What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone keeps saying "be thin" but I seriously dated only this kind of guy, and was proposed to by two (before DH). And I've always been thick (not fat, but size 12). UMC guys sometimes like thick women just like poor guys sometimes do.

How tall are you though? There’s a big difference between 5’1 and 5’7 at that size.

[Anonymous]

Successful men (ivy educated country club types from good families ) usually meet and marry women who are similarly connected and already in same social circle or from a similar background. That’s my experience observing from within this group but not with the same upbringing (clubs, Nantucket, private schools etc).....I’m pretty and smart and fit and educated and funny but I’m missing that one hook.

[Anonymous]

PP again. I actually think these men are afraid to date outside their social circle. Even if they find a woman attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP again. I actually think these men are afraid to date outside their social circle. Even if they find a woman attractive.

I disagree. I'm UMC, but from NJ. My fiancé is from London, "old money", and Oxford educated. He knows I'm not stupid, attraction is there, and most importantly, I get on well with his family and he thinks I'd be a good mother. Social circle isn't everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP again. I actually think these men are afraid to date outside their social circle. Even if they find a woman attractive.

I disagree. I'm UMC, but from NJ. My fiancé is from London, "old money", and Oxford educated. He knows I'm not stupid, attraction is there, and most importantly, I get on well with his family and he thinks I'd be a good mother. Social circle isn't everything.

I’m sure his family is less than pleased about you but too polite to let on.

[Anonymous]

Like attracts like. You’re describing someone who takes care of themselves, works hard, is well-educated without much family dysfunction. They are looking for the same.

Men are easy. They like: happy, sexy, fun.

Sounds like you need to work on you before you can land a catch. This isn’t the movies where you’re going to be noticed by the hot guy and suddenly blossom from ugly duckling to swan because he sees your inner beauty. You need to blossom first, then you’ll get noticed.

[Anonymous]

Get a recommendation for a great hair stylist and an appointment for a makeover to learn to apply (subtle) and really take care of yourself. Look good, feel better! You can totally control presenting your most attractive self. GL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP again. I actually think these men are afraid to date outside their social circle. Even if they find a woman attractive.

I disagree. I'm UMC, but from NJ. My fiancé is from London, "old money", and Oxford educated. He knows I'm not stupid, attraction is there, and most importantly, I get on well with his family and he thinks I'd be a good mother. Social circle isn't everything.

I’m sure his family is less than pleased about you but too polite to let on.

Are you? Are you sure?

[Anonymous]

That describes the type I dated and, ultimately, married. I grew up poor, worked my way through school, and established a successful career and a great life. I've always been a size 14-16 and am very active (I run half marathons, cycle, golf, etc.). I'm fun-loving, smart(ish) and easygoing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP again. I actually think these men are afraid to date outside their social circle. Even if they find a woman attractive.

I disagree. I'm UMC, but from NJ. My fiancé is from London, "old money", and Oxford educated. He knows I'm not stupid, attraction is there, and most importantly, I get on well with his family and he thinks I'd be a good mother. Social circle isn't everything.

I’m sure his family is less than pleased about you but too polite to let on.

Are you? Are you sure?

No one needs southern women to tell them how the English UC live. They have no clue and think going to Ole Miss or SMU makes them TT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That describes the type I dated and, ultimately, married. I grew up poor, worked my way through school, and established a successful career and a great life. I've always been a size 14-16 and am very active (I run half marathons, cycle, golf, etc.). I'm fun-loving, smart(ish) and easygoing.

Not op but you sound great! Not being sarcastic, I hope I end up like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is as you describe. I was raised regular middle class. Not DCUM middle class. I think he liked me because I was drama-free and can cook. I also am reasonably intelligent (we met in law school) and attractive on the law school scale, not overweight and take reasonable care of myself. Plus, I wanted kids. I really am nothing special, but I don’t have huge downsides and I can get along with almost everyone. I think he could see having an easy life with me.

Lol..law school scale...I was 110 when I met my husband, 5’3” and was one of the best looking women in law school but that’s not saying much. It was enough to interest my husband who is also UMC, dressed well and very intelligent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand this may be a silly question but, humor me. I have observed that certain friends of mine have ended up with a very specific kind of guy. Some would call them "yuppies." From what I can tell these are their qualities:

- Come from a well-off background
- Have great careers where they are successful
- They are driven and motivated
- They are organized, thoughtful and have a plan for what they want in life and work
- Well adjusted individuals. They are functioning adults without any substance abuse or personality issues
- Put together. Dress in clean, preppy clothes; slim pants and button downs and "stylish" gym wear
- They have a great group of friends

I guess I am at a loss because I can spot these guys and am always interested but they have never shown an interest in me. Meanwhile two of my close friends recently became engaged to this exact kind of guy. I am envious as I am always approached by the messy artsy types who have lackluster careers, drink too much and have self esteem issues. What kind of woman should I aim to be to attract this kind of guy?

These guys often have a small penis. They'll also make you a golf widow. More than half their appeal is their wealth and the doors it opens.

[Anonymous]

I was MC and probably aspired to be UMC. The women I was always attracted to were very smart, no drama, great conversationalists, fun, attractive and actually liked me!

[Anonymous]

At the end of the day so many men want women that are like their mom. If their UMC in the style that their moms did their hair and makeup every day and put on a sundress to go to a country club, they want a wife like that also. If they had a more relaxed looking mom (which can still be umc!) they probably dress more relaxed also (not polo shirt and bonobos) and like women who are more relaxed. lots of rich men are still this way, just look at the image the guys you like project (it sounds like country club) and be the female version of that