Where on earth does one meet men in midlife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s divorced dad checking in. I'm tall, in shape, professional job, PhD, have hair on my head, still get hard, is well-endowed, etc. I've had at least 130 first dates since getting divorced. Met almost all of them online. Ages have been 23-55, most have been within 10 years of me.

Of the last three girlfriends, one was 8 years younger, one was 5 years younger, and the current item is 3 years younger (I think I like her the best). I would never date anyone older than me. Why should I?

I am 43. This shocks me. I am divorced. You are too old for me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m super skeptical that an average looking women over 50 could date a guy under 50 who is more than 5 years younger. I’ve just never seen it, except with movie stars. In my experience, the guys are usually a couple years older or up to 10 years older.

I just posted upthread that I am dating men 8-10 years younger. I don't know what to tell you. I look great for my age.

I’m 45 and doing the same. High 6 figure earner who is attractive and fit. It’s not hard, none of us want to remarry and we have all had our kids- life is short why limit yourself to only older men? Silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:07:08, I work FT and have a few M in the bank and though it’s true I can’t live the way I did with two incomes, I divorced someone who makes >$500K because life is too short for bad relationships. Note my existing money was not won in the divorce either, just in case you were going to go there.

I would like a real and relationship that is better than my marriage was. Having been burned by marriage I’m hesitant to try again but would marry someone trustworthy and kind. I am well educated so probably wouldn’t have as much in common with someone who isn’t.

NP guy 50s: why do you want to get married ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:07:08, I work FT and have a few M in the bank and though it’s true I can’t live the way I did with two incomes, I divorced someone who makes >$500K because life is too short for bad relationships. Note my existing money was not won in the divorce either, just in case you were going to go there.

I would like a real and relationship that is better than my marriage was. Having been burned by marriage I’m hesitant to try again but would marry someone trustworthy and kind. I am well educated so probably wouldn’t have as much in common with someone who isn’t.

NP guy 50s: why do you want to get married ?

Some people truly value the institution, even if it is rigged against them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:50 and newly single. Ready to move on. But where/how on earth does one meet men these days? Is it the most depressing and scant selection imaginable or are there inexplicably single / available men to date at this age?

The denture cream aisle at CVS?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s divorced dad checking in. I'm tall, in shape, professional job, PhD, have hair on my head, still get hard, is well-endowed, etc. I've had at least 130 first dates since getting divorced. Met almost all of them online. Ages have been 23-55, most have been within 10 years of me.

Of the last three girlfriends, one was 8 years younger, one was 5 years younger, and the current item is 3 years younger (I think I like her the best). I would never date anyone older than me. Why should I?

Puke!

- signed, another 50's guy.

[Anonymous]

Go out! Stop asking a forum of married/ divorced women. Who the f$ck cares?!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go out! Stop asking a forum of married/ divorced women. Who the f$ck cares?!!!

Why are you here?

[Anonymous]

I am a divorced woman in my 60s who is not looking for a man but if I was I would easily find one on the golf course. I play on public courses, sometimes they put me with other players if there is less than four players in their group. Other times I end up playing with two or three other singles, none of us know each other. The ones I end up playing with are 90% guys and an occasional woman or two, and many of them are single. They range in age from late teens to late 80s with many in your age range. Typically it is fun to chat with them and even during covid it is not at all necessary to get closer than 6 or even 10 or more feet from anyone while playing golf.

You do not really need to be any good at golf. On most public courses there are plenty of people who are just learning or who have played for years and suck anyway. Lots of us out there just hacking around and having fun. If you are worried about it take a few lessons before you play a real game.

I go by myself but if you must go with a friend bring one other woman but no more than that. I find the guys, of all ages, are usually friendly and nice almost without exception.

If you are looking for a high earner or a man with means then skip the public courses and go for a country club, assuming you can afford it.

Golf courses are just full of guys, some of them are already taken obviously but there are also plenty who aren't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m super skeptical that an average looking women over 50 could date a guy under 50 who is more than 5 years younger. I’ve just never seen it, except with movie stars. In my experience, the guys are usually a couple years older or up to 10 years older.

I just posted upthread that I am dating men 8-10 years younger. I don't know what to tell you. I look great for my age.

I’m 45 and doing the same. High 6 figure earner who is attractive and fit. It’s not hard, none of us want to remarry and we have all had our kids- life is short why limit yourself to only older men? Silly.

Well, I'm realistic. I'm a low or mid six figures earner who is maybe a 6 on a 1-10 scale (basically average). No way I'm kidding myself that some guy in his 30s would be interested in me for more than a hot minute. You guys sound like you are probably really good looking -- I'm sure that helps! I bet when you were younger, guys bought you drinks at bars, and cops let you off with just a warning for speeding...

[Anonymous]

Single men in my professional networks (not place of work), old college friends, single dads at PTO meetings . . . lots of great men are age out there, and not on the dating apps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s divorced dad checking in. I'm tall, in shape, professional job, PhD, have hair on my head, still get hard, is well-endowed, etc. I've had at least 130 first dates since getting divorced. Met almost all of them online. Ages have been 23-55, most have been within 10 years of me.

Of the last three girlfriends, one was 8 years younger, one was 5 years younger, and the current item is 3 years younger (I think I like her the best). I would never date anyone older than me. Why should I?

PhD in barfology.

Hahaha yes!

[Anonymous]

Adult book stores!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m super skeptical that an average looking women over 50 could date a guy under 50 who is more than 5 years younger. I’ve just never seen it, except with movie stars. In my experience, the guys are usually a couple years older or up to 10 years older.

I just posted upthread that I am dating men 8-10 years younger. I don't know what to tell you. I look great for my age.

I’m 45 and doing the same. High 6 figure earner who is attractive and fit. It’s not hard, none of us want to remarry and we have all had our kids- life is short why limit yourself to only older men? Silly.

Well, I'm realistic. I'm a low or mid six figures earner who is maybe a 6 on a 1-10 scale (basically average). No way I'm kidding myself that some guy in his 30s would be interested in me for more than a hot minute. You guys sound like you are probably really good looking -- I'm sure that helps! I bet when you were younger, guys bought you drinks at bars, and cops let you off with just a warning for speeding...

I'm a fat black 5 and cops let me off for speeding too. You can polish the outside up a point or two with a good personality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s divorced dad checking in. I'm tall, in shape, professional job, PhD, have hair on my head, still get hard, is well-endowed, etc. I've had at least 130 first dates since getting divorced. Met almost all of them online. Ages have been 23-55, most have been within 10 years of me.

Of the last three girlfriends, one was 8 years younger, one was 5 years younger, and the current item is 3 years younger (I think I like her the best). I would never date anyone older than me. Why should I?

You sound kind of gross. Why should 22-55 year olds date you? You're older than them.

Sounds like the dating market disagrees with your "kind of gross" assessment.