necessary to get closer than 6 or even 10 or more feet from anyone while playing golf.

You do not really need to be any good at golf. On most public courses there are plenty of people who are just learning or who have played for years and suck anyway. Lots of us out there just hacking around and having fun. If you are worried about it take a few lessons before you play a real game.

I go by myself but if you must go with a friend bring one other woman but no more than that. I find the guys, of all ages, are usually friendly and nice almost without exception.

If you are looking for a high earner or a man with means then skip the public courses and go for a country club, assuming you can afford it.

Golf courses are just full of guys, some of them are already taken obviously but there are also plenty who aren't.

Fantastic advice here but let me add one important thing: you MUST "keep pace" with the group! Your score does not matter but if you (like most beginners) play too slowly THAT will annoy your group and the course marshals and you just blew any dating opportunities. Hanging out on the putting green or driving range might also be a great way to "ask that guy for some help".

+1 on keeping pace.

And +1 on a single woman feeling comfortable golfing as a single. I'm a golfing man and love when a woman playing as a single (whether or not she's actually single, lol) gets thrown in to my group. Generally better conversationalists, way less dramatic than random male singles about golf (men who yell at themselves, throw clubs, etc.), and more fun to play a round of golf with.

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Anonymous wrote:If I end up single later 50 now), I plan to try dating women.

Unfortunately, this may be the most challenging strategy anyone has suggested in this thread. Among women seeking women there is a definite bias against mid-life experimenters.

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OP you should ask my neighbor. She is late 40's with 2 kids and was divorced a couple of years ago. I see she has a male friend over at least half of the nights. 3 or 4 different men and they slip away around mid night.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you need a man?

Cock, companionship and money

Money? That's sad.

Be that as it may, it’s a driving force for many women

Of course it is, it's #1. For men it's sex.

No more sad than sexual requirements that men require.

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Anonymous wrote:How long ago was your divorce final?

Ugh. Let her move on with her life. At 50 years old, why waste time. Start living hon!

Exactly, and don't waste any more time on men. She'll end up a caretaker or having medical bills if she gets married.

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Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s divorced dad checking in. I'm tall, in shape, professional job, PhD, have hair on my head, still get hard, is well-endowed, etc. I've had at least 130 first dates since getting divorced. Met almost all of them online. Ages have been 23-55, most have been within 10 years of me.

Of the last three girlfriends, one was 8 years younger, one was 5 years younger, and the current item is 3 years younger (I think I like her the best). I would never date anyone older than me. Why should I?

I am 43. This shocks me. I am divorced. You are too old for me.

Yes the 20s and 30s are way too young for him, it's actually creepy. However, the younger women want the shortcut in life. He can provide that if they marry, or show them a good time financially. Men and women view life differently, women are more realistic and realize lifestyle is most important.