i hate this, i hate this, i hate this

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yup! I hear ya! I am obsessing over Nutcracker auditions (was supposed to be this weekend) and will they reschedule? Are they going to have a Nutcracker performance next December? Fingers crossed. I am choosing to stay positive.

My serious dancer is terribly concerned about this same thing. I honestly don't see how it happens. How do you socially distance backstage? How can they afford to run the theaters with such lowered capacity? I've hesitated to discuss this with my daughter...

DP. Me too! I'm a little happy there are a few others with whom I can commiserate about this. It's such a frivolous concern, all things considered and many people have much bigger problems, but still I'm sad and DD will be too if it doesn't happen.

My DD missed opportunity for spring performances. Our Nutcracker auditions are not until fall but I'm wondering if those will fall through too? And this was the year she was old enough for some "big" parts. If Nutcracker doesn't happen, how does the company survive? Nutcracker pretty much provides the finances for the entire year.

Original Nutcracker poster here. My 6 year old daughter had the most magical experience from audition in the spring (was supposed to be this weekend) to rehearsals, the PERFORMANCE, and the cast party, too! I absolutely LOVED sharing this experience with her, and think I enjoyed it as much as she did. PP, It may seem "frivolous" to some, but it is things like the Nutcracker that make life special. I had this discussion with my brother who is an avid tennis fan. His concern all of the tennis opens! And listening to Dr. Bright right now is now on the news is not making me feel any better. I am grateful that I have fellow Nutcracker parents to vent to. I am trying to be optimistic, but it is hard to wrap myhead around how they will be able to pull it off. I don't know. Maybe they are planning modifications(?) Thoughts....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yup! I hear ya! I am obsessing over Nutcracker auditions (was supposed to be this weekend) and will they reschedule? Are they going to have a Nutcracker performance next December? Fingers crossed. I am choosing to stay positive.

My serious dancer is terribly concerned about this same thing. I honestly don't see how it happens. How do you socially distance backstage? How can they afford to run the theaters with such lowered capacity? I've hesitated to discuss this with my daughter...

DP. Me too! I'm a little happy there are a few others with whom I can commiserate about this. It's such a frivolous concern, all things considered and many people have much bigger problems, but still I'm sad and DD will be too if it doesn't happen.

My DD missed opportunity for spring performances. Our Nutcracker auditions are not until fall but I'm wondering if those will fall through too? And this was the year she was old enough for some "big" parts. If Nutcracker doesn't happen, how does the company survive? Nutcracker pretty much provides the finances for the entire year.

Original Nutcracker poster here. My 6 year old daughter had the most magical experience from audition in the spring (was supposed to be this weekend) to rehearsals, the PERFORMANCE, and the cast party, too! I absolutely LOVED sharing this experience with her, and think I enjoyed it as much as she did. PP, It may seem "frivolous" to some, but it is things like the Nutcracker that make life special. I had this discussion with my brother who is an avid tennis fan. His concern all of the tennis opens! And listening to Dr. Bright right now is now on the news is not making me feel any better. I am grateful that I have fellow Nutcracker parents to vent to. I am trying to be optimistic, but it is hard to wrap myhead around how they will be able to pull it off. I don't know. Maybe they are planning modifications(?) Thoughts....

PP. Agree on all this. COVID19 has sucked all the fun things out of life, leaving only work and drudgery. We all have things we've lost, but some things will come back before others, and ballet/performing arts will be among the last. Indoors, with large crowds, with dancers necessarily touching each other....nope, not happening for a while. I'm in NYC, so we're in worse shape here. Broadway is closed until Labor Day at least. That's nuts.

Maybe they can space out the audience, but what about the dancers? Can't dance socially distanced unless you make some drastic and ummm, odd changes to choreography. "A Socially Distanced Nutcracker" -- not very pretty. Backstage is packed like sardines. I imagine one dancer testing positive during Nutcracker and the whole show shutting down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some days are better than others. Today is not a good day. Every time an announcement hits, I get so sad. Our city just closed pools and splash pads for the summer (not in DC). I am just SAD.

I am a SAHM and my kids are under 5. We didn't lose jobs. Our lives our GOOD. My kids are happy and blissfully unaware.

But, i hate this. I hate that my son missed t-ball for the first time. No swimming?! All summer?

And now, possibly no school next year?

I'm sad. I hate this. I want to quit.

Sit with me, and vent.

I want to be you in my next life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some days are better than others. Today is not a good day. Every time an announcement hits, I get so sad. Our city just closed pools and splash pads for the summer (not in DC). I am just SAD.

I am a SAHM and my kids are under 5. We didn't lose jobs. Our lives our GOOD. My kids are happy and blissfully unaware.

But, i hate this. I hate that my son missed t-ball for the first time. No swimming?! All summer?

And now, possibly no school next year?

I'm sad. I hate this. I want to quit.

Sit with me, and vent.

I'm not going to sit with you and vent because your kids can't go to swimming pools this summer! What is wrong with you. You have your job, no money problems, plenty of food, and healthy children

Again, I ask, what the Hell is wrong with you? Get down on your knees and give thanks for your good life and stop the damn whining. Your kids can read, do chores around the house. Key s hose and a plastic slide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some days are better than others. Today is not a good day. Every time an announcement hits, I get so sad. Our city just closed pools and splash pads for the summer (not in DC). I am just SAD.

I am a SAHM and my kids are under 5. We didn't lose jobs. Our lives our GOOD. My kids are happy and blissfully unaware.

But, i hate this. I hate that my son missed t-ball for the first time. No swimming?! All summer?

And now, possibly no school next year?

I'm sad. I hate this. I want to quit.

Sit with me, and vent.

I'm not going to sit with you and vent because your kids can't go to swimming pools this summer! What is wrong with you. You have your job, no money problems, plenty of food, and healthy children

Again, I ask, what the Hell is wrong with you? Get down on your knees and give thanks for your good life and stop the damn whining. Your kids can read, do chores around the house. Key s hose and a plastic slide.

There is nothing wrong with OP. It’s totally ok to be sad about what is going on right now and especially how it impacts our kids. It doesn’t mean we can’t also thank God for the things that we do have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some days are better than others. Today is not a good day. Every time an announcement hits, I get so sad. Our city just closed pools and splash pads for the summer (not in DC). I am just SAD.

I am a SAHM and my kids are under 5. We didn't lose jobs. Our lives our GOOD. My kids are happy and blissfully unaware.

But, i hate this. I hate that my son missed t-ball for the first time. No swimming?! All summer?

And now, possibly no school next year?

I'm sad. I hate this. I want to quit.

Sit with me, and vent.

I'm not going to sit with you and vent because your kids can't go to swimming pools this summer! What is wrong with you. You have your job, no money problems, plenty of food, and healthy children

Again, I ask, what the Hell is wrong with you? Get down on your knees and give thanks for your good life and stop the damn whining. Your kids can read, do chores around the house. Key s hose and a plastic slide.

There is nothing wrong with OP. It’s totally ok to be sad about what is going on right now and especially how it impacts our kids. It doesn’t mean we can’t also thank God for the things that we do have.

+1

This is the venting thread. There’s no shaming in the venting thread. Please see yourself out. And close the door behind you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate the uncertainty.

The generalized anxiety.

I hate nagging my son into doing his homework. Every day.
I hate having my preschooler's teachers call me up and tell me to do assessments. Not my job, lady.

I hate having no travel to look forward to.

I hate how my mom complains constantly because she's alone because my dad died two years ago. I get how she feels, but I wish she could get it together.

Assessments?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some days are better than others. Today is not a good day. Every time an announcement hits, I get so sad. Our city just closed pools and splash pads for the summer (not in DC). I am just SAD.

I am a SAHM and my kids are under 5. We didn't lose jobs. Our lives our GOOD. My kids are happy and blissfully unaware.

But, i hate this. I hate that my son missed t-ball for the first time. No swimming?! All summer?

And now, possibly no school next year?

I'm sad. I hate this. I want to quit.

Sit with me, and vent.

Real question amidst my venting: I can imagine multiple problems with pools from health issues to logistics to expenses. What's the rationale for closing splash pads? Does anyone know? I can't imagine why the decision to close splash pads for the entire summer would be made at all -let alone so early in the season. Is it as simple as viewing it as an attraction that will encourage large groups of kids too young to social distance? This sucks rocks.

Probably the social distance aspect?

As for pools, it’s probably also for social distancing purposes. The virus isn’t waterborne and I imagine chlorine would kill it, so the actual pools aren’t the problem.

I guess you're right, but I just seems like kids using the splash pads would be young enough that they'd be supervised by parents. This is pushing my rantiest rant button really hard. Sigh. Grumble.

When have you ever seen parents closely watching kids in splash parks or pools? They're all yelling and running around in packs, pushing, touching, and playing.

Far different from a salon or gym where at most its one-on-one limited contact and adults who understand how to social distance. A three-year-old can't even understand that its bad to pee or poo in their diaper at the swim park.

[Anonymous]

I have nightmares every night, usually apocalyptic or war of some kind, and live in dread that I will die and leave my children without one of their parents (I’m high risk).

I worry that my constant vigilance of hand washing, sanitizing, and quarantining will leave my kids with mental health issues.

Work is stressing me out, and we are way over stretched because we were in the middle of moving when this all went down.

But end of day, I am loving the close family time, and making ourselves get out and go for a walk on the trail everyday, and all of us trying to find way to make bread that doesn’t suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yup! I hear ya! I am obsessing over Nutcracker auditions (was supposed to be this weekend) and will they reschedule? Are they going to have a Nutcracker performance next December? Fingers crossed. I am choosing to stay positive.

My serious dancer is terribly concerned about this same thing. I honestly don't see how it happens. How do you socially distance backstage? How can they afford to run the theaters with such lowered capacity? I've hesitated to discuss this with my daughter...

DP. Me too! I'm a little happy there are a few others with whom I can commiserate about this. It's such a frivolous concern, all things considered and many people have much bigger problems, but still I'm sad and DD will be too if it doesn't happen.

My DD missed opportunity for spring performances. Our Nutcracker auditions are not until fall but I'm wondering if those will fall through too? And this was the year she was old enough for some "big" parts. If Nutcracker doesn't happen, how does the company survive? Nutcracker pretty much provides the finances for the entire year.

Original Nutcracker poster here. My 6 year old daughter had the most magical experience from audition in the spring (was supposed to be this weekend) to rehearsals, the PERFORMANCE, and the cast party, too! I absolutely LOVED sharing this experience with her, and think I enjoyed it as much as she did. PP, It may seem "frivolous" to some, but it is things like the Nutcracker that make life special. I had this discussion with my brother who is an avid tennis fan. His concern all of the tennis opens! And listening to Dr. Bright right now is now on the news is not making me feel any better. I am grateful that I have fellow Nutcracker parents to vent to. I am trying to be optimistic, but it is hard to wrap myhead around how they will be able to pull it off. I don't know. Maybe they are planning modifications(?) Thoughts....

This is literally exactly how I feel about swim team and my child who, for the first time, actually stuck with an activity. He found how to let go of trying to be perfect and just have fun, and then got to feel what it was like to be proud of his hard work and seeing something through. It was a huge deal. I'm so mourning the loss of the team, and the lessons. I was so proud of him last year for trying and not giving up. I was hoping to keep up those wonderful life lessons we got from swimming last year.

[Anonymous]

I'm so grateful that DCs and I enjoy each other's company and find each other interesting. I cant imagine how difficult it must be to have to watch a ballet to find magic in life! I'm so glad I had structured my life to spend alot of time with my family before the pandemic so that I'm not now stuck in a home with people I don't know how to parent. I'm happy I am not stretched to the point of breaking because the only way I knew how to manage my own family was to outsource it. I'm happy we are all flexible enough to take the set backs in stride and know what's important and what isn't. And mostly I'm glad that we decided to have children because we adore them and not to fit in with the expectations of our peers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some days are better than others. Today is not a good day. Every time an announcement hits, I get so sad. Our city just closed pools and splash pads for the summer (not in DC). I am just SAD.

I am a SAHM and my kids are under 5. We didn't lose jobs. Our lives our GOOD. My kids are happy and blissfully unaware.

But, i hate this. I hate that my son missed t-ball for the first time. No swimming?! All summer?

And now, possibly no school next year?

I'm sad. I hate this. I want to quit.

Sit with me, and vent.

I"m going to join. My kids are college aged ( one a Freshman and the other a junior) and I'm sad that they won't experience what we all did....starting college and living in a dorm. I don't want her first year to be zooming over our breakfast table.

I really feel for current HS seniors and how they won’t have a freshman year. I would probably put it off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so grateful that DCs and I enjoy each other's company and find each other interesting. I cant imagine how difficult it must be to have to watch a ballet to find magic in life! I'm so glad I had structured my life to spend alot of time with my family before the pandemic so that I'm not now stuck in a home with people I don't know how to parent. I'm happy I am not stretched to the point of breaking because the only way I knew how to manage my own family was to outsource it. I'm happy we are all flexible enough to take the set backs in stride and know what's important and what isn't. And mostly I'm glad that we decided to have children because we adore them and not to fit in with the expectations of our peers.

Huh??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so grateful that DCs and I enjoy each other's company and find each other interesting. I cant imagine how difficult it must be to have to watch a ballet to find magic in life! I'm so glad I had structured my life to spend alot of time with my family before the pandemic so that I'm not now stuck in a home with people I don't know how to parent. I'm happy I am not stretched to the point of breaking because the only way I knew how to manage my own family was to outsource it. I'm happy we are all flexible enough to take the set backs in stride and know what's important and what isn't. And mostly I'm glad that we decided to have children because we adore them and not to fit in with the expectations of our peers.

Thanks for playing, but this is the venting thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some days are better than others. Today is not a good day. Every time an announcement hits, I get so sad. Our city just closed pools and splash pads for the summer (not in DC). I am just SAD.

I am a SAHM and my kids are under 5. We didn't lose jobs. Our lives our GOOD. My kids are happy and blissfully unaware.

But, i hate this. I hate that my son missed t-ball for the first time. No swimming?! All summer?

And now, possibly no school next year?

I'm sad. I hate this. I want to quit.

Sit with me, and vent.

I"m going to join. My kids are college aged ( one a Freshman and the other a junior) and I'm sad that they won't experience what we all did....starting college and living in a dorm. I don't want her first year to be zooming over our breakfast table.

I really feel for current HS seniors and how they won’t have a freshman year. I would probably put it off.

Put it off and do what? Travel?

I have a senior. This situation just stinks. He’s a good sport, but I’m angry at the world on his behalf.