Where on earth does one meet men in midlife?

[Anonymous]

57 yo F here, dating 48 and 46 yos from Bumble and Tinder

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:57 yo F here, dating 48 and 46 yos from Bumble and Tinder

Having sex or actual serious dating? Are they recently divorced men?

[Anonymous]

Online Dating is really tiring, so I am going back to traditional dating. It harder to meet people but I need just one great one.

I might try tennis nos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met my wife at the Episcopal Church.

This is where I met my husband.

(And honey, please get off DCUM and look at those home improvement project links I just sent you.)

[Anonymous]

I’m super skeptical that an average looking women over 50 could date a guy under 50 who is more than 5 years younger. I’ve just never seen it, except with movie stars. In my experience, the guys are usually a couple years older or up to 10 years older.

[Anonymous]

Mid 50s divorced dad checking in. I'm tall, in shape, professional job, PhD, have hair on my head, still get hard, is well-endowed, etc. I've had at least 130 first dates since getting divorced. Met almost all of them online. Ages have been 23-55, most have been within 10 years of me.

Of the last three girlfriends, one was 8 years younger, one was 5 years younger, and the current item is 3 years younger (I think I like her the best). I would never date anyone older than me. Why should I?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s divorced dad checking in. I'm tall, in shape, professional job, PhD, have hair on my head, still get hard, is well-endowed, etc. I've had at least 130 first dates since getting divorced. Met almost all of them online. Ages have been 23-55, most have been within 10 years of me.

Of the last three girlfriends, one was 8 years younger, one was 5 years younger, and the current item is 3 years younger (I think I like her the best). I would never date anyone older than me. Why should I?

You sound kind of gross. Why should 22-55 year olds date you? You're older than them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s divorced dad checking in. I'm tall, in shape, professional job, PhD, have hair on my head, still get hard, is well-endowed, etc. I've had at least 130 first dates since getting divorced. Met almost all of them online. Ages have been 23-55, most have been within 10 years of me.

Of the last three girlfriends, one was 8 years younger, one was 5 years younger, and the current item is 3 years younger (I think I like her the best). I would never date anyone older than me. Why should I?

You sound kind of gross. Why should 22-55 year olds date you? You're older than them.

NP. I've known only two women in their 20s/30s who have "dated" much older men. I would say that the daddy issues trope rings true. I will add that they had low self esteem and these men obviously used them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s divorced dad checking in. I'm tall, in shape, professional job, PhD, have hair on my head, still get hard, is well-endowed, etc. I've had at least 130 first dates since getting divorced. Met almost all of them online. Ages have been 23-55, most have been within 10 years of me.

Of the last three girlfriends, one was 8 years younger, one was 5 years younger, and the current item is 3 years younger (I think I like her the best). I would never date anyone older than me. Why should I?

You sound kind of gross. Why should 22-55 year olds date you? You're older than them.

NP. I've known only two women in their 20s/30s who have "dated" much older men. I would say that the daddy issues trope rings true. I will add that they had low self esteem and these men obviously used them.

Eh. My brothers both married much younger 15 and -20 years younger women. Both marriages are going on 20 years. Back in the beginning, I thought these girls were after money and that my brothers couldn't engage/wouldn't impress women their own age. Now, I see that they have solid, loving relationships. You can't know someone's motivations, and people love who they love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:57 yo F here, dating 48 and 46 yos from Bumble and Tinder

Having sex or actual serious dating? Are they recently divorced men?

Well, we go on actual dates. And talk in between dates. Sex with one. What is serious dating at our ages? Both men have been divorced for 10-12 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m super skeptical that an average looking women over 50 could date a guy under 50 who is more than 5 years younger. I’ve just never seen it, except with movie stars. In my experience, the guys are usually a couple years older or up to 10 years older.

I just posted upthread that I am dating men 8-10 years younger. I don't know what to tell you. I look great for my age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m super skeptical that an average looking women over 50 could date a guy under 50 who is more than 5 years younger. I’ve just never seen it, except with movie stars. In my experience, the guys are usually a couple years older or up to 10 years older.

I just posted upthread that I am dating men 8-10 years younger. I don't know what to tell you. I look great for my age.

80-20 rule. 20% of the decent women or men are getting 80% of the dating pool available to them. A good looking and put-together 50 year old can easily get a younger date. They are more likely the exception not the rule at this point, simply because a lot of people in their 50s have really fallen apart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s divorced dad checking in. I'm tall, in shape, professional job, PhD, have hair on my head, still get hard, is well-endowed, etc. I've had at least 130 first dates since getting divorced. Met almost all of them online. Ages have been 23-55, most have been within 10 years of me.

Of the last three girlfriends, one was 8 years younger, one was 5 years younger, and the current item is 3 years younger (I think I like her the best). I would never date anyone older than me. Why should I?

PhD in barfology.

[Anonymous]

I’ve got an older (70s) friend who has dated men 5-25 years younger than she is. Never older. It’s not necessarily about “hotness”, more about flirtatious energy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s divorced dad checking in. I'm tall, in shape, professional job, PhD, have hair on my head, still get hard, is well-endowed, etc. I've had at least 130 first dates since getting divorced. Met almost all of them online. Ages have been 23-55, most have been within 10 years of me.

Of the last three girlfriends, one was 8 years younger, one was 5 years younger, and the current item is 3 years younger (I think I like her the best). I would never date anyone older than me. Why should I?

An interesting question is, why wouldn’t you? It’s kind of shocking that someone your age - middle aged- would be so close minded to dating someone who has lived two or three or five years more than you. Are you so conservative, or into gender stereotypes, or obsessed with younger women, that the idea or reality of dating someone older than you is so difficult? This is a serious question. Do you just want a better looking body or face? Is it a status thing? Or do you want a real relationship with another person, who might have a few more wrinkles than you and happen to be born a couple years before you? Some people are so narrow minded, despite all of their years of education or lived experiences. Many of the guys like you are also fathers and daughters. How do you reconcile the fact that you tell your daughter her worth is more than her body and her face and her age, and then you yourself can’t look beyond those same things when you’re forming relationships? Not talking about dating someone 10 years older than you, I’m talking about the fact that you seem to be proud not to consider anyone a couple years older than you.