i hate this, i hate this, i hate this

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Anonymous wrote:The only thing that has helped me to stop feeling this way, OP, is complete acceptance. The summer will not be any different than now. No friends, no classes, no playground, no extended family, no date nights, no relief. Weirdly this depressing realization really has helped me!

But the thing is, this current situation is not sustainable. It’s not. And, it doesn’t have to be necessarily: there are interactions that are very low risk. We need to learn to live with this thing, not just avoid it for, what, years? I’m all for accepting that which I cannot change, but I’m also not going to let the mental health of my family completely go to hell.

OP here and that’s where I am. Although our mental health is ok, really. But I’m leaning towards going to visit family (who have been quarantining) also.

As long as your family is in good health and not in a high risk group, I’d say go for it. We aren’t going to social distance our way out of this. The cat is far, FAR out of the bag on that one.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only thing that has helped me to stop feeling this way, OP, is complete acceptance. The summer will not be any different than now. No friends, no classes, no playground, no extended family, no date nights, no relief. Weirdly this depressing realization really has helped me!

But the thing is, this current situation is not sustainable. It’s not. And, it doesn’t have to be necessarily: there are interactions that are very low risk. We need to learn to live with this thing, not just avoid it for, what, years? I’m all for accepting that which I cannot change, but I’m also not going to let the mental health of my family completely go to hell.

OP here and that’s where I am. Although our mental health is ok, really. But I’m leaning towards going to visit family (who have been quarantining) also.

As long as your family is in good health and not in a high risk group, I’d say go for it. We aren’t going to social distance our way out of this. The cat is far, FAR out of the bag on that one.

Yes, we still see our family. Our parents need our mental support, as well as groceries, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:+2 mad at Elrich - give us a plan...

People are still waiting for the god damn CDC to give guidance on how to open things back up safely and with the fewest casualties. The CDC has a plan but Trump won’t let them release it because it’s not the way he wants things done. Someone leaked partial guidance from the CDC because they were fed up with the administration holding crucial information back. What are MoCo and FX supposed to do? They are more densely populated then the rest of either state. And the leaders in both state’s have no official CDC guidance or any point person there that they can go to to get clarification. This why there are so many discrepancies among states and towns about what is open and what is not.

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Anonymous wrote:Some days are better than others. Today is not a good day. Every time an announcement hits, I get so sad. Our city just closed pools and splash pads for the summer (not in DC). I am just SAD.

I am a SAHM and my kids are under 5. We didn't lose jobs. Our lives our GOOD. My kids are happy and blissfully unaware.

But, i hate this. I hate that my son missed t-ball for the first time. No swimming?! All summer?

And now, possibly no school next year?

I'm sad. I hate this. I want to quit.

Sit with me, and vent.

I"m going to join. My kids are college aged ( one a Freshman and the other a junior) and I'm sad that they won't experience what we all did....starting college and living in a dorm. I don't want her first year to be zooming over our breakfast table.

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I lucky that we live in a house and can do a little pool for my 2 under 4. But the pool is their happy place and my husbands home away from home. He will be so grumpy all summer. Ugh.

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Anonymous wrote:I lucky that we live in a house and can do a little pool for my 2 under 4. But the pool is their happy place and my husbands home away from home. He will be so grumpy all summer. Ugh.

I hate summer and the heat, but I am terribly sad to miss a summer at the pool. Like PP said, they’re only this age once.

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Anonymous wrote:In 3-6 months we will most probably have a set of treatments (pharma as well as doctors understand what to do) that will dramatically reduce the fatality rate of the virus. If we can just last a little longer we can save thousands of lives. The full quarantine vs. dude, we all need to catch it debate always seems to miss this nuance.

I wish you were right - but that’s not looking so likely. We can’t even get reliable tests. The best lead they’ve had so far is a drug that barely shortens hospitalization and doesn’t improve death rate. And even if they come up with something, mass producing it is unrealistic considering we will be competing with the rest of the world for the resources. Only rich people will get the treatment.

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I hate the uncertainty.

The generalized anxiety.

I hate nagging my son into doing his homework. Every day.
I hate having my preschooler's teachers call me up and tell me to do assessments. Not my job, lady.

I hate having no travel to look forward to.

I hate how my mom complains constantly because she's alone because my dad died two years ago. I get how she feels, but I wish she could get it together.

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I was way more depressed/anxious/terrified at the beginning of all this (early-mid March) and I am doing better now emotionally. I still dislike everything about this miserable time being stuck at home, and I do think it's absolutely miserable. But things were worse for me when news about Covid was just coming out and all the closures were happening at once, then the huge shocker that school was canceled for the rest of the year, which took weeks for me to come to terms with. And all the panic buying in mid-March which increased my stress too.

Now I feel like I've reached an acceptance about all of it. I've accepted that all of 2020 is going to suck. I've already come to terms with school being closed for the rest of the year. I've already come to terms with being stuck in the house all the time (and I've only left my house/yard twice in 9 weeks--both for emergency medical appointments).

I've come to terms with no summer camps and no activities. I've come to terms with all the fun travel/experiences we had planned for spring and summer, and probably the rest of 2020, being canceled. 2020 is definitely the worst year of my life. But I do feel that I'm in a better place emotionally now than I was 8 weeks ago when this all started.

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I hate that my son, who has been flagged for asd by his preschool, can’t get any non-zoom services. I hate that I am paying full price for zoom sessions.
I hate that my older kid has no one to play with and is also ignored by parent while I try to fill in as a lame OT,St,Special educator for my son because services are “so critical during this age”
I hate that I am sleep deprived (new baby) and can’t get any cleaning help, child care, date night or girls night. DH is spent too.
I hate that my medically fragile mother is lonely and that in Zoom it looks like my brother is drinking again.

At least coronavirus doesn’t seem So bad anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:I lucky that we live in a house and can do a little pool for my 2 under 4. But the pool is their happy place and my husbands home away from home. He will be so grumpy all summer. Ugh.

I hate summer and the heat, but I am terribly sad to miss a summer at the pool. Like PP said, they’re only this age once.

The possible lack of pool has hit me so hard. I don’t have little ones. DD will be 12 this summer. What I do have is counting down the number of summers she’ll happily spend all evening swimming and grilling out with her parents. This sucks.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel for all of you with young ones- it's gotta be so tough. This won't go on forever and know that good times are coming.

+1. I remember the days when my kids were all under age 5 and it was an ordeal. I adore my kids, but those ages are just really exhausting, and this lockdown must make an already challenging time so so hard!

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Yup! I hear ya! I am obsessing over Nutcracker auditions (was supposed to be this weekend) and will they reschedule? Are they going to have a Nutcracker performance next December? Fingers crossed. I am choosing to stay positive.

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Anonymous wrote:The only thing that has helped me to stop feeling this way, OP, is complete acceptance. The summer will not be any different than now. No friends, no classes, no playground, no extended family, no date nights, no relief. Weirdly this depressing realization really has helped me!

+1 I know this is the venting thread, and I've been sad that I won't see my kid graduate and that we're each missing important things. But, realizing that I do have control over many things (my mood, how I spend my time, how I can help my family adapt to a temporary new normal and even find some fun ways to be together, etc.) helps shorten those periods.

It is a LITTLE helpful.

I honestly can’t IMAGINE the heartache of missing graduation, or honestly even having an older child. Mine are 3 and 4 and are really happy right now.

+2. I have a 1.5 yr old and am pregnant so even if things open up over the summer, we won’t be joining in. I am afraid of the “second wave”. So making the mental shift to “this is for the rest of the year” did help me a lot too. We’ve living now as we mean to continue.

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Anonymous wrote:+2 mad at Elrich - give us a plan...

Call and email his office. Seriously. they can come up with a damn plan that they can be held accountable too vs whatever his whim is.