Am I Going to be Obscenely Old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I going to be obscenely old if I don't have a baby until 33-35? I know this is a ridiculous question but at 30, all of my friends are already married and starting to have babies and I am worried I'll be the oldest mom at school dropoff, you know?

Nope!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Half my gfs waited until after 35. They wanted to finish grad school and get settled. Well, guess what? Not a single one was able to conceive naturally and about a third couldn't carry a baby to term even after getting help conceiving.

I don't know the end game of you claiming its fine to wait but you're wrong.

Mother Nature doesn't want deformed kids so she prevents them from entering the populace. She accomplishes this through difficulty conceiving and the prevalence of miscarriages.

Don't fight her- she always wins.

The stories we tell ourselves about others.....

No one is claiming it’s ok to wait. Many of us are sharing that circumstances beyond just work prevented trying earlier, and did not have issues. Half your girlfriends is a confirmation bias. And half my girlfriends having kids NATURALLY after 40 is as well. Neither one of us is wrong, or right. It just is.

[Anonymous]

I hate these stupid questions on which a young woman asks whether she is too old when she knows she isn’t and just wants attention
and validation.

[Anonymous]

My parents were 34 when they had me, and they have never been obscenely old. Granted, I am their youngest of several, but still. It’s a pretty average age to have kids nowadays. But you are married, etc. and are sure you want kids, I wouldn’t choose to wait much longer than 32 to start trying. I started trying at 27 and had fertility issues of the bat.

[Anonymous]

No more so than you will be not having children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Half my gfs waited until after 35. They wanted to finish grad school and get settled. Well, guess what? Not a single one was able to conceive naturally and about a third couldn't carry a baby to term even after getting help conceiving.

I don't know the end game of you claiming its fine to wait but you're wrong.

Mother Nature doesn't want deformed kids so she prevents them from entering the populace. She accomplishes this through difficulty conceiving and the prevalence of miscarriages.

Don't fight her- she always wins.

So all of your friends were able to get pregnant and have children after 35, half of them without any assistance.

Those who did need assistance I wager a out 25% would have needed help at 25 years old too.

Your post also makes it seem like the woman's age is the determine factor of fertility issues which it isn't.

Of your friends I'm sure the fertility issues where contributed to by their partner.

I'm sure you'll come back and tell me male fertility and sperm quality isn't an issue because that's what your kind does.

[Anonymous]

You've more likely to give birth to a preterm baby in your 20s and 40s so if you want to avoid a preterm birth aim for pregnancy in your 30s

[Anonymous]

What a weird thread. A handful (maybe just one?) of lunatics attempting to contradict all of current obstetric guidance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a weird thread. A handful (maybe just one?) of lunatics attempting to contradict all of current obstetric guidance.

I think there’s a lot of misinterpreting of posts going on here. Yes, fertility declines with age, but no, it’s not a precipitous drop at 35, and many women can get pregnant from 35-40, and some after 40 as well. Unfortunately, you won’t know if that’s true for you as an individual until you try. So, sure, if you can, start your family before 35, but at the same time, it’s not necessarily game over if you haven’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a weird thread. A handful (maybe just one?) of lunatics attempting to contradict all of current obstetric guidance.

I think there’s a lot of misinterpreting of posts going on here. Yes, fertility declines with age, but no, it’s not a precipitous drop at 35, and many women can get pregnant from 35-40, and some after 40 as well. Unfortunately, you won’t know if that’s true for you as an individual until you try. So, sure, if you can, start your family before 35, but at the same time, it’s not necessarily game over if you haven’t.

But the PPs in agreement with your statement aren't saying its 100% impossible. They're saying it's much more difficult and often impossible. That is true and indisputable. Yet you have one very dedicated lunatic claiming the difference in pregnancy chances for a 28 year old versus a 41 year old are negligible. That is demonstrably false. And a really weird claim to make because it's obviously false. It's akin to the posts claiming you can be morbidly obese and perfectly healthy at the same time.

[Anonymous]

The current obstetric guidelines are dated and many obs disagree with them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a weird thread. A handful (maybe just one?) of lunatics attempting to contradict all of current obstetric guidance.

I think there’s a lot of misinterpreting of posts going on here. Yes, fertility declines with age, but no, it’s not a precipitous drop at 35, and many women can get pregnant from 35-40, and some after 40 as well. Unfortunately, you won’t know if that’s true for you as an individual until you try. So, sure, if you can, start your family before 35, but at the same time, it’s not necessarily game over if you haven’t.

But the PPs in agreement with your statement aren't saying its 100% impossible. They're saying it's much more difficult and often impossible. That is true and indisputable. Yet you have one very dedicated lunatic claiming the difference in pregnancy chances for a 28 year old versus a 41 year old are negligible. That is demonstrably false. And a really weird claim to make because it's obviously false. It's akin to the posts claiming you can be morbidly obese and perfectly healthy at the same time.

Except for it's not indisputable. I find it really strange you are so invested in women's fertility and insistent that if you are 35 it's all downhill and you will struggle, Obstetricians don't even subscribe to that notion anymore.
I really feel you are an incel getting your jollies from trying to make women feel like they are junk after 30,The mother nature crap you all use is a dead give away

[Anonymous]

I had mine at 21 23 25 27 29 31... No one cares

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had mine at 21 23 25 27 29 31... No one cares

You have six kids in DC???????????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a weird thread. A handful (maybe just one?) of lunatics attempting to contradict all of current obstetric guidance.

I think there’s a lot of misinterpreting of posts going on here. Yes, fertility declines with age, but no, it’s not a precipitous drop at 35, and many women can get pregnant from 35-40, and some after 40 as well. Unfortunately, you won’t know if that’s true for you as an individual until you try. So, sure, if you can, start your family before 35, but at the same time, it’s not necessarily game over if you haven’t.

But the PPs in agreement with your statement aren't saying its 100% impossible. They're saying it's much more difficult and often impossible. That is true and indisputable. Yet you have one very dedicated lunatic claiming the difference in pregnancy chances for a 28 year old versus a 41 year old are negligible. That is demonstrably false. And a really weird claim to make because it's obviously false. It's akin to the posts claiming you can be morbidly obese and perfectly healthy at the same time.

Except for it's not indisputable. I find it really strange you are so invested in women's fertility and insistent that if you are 35 it's all downhill and you will struggle, Obstetricians don't even subscribe to that notion anymore.
I really feel you are an incel getting your jollies from trying to make women feel like they are junk after 30,The mother nature crap you all use is a dead give away

Found the lunatic. You're attacking everyone that disagrees with you. It's clear as day that many different people are posting that increased age mean increased odds. It's not one person. The language gives it away. Jeff knows this via IPs.

But there's just one you trying to shoot it down. What is that? Why do you hate men? Have they rejected you all your life?