What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most people marry people who grew up in their class. Men who were raised UMC prefer women who were raised the same way, and vice versa. No, it's not something you can fake.

If the money is what matters to you find a guy who made his money yesterday. Those men are happy to date the women who grew up LMC.

I am not LMC. I grew up UMC. I was socially awkward and had anxiety issues so I did not make a lot of social connections among my peers.

So what's stopping you from making those connections now? Are you attractive and do you have a decent job?

I would say I am probably a 6 on a scale of 10. I am skinny fat and do not put a lot of effort into my looks or style. I work as a program specialist for a non profit. I am not a professional rock star but I have worked for prestigious organizations.

So you're not attractive, you don't have a good job, and you have social issues? I know this sounds harsh, but of course men aren't going to be lining up to take that on. Would you date you?

Probably not.

Why not do exactly what your friends did to land this guys.
Including complete makeover with help of your friends.

[Anonymous]

You are a messy lackluster person.

[Anonymous]

OP, how old are you? I think the dating market looks different depending on age.

[Anonymous]

Petite
Preppy
Busty
Nice Smile
Smart - degree does not equal smart in my eyes
Knows her way around a kitchen
Likes to travel

[Anonymous]

OP, in the nonprofit world, you might be running into a lot of artsy types. Could your skill set serve you better in the for-profit world? Or could you channel your own ambition in a different way?

[Anonymous]

Hi OP- I also don’t really have UMC guys into me, despite having a good job and family money. And it probably comes down to looks, I’m overweight and don’t wear makeup. So I would think having a decent BMI, clear skin, and a good personality/attitude goes a long ways. Also, through from my personal experience, having an UMC man is not everything. I went to private schools and universities, and I knew so many people with dysfunctional family relationships that well hidden. There can be great people to date that don’t check all the boxes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP- I also don’t really have UMC guys into me, despite having a good job and family money. And it probably comes down to looks, I’m overweight and don’t wear makeup. So I would think having a decent BMI, clear skin, and a good personality/attitude goes a long ways. Also, through from my personal experience, having an UMC man is not everything. I went to private schools and universities, and I knew so many people with dysfunctional family relationships that well hidden. There can be great people to date that don’t check all the boxes.

How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Age matters a lot before we can give advice. If you want to be paired off at 35, that's harder because so many people who have their stuff together and want to be paired off are off the market at that point. If you're still in school/younger, that's different.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hi OP- I also don’t really have UMC guys into me, despite having a good job and family money. And it probably comes down to looks, I’m overweight and don’t wear makeup. So I would think having a decent BMI, clear skin, and a good personality/attitude goes a long ways. Also, through from my personal experience, having an UMC man is not everything. I went to private schools and universities, and I knew so many people with dysfunctional family relationships that well hidden. There can be great people to date that don’t check all the boxes.

How old are you?

Late twenties- so probably similar age to OP

[Anonymous]

Low drama
Attractive - not drop dead gorgeous, just reasonable
Likes sex and having fun
Low drama

[Anonymous]

OP are you the Indian who posts all the time asking why guys don't date her?

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They're not all one thing, nor are they one dimensional characters who fit into certain boxes. Me and my friends are married to this type I guess but they all are different, just like we are. Try to meet them through apps and see who you connect with. And recognize life is no cake walk with them either. But i know it's hard to get that when you really want something. Just meet more if them and be yourself.

[Anonymous]

Good looking, confident, well-adjusted UMC men with decent jobs tend to be attracted to good looking, confident, well-adjusted UMC women with decent jobs.

I suspect your lack of self confidence is showing. Work on things that make you feel happy and confident: that might be your career, a great hobby, a volunteer position. Whatever it is, make it something that you can be proud of.

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Anonymous wrote:Most people marry people who grew up in their class. Men who were raised UMC prefer women who were raised the same way, and vice versa. No, it's not something you can fake.

If the money is what matters to you find a guy who made his money yesterday. Those men are happy to date the women who grew up LMC.

I am not LMC. I grew up UMC. I was socially awkward and had anxiety issues so I did not make a lot of social connections among my peers.

So what's stopping you from making those connections now? Are you attractive and do you have a decent job?

I would say I am probably a 6 on a scale of 10. I am skinny fat and do not put a lot of effort into my looks or style. I work as a program specialist for a non profit. I am not a professional rock star but I have worked for prestigious organizations.

So you're not attractive, you don't have a good job, and you have social issues? I know this sounds harsh, but of course men aren't going to be lining up to take that on. Would you date you?

Probably not.

Why not do exactly what your friends did to land this guys.
Including complete makeover with help of your friends.

OP here. My friends are awesome women. Both were raised solidly MC with good values and an emphasis on upward mobility. I will say, both are traditionally attractive (fit or thin, very appearance conscience). They both always wanted to target a certain kind of man and actively cultivated a certain image and persona. Both are girly and into cooking and home making.

[Anonymous]

You need to start working on looks first. Lose a couple lbs. Get nice makeup. Get some well fitting clothing.