New Yorker cover going viral (millennial woman, childless, cats, drinking alone in apt on zoom)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unmade bed, used ppe and old Chinese on the floor suggest a gal who's so depressed she can't even take care of herself. Yet when she goes to visit her family over the holidays (likely in flyover country), she'll posture she's happy with an exciting job in the big coastal city, and is just way too busy for a serious relationship. Meanwhile her "simple" cousins she always secretly judged never left the hometown's region, they became nurses, teachers or stay at home moms — they're married with kids and a mortgage.

What makes you think she'd be any less depressed with 10 kids and a low-wage job in a flyover state?

If getting married and having kids was SUCH a great deal, then more women would chose it. Conversely, if it's so great, why the need to be so defensive about women who don't chose it ...

I'm married with a good job and a kid and a mortgage, and let me tell you, I do NOT feel like I have such a great life compared to my single friends. During the pandemic I have been a little worried sometimes about them being alone, but I have much more often wished I could trade places with them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:by Adrian Tomine, “Love Life.”

What’s interesting about this illustration is the scenario it depicts—slovenly room, pills, alcohol, junk food, loner, slob, in front of computer—is portrayed as shameful and an object of ridicule for men e.g. incel. But on the cover of The New Yorker, the woman is portrayed as dignified, strong and stoic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see a woman who is being a fake. She is pretending she has it all together. If she was comfortable with the way she is living then she would not have a screen set up behind her to hide the clutter. And she wouldn't get all prettied up from the waist up when obviously that is not her day to day 24 / 7 persona.

She has set up a lamp to shine on her face. She has put jewelry on and a nice blouse. The parts of her that the laptop camera does not see is very different from the image she is trying to project. She has the laptop set up on a bunch of books so that whoever she is chatting with on line can't see the disarray of her home.

The sink is full of dishes. The bed is unmade. Trash and clutter all over the floor. There is lots of wine in her kitchen but no actual food.

She has a couple of cats for company and it is obvious she video chats on line often. She is doing the best she can to have a social life.

Same. The bottle of pills behind the camera, all the bottles of wine on the fridge. Plus she looks so stiff in the body parts visible to the camera. The cats seem more relaxed than her.

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[Anonymous]

So I showed my DH this drawing. I asked him if he thought she was happy. He said yes. He said if all he saw was her smiling pretty face, he would say she is happy. And even if he saw her whole apartment, he would still say she is happy.

[Anonymous]

Is she is happy, why is she hiding how she lives from the person on the other end of the zoom? Why the divider thing behind her? Because she's clearly embarrassed with how she's living.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she is happy, why is she hiding how she lives from the person on the other end of the zoom? Why the divider thing behind her? Because she's clearly embarrassed with how she's living.

No one here cleans before company comes over? Odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I showed my DH this drawing. I asked him if he thought she was happy. He said yes. He said if all he saw was her smiling pretty face, he would say she is happy. And even if he saw her whole apartment, he would still say she is happy.

Really? I look at her and sense more along the lines of...

[Anonymous]

What “remake” are people talking about with a baby and a Bible?? I just spent forever googling for it... very confused.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she is happy, why is she hiding how she lives from the person on the other end of the zoom? Why the divider thing behind her? Because she's clearly embarrassed with how she's living.

This rings false because when DCUM started WFH in greater numbers they were all in a panic about how to position their camera and what to wear "on top" that still looks professional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What “remake” are people talking about with a baby and a Bible?? I just spent forever googling for it... very confused.

It’s posted earlier in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:by Adrian Tomine, “Love Life.”

What’s interesting about this illustration is the scenario it depicts—slovenly room, pills, alcohol, junk food, loner, slob, in front of computer—is portrayed as shameful and an object of ridicule for men e.g. incel. But on the cover of The New Yorker, the woman is portrayed as dignified, strong and stoic.

Wow, this really is a Rorschach test.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unmade bed, used ppe and old Chinese on the floor suggest a gal who's so depressed she can't even take care of herself. Yet when she goes to visit her family over the holidays (likely in flyover country), she'll posture she's happy with an exciting job in the big coastal city, and is just way too busy for a serious relationship. Meanwhile her "simple" cousins she always secretly judged never left the hometown's region, they became nurses, teachers or stay at home moms — they're married with kids and a mortgage.

What makes you think that this woman is not a nurse or a teacher? Or that she doesn’t have a mortgage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:by Adrian Tomine, “Love Life.”

What’s interesting about this illustration is the scenario it depicts—slovenly room, pills, alcohol, junk food, loner, slob, in front of computer—is portrayed as shameful and an object of ridicule for men e.g. incel. But on the cover of The New Yorker, the woman is portrayed as dignified, strong and stoic.

she’s not an incel! she’s cute and on a zoom date! and surrounded by evidence of WFH pandemic life, not basement dwelling.

[Anonymous]

What do yo all think that blue thing on the floor is? It looks like a sippy cup for a toddler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do yo all think that blue thing on the floor is? It looks like a sippy cup for a toddler.

lol, this?