i hate this, i hate this, i hate this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so grateful that DCs and I enjoy each other's company and find each other interesting. I cant imagine how difficult it must be to have to watch a ballet to find magic in life! I'm so glad I had structured my life to spend alot of time with my family before the pandemic so that I'm not now stuck in a home with people I don't know how to parent. I'm happy I am not stretched to the point of breaking because the only way I knew how to manage my own family was to outsource it. I'm happy we are all flexible enough to take the set backs in stride and know what's important and what isn't. And mostly I'm glad that we decided to have children because we adore them and not to fit in with the expectations of our peers.

All that and you are still an insufferable beyotch....

[Anonymous]

You mad brah?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some days are better than others. Today is not a good day. Every time an announcement hits, I get so sad. Our city just closed pools and splash pads for the summer (not in DC). I am just SAD.

I am a SAHM and my kids are under 5. We didn't lose jobs. Our lives our GOOD. My kids are happy and blissfully unaware.

But, i hate this. I hate that my son missed t-ball for the first time. No swimming?! All summer?

And now, possibly no school next year?

I'm sad. I hate this. I want to quit.

Sit with me, and vent.

I"m going to join. My kids are college aged ( one a Freshman and the other a junior) and I'm sad that they won't experience what we all did....starting college and living in a dorm. I don't want her first year to be zooming over our breakfast table.

I really feel for current HS seniors and how they won’t have a freshman year. I would probably put it off.

This week I'm sad again because the end of year is here and my senior is missing out. Prom was this weekend. I've watched several award ceremony dates pass by on the calendar. Trying to get him excited about watching the graduation ceremonies together as a family, but he thinks they are pointless.

I will say on the plus side, his college has been doing a lot of zoom activities to get the freshmen to meet each other and seem to be gearing up for creating a solid community, whether or not it starts online or in person. I think going forward it's easier, because the experiences are all new, regardless of them being different than anticipated. What hurts most is losing celebrations that were already planned.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Me too. Hate, hate, hate it.

Got a message from my kid's teacher that he's not turning the video on for Zoom calls. I have a job and simply can't monitor that. And kid (5th grader) knows that nothing this quarter is being graded, so he doesn't think he should bother with any of the distance learning stuff. He knows he is getting an A (school is averaging all grades from the 1st 3 quarters, and he has straight As), and said straight out that even if he got a D, that a D in 5th grade during a pandemic isn't going to change any aspect of his life. And he's right. I can't argue with that.

Your son is one smart cookie!

Smart if the purpose of school is grades. Less smart if the purpose of school is learning.

+1000. As a homeschooling parent, my kids would be idiots if I allowed an attitude like that. Learning can happen anywhere, anytime, in this day and age. It may be different, but in some ways it is much easier to attain knowledge when not in a school building. This philosophy has been a godsend for my kids because they understand they can continue learning throughout their lives and they know how to do it even without a formal "class".

Zoom sucks, especially for elementary kids. My two girls are handling it pretty well but they have a lot of complaints about the behavior of other kids, which is affecting them. Additionally, they're not used to sitting down in front of a screen, so it isn't their first choice for learning. I don't think OP's kid is going to be an idiot if he doesn't participate, I think he's probably at the end of his rope dealing with online school and is weighing the consequences of not participating. You just sound rigid and annoying, homeschool mom. But good for you that you're so prepared for what's happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I will sit and vent with you. I've been really sad the last couple of days. I haven't been sleeping well, which doesn't help. I feel like I have nothing to look forward to this summer, and it's just flat out depressing. The things we care about in terms of summer experiences have all been taken away. The kids are deathly sick of bike rides and hikes. I've never felt glum like this before. I have been trying to come up with ideas to salvage the summer, but every idea seems too expensive or too risky.

Our lives are good in terms of our jobs and health, so I know we're lucky, really. But there's just not an end in sight. Some days I find myself thinking whether this is all real and having to remind myself that it is.

Advil PM. Seriously. It's amazing how much better a good night of sleep will make you feel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yup! I hear ya! I am obsessing over Nutcracker auditions (was supposed to be this weekend) and will they reschedule? Are they going to have a Nutcracker performance next December? Fingers crossed. I am choosing to stay positive.

Congratulations, you win the award for the absolute pettiest concern!

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Anonymous wrote:Yup! I hear ya! I am obsessing over Nutcracker auditions (was supposed to be this weekend) and will they reschedule? Are they going to have a Nutcracker performance next December? Fingers crossed. I am choosing to stay positive.

Congratulations, you win the award for the absolute pettiest concern!

There's nothing petty about being sad for the loss of something your child dearly loves. In addition, there is no doubt that the arts community and especially the performing arts will be deeply and negatively impacted by the pandemic well after lockdowns end. Performances like Nutcracker provide the funds that keep those companies going - and finances their outreach art programs for lower income kids and scholarships for dancers etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so grateful that DCs and I enjoy each other's company and find each other interesting. I cant imagine how difficult it must be to have to watch a ballet to find magic in life! I'm so glad I had structured my life to spend alot of time with my family before the pandemic so that I'm not now stuck in a home with people I don't know how to parent. I'm happy I am not stretched to the point of breaking because the only way I knew how to manage my own family was to outsource it. I'm happy we are all flexible enough to take the set backs in stride and know what's important and what isn't. And mostly I'm glad that we decided to have children because we adore them and not to fit in with the expectations of our peers.

Huh??

+1. You seem to be trying to toss out insults about other people's family dynamics but it's convoluted.

[Anonymous]

I was ok in March. I'm struggling now that it's become apparent that there is no plan, no leadership. Trump has abdicated all responsibility to the states and localities and now we are getting into red-blue BS.

We sacrificed our economy and lots of lives and we are worse off than we are in March.

We are going to have a second wave. Everything will be worse.

I see no hope unless we have an actual president elected in November and the GOP is out.

Hugs, OP.

For those that want to say Trump's administration hasn't royally messed this up, look at South Korea. We as a country, at least in Electoral College states that matter, are hopelessly stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was ok in March. I'm struggling now that it's become apparent that there is no plan, no leadership. Trump has abdicated all responsibility to the states and localities and now we are getting into red-blue BS.

We sacrificed our economy and lots of lives and we are worse off than we are in March.

We are going to have a second wave. Everything will be worse.

I see no hope unless we have an actual president elected in November and the GOP is out.

Hugs, OP.

For those that want to say Trump's administration hasn't royally messed this up, look at South Korea. We as a country, at least in Electoral College states that matter, are hopelessly stupid.

South Korea benefited from their previous experience with SARS. Why not look at France, Italy, the Netherlands, Belgium, Spain and the UK - all of which have higher covid 19 death rates than the US?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was ok in March. I'm struggling now that it's become apparent that there is no plan, no leadership. Trump has abdicated all responsibility to the states and localities and now we are getting into red-blue BS.

We sacrificed our economy and lots of lives and we are worse off than we are in March.

We are going to have a second wave. Everything will be worse.

I see no hope unless we have an actual president elected in November and the GOP is out.

Hugs, OP.

For those that want to say Trump's administration hasn't royally messed this up, look at South Korea. We as a country, at least in Electoral College states that matter, are hopelessly stupid.

South Korea benefited from their previous experience with SARS. Why not look at France, Italy, the Netherlands, Belgium, Spain and the UK - all of which have higher covid 19 death rates than the US?

Because we could be, and should be, doing better than those countries. For many reasons, but one being we had far more advanced notice that this virus was coming.

It doesn't take SARS to realize that testing, tracing, and isolating are the way to save lives and the economy.

Are you trying to defend the administration's response? I can't even give him credit for leaving it to the states- that would be a plan, at least. A bad plan, but a plan. He has abdicated all responsibility to the states, and then encouraged them to re-open without meeting his own administration's guidelines for doing so, promoted crack pot cures, made it harder for the states to get necessary equipment and tests, lied about testing, the list goes on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was ok in March. I'm struggling now that it's become apparent that there is no plan, no leadership. Trump has abdicated all responsibility to the states and localities and now we are getting into red-blue BS.

We sacrificed our economy and lots of lives and we are worse off than we are in March.

We are going to have a second wave. Everything will be worse.

I see no hope unless we have an actual president elected in November and the GOP is out.

Hugs, OP.

For those that want to say Trump's administration hasn't royally messed this up, look at South Korea. We as a country, at least in Electoral College states that matter, are hopelessly stupid.

South Korea benefited from their previous experience with SARS. Why not look at France, Italy, the Netherlands, Belgium, Spain and the UK - all of which have higher covid 19 death rates than the US?

Because we could be, and should be, doing better than those countries. For many reasons, but one being we had far more advanced notice that this virus was coming.

It doesn't take SARS to realize that testing, tracing, and isolating are the way to save lives and the economy.

Are you trying to defend the administration's response? I can't even give him credit for leaving it to the states- that would be a plan, at least. A bad plan, but a plan. He has abdicated all responsibility to the states, and then encouraged them to re-open without meeting his own administration's guidelines for doing so, promoted crack pot cures, made it harder for the states to get necessary equipment and tests, lied about testing, the list goes on.

Sounds like you want to move over to the political board, but if you do, be prepared to make your case beyond picking one single country as a comparison when you do. And also research how our Constitutional system of government is set up and why authority for response to pandemics is set at the state level (beyond specifically listed responsibilities of the federal government like the military and immigration).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was ok in March. I'm struggling now that it's become apparent that there is no plan, no leadership. Trump has abdicated all responsibility to the states and localities and now we are getting into red-blue BS.

We sacrificed our economy and lots of lives and we are worse off than we are in March.

We are going to have a second wave. Everything will be worse.

I see no hope unless we have an actual president elected in November and the GOP is out.

Hugs, OP.

For those that want to say Trump's administration hasn't royally messed this up, look at South Korea. We as a country, at least in Electoral College states that matter, are hopelessly stupid.

South Korea benefited from their previous experience with SARS. Why not look at France, Italy, the Netherlands, Belgium, Spain and the UK - all of which have higher covid 19 death rates than the US?

Because we could be, and should be, doing better than those countries. For many reasons, but one being we had far more advanced notice that this virus was coming.

It doesn't take SARS to realize that testing, tracing, and isolating are the way to save lives and the economy.

Are you trying to defend the administration's response? I can't even give him credit for leaving it to the states- that would be a plan, at least. A bad plan, but a plan. He has abdicated all responsibility to the states, and then encouraged them to re-open without meeting his own administration's guidelines for doing so, promoted crack pot cures, made it harder for the states to get necessary equipment and tests, lied about testing, the list goes on.

Sounds like you want to move over to the political board, but if you do, be prepared to make your case beyond picking one single country as a comparison when you do. And also research how our Constitutional system of government is set up and why authority for response to pandemics is set at the state level (beyond specifically listed responsibilities of the federal government like the military and immigration).

You are so persuasive!!!!

It's ok. I'm done. Have fun convincing others that Trump's response has been anything but abysmal.

[Anonymous]

I hate this too. I can handle today, I handled yesterday. But I’ve been doing this 9 weeks now. I am most concerned about my kids, their lack of schooling and socialization, and when I look at the fall, it seems so grim.

I would love real leadership. Imagine how the mood of the country could be affected if we had real leadership! A Churchill. Solidarity. Sacrifice. But, moreso: someone who can get us out of this.

[Anonymous]

I was OK until it became apparent that federal/state/local public health officials are not doing everything they can with the time we all bought them.