Boyfriend told me that I smell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it just your breath?

As a guy, if this was the only issue, I would just use it as an excuse to go down on you a lot more.

Well aren’t you a keeper!

[Anonymous]

You could use a hunters soap to get rid of body odor. Do you wash with a loofah or wash cloth? Use a natural toothpaste and gargle with peroxide and see if that helps.

[Anonymous]

Also, do you have allergies? My kids smell whem thry have sinus infections. I know something is wrong when i brush their teeth and they still smell off.

[Anonymous]

Do you see spots/sores that look like ingrown hairs on your underarms or groin? That could be hidradenitis suppurativa. It has a range of odors. Sometimes it smells like corn chips. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/hidradenitis-suppurativa/symptoms-causes/syc-20352306

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you all for your advice. Much appreciated. I did have an in depth conversation with him about this. He isn't the guy for me not only due to this, but for a couple of other reasons that scream controlling behavior. Thanks for being my sounding board

[Anonymous]

There was an article about this not too long ago, but I can’t remember what publication it was in. I want to say NYTimes but not sure. Unexplained body odor is a real problem that some people deal with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you all for your advice. Much appreciated. I did have an in depth conversation with him about this. He isn't the guy for me not only due to this, but for a couple of other reasons that scream controlling behavior. Thanks for being my sounding board

He's not trying to "control" you by telling you that you smell bad. He's just saying he doesn't want to have sex with you. What you do with that information is entirely up to you. Sounds like you're in denial about it though.

"I smell, could I be the problem? No, he is the problem."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you all for your advice. Much appreciated. I did have an in depth conversation with him about this. He isn't the guy for me not only due to this, but for a couple of other reasons that scream controlling behavior. Thanks for being my sounding board

OP, that's good that you made a decision but you still need to address the funkiness. He might not have been the right guy but the next one might be nice and non-controlling but can't put up with the smell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you all for your advice. Much appreciated. I did have an in depth conversation with him about this. He isn't the guy for me not only due to this, but for a couple of other reasons that scream controlling behavior. Thanks for being my sounding board

OP, that's good that you made a decision but you still need to address the funkiness. He might not have been the right guy but the next one might be nice and non-controlling but can't put up with the smell.

+1 Interesting that OP will not respond to any questions or advice regarding the specific issue.

[Anonymous]

Bad breath is usually caused by Digestive issues and stomach conditions. I know I have bad breath when my stomach is empty. Eating just a slice of bread or a piece of fruit solves the problem

[Anonymous]

Apart from your intimate relationships, the odor issue may affect your work life and relationships with non-intimate partners. It makes sense to find a solution for it at some point.

[Anonymous]

OP here, the control issue is something separate. He tends to barge into the bathroom if I am taking too long. Last time he set a timer when I was in the shower

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, the control issue is something separate. He tends to barge into the bathroom if I am taking too long. Last time he set a timer when I was in the shower

Tell him it takes a long time to wash off the stink he doesn't like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, the control issue is something separate. He tends to barge into the bathroom if I am taking too long. Last time he set a timer when I was in the shower

Ok... that is weird and not ok... I agree with you that those are red flags

[Anonymous]

I think that OP needs to address the bad BO medically and by following a better hygiene routine. I think the boyfriend could be a jerk and control freak but still correct about the BO. I also think that the BO issue has created a situation that op is not attracting good guys but InCels and POA kind of assh0les. Her pickings are very slim.