Please stop saying the K-Word

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

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jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my. I was offended that my thread (with two pages of civil discussion last I checked) about woke parents was deleted. But censoring the K-word is beyond ridiculous. Never mind, let's go back to the multi-page threads spewing hatred against feds and 30+ pages of speculation about a private citizen's legal and marital issues.

Your thread was one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever seen posted here. I am giving you credit for being ignorant rather than simply racist.

I understand that it's because I identified myself as a black woman in that thread, and this forum has made it clear time and time again that the black POV is not welcome. But please, continue calling me ignorant. Not just ignorant, but one of the most ignorant things you've ever seen. I'll give you credit for just being selective about how you moderate your website, rather than simply being racist. Meanwhile, I'll focus my efforts on recommending sofas to people and try my best to ignore all the hatred that spews through this forum day in and day out that you think is a-okay.

I actually never saw a post in which you identified yourself that way but now you have clarified exactly which poster you are and things make a lot more sense. Your suggestion that any white children raised in DC would only be exposed to black drug users and black gang members was so far from reality that I have trouble believe that you know anything about DC. For the record, my sons were born in and have lived their entire lives in DC. From birth they were exposed to the Harvard-educated black woman that lives on one side of us and the Emmy-winning television producer -- also a black woman -- who lives on the other side. Both have grown up around black people of all socio-economic levels and understand better than you, apparently, that the black community is not monolithic and that the popular negative stereotypes are far from accurate. I am really sorry that you have such a low opinion of our own race. You are missing so much.

Low opinion of her own race, or...
Troll lying about her own race.

(Race is one of the principal issues the right wants to use to divide us, by getting us to argue about it.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don’t say Becky anymore?

The dumbs still do but other than them, no.

[jsteele]

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Anonymous wrote:I love that Jeff has such strong feelings about the so called K word. It makes him seem more real to me, if that makes sense.

It seems like he relates to them, which is fine. Just stop pretending it’s for some greater good of DCUM.

I don't have particularly strong feelings about this word. It is just one more in a long list that I've chosen to block. There just happens to be a thread about it. I actually have stronger feelings about the post suggesting that white children in DC are only exposed to black drug users and criminals.

If someone started a thread about why I have blocked "Trumptard" (you will get blocked if you quote this post), I suppose you would think I have strong feelings about them as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love that Jeff has such strong feelings about the so called K word. It makes him seem more real to me, if that makes sense.

It seems like he relates to them, which is fine. Just stop pretending it’s for some greater good of DCUM.

That's....not what I meant at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love that Jeff has such strong feelings about the so called K word. It makes him seem more real to me, if that makes sense.

A name being banned is real? You must’ve missed the Becky craze before the K-worrd came along. At least the Becky’s seemed to know it was a joke.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh my. I was offended that my thread (with two pages of civil discussion last I checked) about woke parents was deleted. But censoring the K-word is beyond ridiculous. Never mind, let's go back to the multi-page threads spewing hatred against feds and 30+ pages of speculation about a private citizen's legal and marital issues.

Your thread was one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever seen posted here. I am giving you credit for being ignorant rather than simply racist.

I understand that it's because I identified myself as a black woman in that thread, and this forum has made it clear time and time again that the black POV is not welcome. But please, continue calling me ignorant. Not just ignorant, but one of the most ignorant things you've ever seen. I'll give you credit for just being selective about how you moderate your website, rather than simply being racist. Meanwhile, I'll focus my efforts on recommending sofas to people and try my best to ignore all the hatred that spews through this forum day in and day out that you think is a-okay.

Amen. Really disappointed in you Jeff.

If you are disappointed that I don't view all black people in DC as drug users and gang members, you are really going to hate me for the other things I believe,.

I'm not talking about whatever her post was, I'm talking about your censorship of something so stupid and comparatively innocuous to things you choose to let stand. But anything to p rd protect the honor of white womanhood, amirite?

Few, if any, of the white woman on this site need me to protect their honor. I blocked the K-word because it was played out beyond belief and the constant use of it made this look like the lamest site on the Internet. Do you think I want to be the owner of a site on which the users have just caught up with 2018 and think they are the coolest kids in school?

You're censoring things because they aren't "cool" enough? Really?

DCUM earned a reputation for having intelligent, educated, and witty posters. Then it devolved to repeating the same name over and over again in response to nearly every post. Call it "censorship" or call it nostalgia.

You redeemed yourself a bit with this self-deprecation. At first I was like, you think the overuse of the K-word is why DCUM is a mockery on the internet, particularly among other local blogs and forums? Then I saw your follow-up and was like, nah, you get this site is a joke. An oddly compelling joke, which keeps us coming back despite our best interests.

Anyway, since there's been much speculation about what I actually said in my original post of "A dilemma facing 'woke' DC parents" (thank goodness for Googie caching, anyone can find the original thread). Here's what I posted:

DC parents who are determined to rear their children in the city to expose them to diversity and all the benefits of city life are unintentionally creating the next generation of racists. Their children's earliest and most enduring perception of black people will be of the drug-addicted and mentally ill people living on the street, groups of youth committing petty crimes and being general nuisances, grown people who should know better displaying ratchet behavior in public, etc. This causes an unconscious bias that these children will carry for the remainder of their lives, even if they believe themselves to be anti-racist. Meanwhile, children growing up in the DC suburbs will have their earliest and most enduring exposure be to people of all races and ethnicities who value education, hard work, success, and good manners. It's these suburban children who will have a stronger grounding in diversity and inclusion, even if they don't explicitly consider that part of their identity.

Source: Me, a black woman who grew up surrounded by other UMC people of all colors, thus never learning that black people couldn't or shouldn't be just as successful as rich white folks, and who moved to DC some years ago. Me, a black woman who has realized with sadness that I now have an unconscious prejudice against my own skinfolk after years of dealing with all the nonsense that comes with living in a slowly gentrifying part of the city. If my perception of other black people can deteriorate so drastically after moving to DC as an adult, knowing that the behavior of a specific subset of people is in no way reflective of the race as a whole, what chance do white children in transitioning neighborhoods have at not having unconscious bias deeply ingrained during their formative years?

Jeff was right to delete the above post. You clearly have some deep issues. This is so offensive and ridiculous. - Signed a highly successful UMC AA woman born and raised in DC.

So you speak for all black women now? Get over yourself K-word.

I speak for myself, family and friends who are born and raised here (or moved here) who do not reflect the AA’s the original poster described. Her statement was self-hating and patently false. And calling me that word means absolutely nothing to me.

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jsteele wrote:

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jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my. I was offended that my thread (with two pages of civil discussion last I checked) about woke parents was deleted. But censoring the K-word is beyond ridiculous. Never mind, let's go back to the multi-page threads spewing hatred against feds and 30+ pages of speculation about a private citizen's legal and marital issues.

Your thread was one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever seen posted here. I am giving you credit for being ignorant rather than simply racist.

I understand that it's because I identified myself as a black woman in that thread, and this forum has made it clear time and time again that the black POV is not welcome. But please, continue calling me ignorant. Not just ignorant, but one of the most ignorant things you've ever seen. I'll give you credit for just being selective about how you moderate your website, rather than simply being racist. Meanwhile, I'll focus my efforts on recommending sofas to people and try my best to ignore all the hatred that spews through this forum day in and day out that you think is a-okay.

Amen. Really disappointed in you Jeff.

If you are disappointed that I don't view all black people in DC as drug users and gang members, you are really going to hate me for the other things I believe,.

I'm not talking about whatever her post was, I'm talking about your censorship of something so stupid and comparatively innocuous to things you choose to let stand. But anything to p rd protect the honor of white womanhood, amirite?

Few, if any, of the white woman on this site need me to protect their honor. I blocked the K-word because it was played out beyond belief and the constant use of it made this look like the lamest site on the Internet. Do you think I want to be the owner of a site on which the users have just caught up with 2018 and think they are the coolest kids in school?

You're censoring things because they aren't "cool" enough? Really?

DCUM earned a reputation for having intelligent, educated, and witty posters. Then it devolved to repeating the same name over and over again in response to nearly every post. Call it "censorship" or call it nostalgia.

You redeemed yourself a bit with this self-deprecation. At first I was like, you think the overuse of the K-word is why DCUM is a mockery on the internet, particularly among other local blogs and forums? Then I saw your follow-up and was like, nah, you get this site is a joke. An oddly compelling joke, which keeps us coming back despite our best interests.

Anyway, since there's been much speculation about what I actually said in my original post of "A dilemma facing 'woke' DC parents" (thank goodness for Googie caching, anyone can find the original thread). Here's what I posted:

DC parents who are determined to rear their children in the city to expose them to diversity and all the benefits of city life are unintentionally creating the next generation of racists. Their children's earliest and most enduring perception of black people will be of the drug-addicted and mentally ill people living on the street, groups of youth committing petty crimes and being general nuisances, grown people who should know better displaying ratchet behavior in public, etc. This causes an unconscious bias that these children will carry for the remainder of their lives, even if they believe themselves to be anti-racist. Meanwhile, children growing up in the DC suburbs will have their earliest and most enduring exposure be to people of all races and ethnicities who value education, hard work, success, and good manners. It's these suburban children who will have a stronger grounding in diversity and inclusion, even if they don't explicitly consider that part of their identity.

Source: Me, a black woman who grew up surrounded by other UMC people of all colors, thus never learning that black people couldn't or shouldn't be just as successful as rich white folks, and who moved to DC some years ago. Me, a black woman who has realized with sadness that I now have an unconscious prejudice against my own skinfolk after years of dealing with all the nonsense that comes with living in a slowly gentrifying part of the city. If my perception of other black people can deteriorate so drastically after moving to DC as an adult, knowing that the behavior of a specific subset of people is in no way reflective of the race as a whole, what chance do white children in transitioning neighborhoods have at not having unconscious bias deeply ingrained during their formative years?

Jeff was right to delete the above post. You clearly have some deep issues. This is so offensive and ridiculous. - Signed a highly successful UMC AA woman born and raised in DC.

I’m AA. You don’t speak for all black people. I thought the post was fine and that more discussions like this should be taking place here. I just ran through the “what can’t black people do“ thread and there are several white people who are sayin “who cares about this”. We have to hear about a million K-words who freak out about this virus day in and day out, such as bitching about someone not wearing a mask to walk their dog or go to a store, but when someone black gets racially profiled for wearing a mask, it’s ignored.

Never said I speak for all AA’s, nor could I. Use your critical thinking skills pls.

[Anonymous]

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jsteele wrote:

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jsteele wrote:

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jsteele wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my. I was offended that my thread (with two pages of civil discussion last I checked) about woke parents was deleted. But censoring the K-word is beyond ridiculous. Never mind, let's go back to the multi-page threads spewing hatred against feds and 30+ pages of speculation about a private citizen's legal and marital issues.

Your thread was one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever seen posted here. I am giving you credit for being ignorant rather than simply racist.

I understand that it's because I identified myself as a black woman in that thread, and this forum has made it clear time and time again that the black POV is not welcome. But please, continue calling me ignorant. Not just ignorant, but one of the most ignorant things you've ever seen. I'll give you credit for just being selective about how you moderate your website, rather than simply being racist. Meanwhile, I'll focus my efforts on recommending sofas to people and try my best to ignore all the hatred that spews through this forum day in and day out that you think is a-okay.

Amen. Really disappointed in you Jeff.

If you are disappointed that I don't view all black people in DC as drug users and gang members, you are really going to hate me for the other things I believe,.

I'm not talking about whatever her post was, I'm talking about your censorship of something so stupid and comparatively innocuous to things you choose to let stand. But anything to p rd protect the honor of white womanhood, amirite?

Few, if any, of the white woman on this site need me to protect their honor. I blocked the K-word because it was played out beyond belief and the constant use of it made this look like the lamest site on the Internet. Do you think I want to be the owner of a site on which the users have just caught up with 2018 and think they are the coolest kids in school?

You're censoring things because they aren't "cool" enough? Really?

DCUM earned a reputation for having intelligent, educated, and witty posters. Then it devolved to repeating the same name over and over again in response to nearly every post. Call it "censorship" or call it nostalgia.

You redeemed yourself a bit with this self-deprecation. At first I was like, you think the overuse of the K-word is why DCUM is a mockery on the internet, particularly among other local blogs and forums? Then I saw your follow-up and was like, nah, you get this site is a joke. An oddly compelling joke, which keeps us coming back despite our best interests.

Anyway, since there's been much speculation about what I actually said in my original post of "A dilemma facing 'woke' DC parents" (thank goodness for Googie caching, anyone can find the original thread). Here's what I posted:

DC parents who are determined to rear their children in the city to expose them to diversity and all the benefits of city life are unintentionally creating the next generation of racists. Their children's earliest and most enduring perception of black people will be of the drug-addicted and mentally ill people living on the street, groups of youth committing petty crimes and being general nuisances, grown people who should know better displaying ratchet behavior in public, etc. This causes an unconscious bias that these children will carry for the remainder of their lives, even if they believe themselves to be anti-racist. Meanwhile, children growing up in the DC suburbs will have their earliest and most enduring exposure be to people of all races and ethnicities who value education, hard work, success, and good manners. It's these suburban children who will have a stronger grounding in diversity and inclusion, even if they don't explicitly consider that part of their identity.

Source: Me, a black woman who grew up surrounded by other UMC people of all colors, thus never learning that black people couldn't or shouldn't be just as successful as rich white folks, and who moved to DC some years ago. Me, a black woman who has realized with sadness that I now have an unconscious prejudice against my own skinfolk after years of dealing with all the nonsense that comes with living in a slowly gentrifying part of the city. If my perception of other black people can deteriorate so drastically after moving to DC as an adult, knowing that the behavior of a specific subset of people is in no way reflective of the race as a whole, what chance do white children in transitioning neighborhoods have at not having unconscious bias deeply ingrained during their formative years?

Jeff was right to delete the above post. You clearly have some deep issues. This is so offensive and ridiculous. - Signed a highly successful UMC AA woman born and raised in DC.

I’m AA. You don’t speak for all black people. I thought the post was fine and that more discussions like this should be taking place here. I just ran through the “what can’t black people do“ thread and there are several white people who are sayin “who cares about this”. We have to hear about a million K-words who freak out about this virus day in and day out, such as bitching about someone not wearing a mask to walk their dog or go to a store, but when someone black gets racially profiled for wearing a mask, it’s ignored.

Never said I speak for all AA’s, nor could I. Use your critical thinking skills pls.

As you called for it to be deleted.

[Anonymous]

It was already deleted.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:Someone needs to think of a name for the OP of this thread:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/875218.page

That poster not only wants to speak to the manager, but wants to sue the manager as well.

Is that a woman? I was assuming it was a man.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:Someone needs to think of a name for the OP of this thread:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/875218.page

That poster not only wants to speak to the manager, but wants to sue the manager as well.

Is that a woman? I was assuming it was a man.

I don’t know so I kept my post gender neutral.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my. I was offended that my thread (with two pages of civil discussion last I checked) about woke parents was deleted. But censoring the K-word is beyond ridiculous. Never mind, let's go back to the multi-page threads spewing hatred against feds and 30+ pages of speculation about a private citizen's legal and marital issues.

Your thread was one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever seen posted here. I am giving you credit for being ignorant rather than simply racist.

I understand that it's because I identified myself as a black woman in that thread, and this forum has made it clear time and time again that the black POV is not welcome. But please, continue calling me ignorant. Not just ignorant, but one of the most ignorant things you've ever seen. I'll give you credit for just being selective about how you moderate your website, rather than simply being racist. Meanwhile, I'll focus my efforts on recommending sofas to people and try my best to ignore all the hatred that spews through this forum day in and day out that you think is a-okay.

Amen. Really disappointed in you Jeff.

If you are disappointed that I don't view all black people in DC as drug users and gang members, you are really going to hate me for the other things I believe,.

I'm not talking about whatever her post was, I'm talking about your censorship of something so stupid and comparatively innocuous to things you choose to let stand. But anything to p rd protect the honor of white womanhood, amirite?

Few, if any, of the white woman on this site need me to protect their honor. I blocked the K-word because it was played out beyond belief and the constant use of it made this look like the lamest site on the Internet. Do you think I want to be the owner of a site on which the users have just caught up with 2018 and think they are the coolest kids in school?

You're censoring things because they aren't "cool" enough? Really?

DCUM earned a reputation for having intelligent, educated, and witty posters. Then it devolved to repeating the same name over and over again in response to nearly every post. Call it "censorship" or call it nostalgia.

You redeemed yourself a bit with this self-deprecation. At first I was like, you think the overuse of the K-word is why DCUM is a mockery on the internet, particularly among other local blogs and forums? Then I saw your follow-up and was like, nah, you get this site is a joke. An oddly compelling joke, which keeps us coming back despite our best interests.

Anyway, since there's been much speculation about what I actually said in my original post of "A dilemma facing 'woke' DC parents" (thank goodness for Googie caching, anyone can find the original thread). Here's what I posted:

DC parents who are determined to rear their children in the city to expose them to diversity and all the benefits of city life are unintentionally creating the next generation of racists. Their children's earliest and most enduring perception of black people will be of the drug-addicted and mentally ill people living on the street, groups of youth committing petty crimes and being general nuisances, grown people who should know better displaying ratchet behavior in public, etc. This causes an unconscious bias that these children will carry for the remainder of their lives, even if they believe themselves to be anti-racist. Meanwhile, children growing up in the DC suburbs will have their earliest and most enduring exposure be to people of all races and ethnicities who value education, hard work, success, and good manners. It's these suburban children who will have a stronger grounding in diversity and inclusion, even if they don't explicitly consider that part of their identity.

Source: Me, a black woman who grew up surrounded by other UMC people of all colors, thus never learning that black people couldn't or shouldn't be just as successful as rich white folks, and who moved to DC some years ago. Me, a black woman who has realized with sadness that I now have an unconscious prejudice against my own skinfolk after years of dealing with all the nonsense that comes with living in a slowly gentrifying part of the city. If my perception of other black people can deteriorate so drastically after moving to DC as an adult, knowing that the behavior of a specific subset of people is in no way reflective of the race as a whole, what chance do white children in transitioning neighborhoods have at not having unconscious bias deeply ingrained during their formative years?

I actually agree with a lot of what pp is saying above because I've seen it first hand with my 11 yr old son. Three years ago we transferred him from a private Catholic school with little diversity to a much more racially/economically diverse public school in the city. He's done well academically but I've noticed that he's beginning to make racist statements, using vast generalizations about POC that we've never taught him. The only place he's getting it is from school. We of course try and teach him differently but as pp says, kids are particularly susceptible to developing unconscious bias and carrying it with them. Thank heavens we have a number of family friends that are black and Hispanic that do not fit his stereotype of the kids at school. What pp is saying is it'd be like if an UMC black child moved to a school where many of the children were poor white kids from trailer parks. Of course they are going to get a totally biased view of white people that may not be accurate.

[Anonymous]

^^yep

[Anonymous]

I agree, using k*aren, becky etc... is an opportunity to use backwards racism and can be as offensive as the n word, etc.

-not white

[Anonymous]

Becky is a derogatory American slang term for a white woman