What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thin and very pretty women.

Not true on the “very pretty”

Maybe in nyc or the south but not in dc or boston or sf or Seattle

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is not really my bag but I just remembered a woman I used to hang out with who basically wanted exactly this, and I think her experience my be useful to hear about.

So she was early 30s, cute but not gorgeous, smart but not mega-successful, well educated. She had very specific ideas about what she wanted in a spouse -- high income, who liked to travel a lot and had the means to do so, liberal but not crunchy, attractive, preppy, wanted a family.

First, she lost about 20 pounds, developed a mild eating disorder, and started posting a ton of selfies to social media of her out drinking, on vacation, holding friends babies, going to work events. Basically the same kind of stuff she was looking for a husband to do with her.

Then she scoured social media and dating sites to identify men who met these requirements. Once she had one in her sights, she worked connections and angles to get near him. She was clever because she didn't really date guys through dating sites. She would identify them that way but then find a way to connect to them offline, through a colleague or friend or something. It was creepy/stalkery but also kind of inspired because it allowed her to both identify men and find out what they were looking for in a partner, but then meet them in ways that helped her stand out from the crowd of women on dating apps.

Then when she dated them, she'd sculpt her personality to match their interests (which she knew because she'd read their dating profiles, though they didn't always know that). She liked the same bands, the same sports teams, and the same activities. She took an active interest in their families (dudes from UMC families like this a lot, apparently).

It took her about four tries, but she finally wound up landing a recently divorced lawyer who liked to travel. The recently divorced thing turned out to be key -- I think it helped her to be able to present herself as a younger, hotter version of his ex-wife, while also filling in all the holes his prior marriage had left (someone to hang out with, someone to listen, etc.). He was kind of vulnerable so it made him a little easier to suck in.

Anyway, they got married and I think have one or two kids now. I will note that the minute they were engaged, she started gaining back the weight and stopped dressing as sexy. No idea if he cares about that, just a note.

This is literally the only story I know of a woman doing what OP wants and being successful. It's moderately insane to me and I really wonder if this woman actually cares for her husband (maybe it doesn't matter? I don't know). I also wonder how much he knows about the way she tracked him down. I think they have a meet cute story but I don't know if he is aware of the degree to which she orchestrated it. Maybe he does and finds it flattering. This is not how I would want to meet my spouse, but I get that dating is hard and it can be frustrating to feel like you aren't getting traction with the type of person you think you would be happiest with.

But there you go. Tried and tested.

Wow. Impressive.