Boyfriend told me that I smell.

[Anonymous]

This is a fairly new relationship. We've been dating for almost 3 months now. Last night before bed he told me that I smell and he doesn't want to have sex with me. I am beyond embarrassed. I didn't respond to what he said as I don't know what to do. He knows that I shower and brush my teeth as i have done both at his house before. The other day, he joked about me having dragon breath. Disclaimer: I am aware that I smell, but I do not know the culprit. I have consulted my dentist and other physicians, but haven't been able to find the root cause. I do suffer from chronic constipation and other digestive issues and I sweat more than most people, but I am aware of this so I chew gum often, wear extra strength deordant, and shower 2x a day. I was bullied a lot by my family bc I smelled as a kid so this really hurts and brings back memories. I really don't know what to do. I obviously do not want to be involved with someone who isn't happy with my hygiene, but I'm not sure how to even approach this with him. I think I should end things as I don't feel like there isn't more that I can do to improve the situation and I don't want to be involved with someone who doesn't want to kiss or have sex with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a fairly new relationship. We've been dating for almost 3 months now. Last night before bed he told me that I smell and he doesn't want to have sex with me. I am beyond embarrassed. I didn't respond to what he said as I don't know what to do. He knows that I shower and brush my teeth as i have done both at his house before. The other day, he joked about me having dragon breath. Disclaimer: I am aware that I smell, but I do not know the culprit. I have consulted my dentist and other physicians, but haven't been able to find the root cause. I do suffer from chronic constipation and other digestive issues and I sweat more than most people, but I am aware of this so I chew gum often, wear extra strength deordant, and shower 2x a day. I was bullied a lot by my family bc I smelled as a kid so this really hurts and brings back memories. I really don't know what to do. I obviously do not want to be involved with someone who isn't happy with my hygiene, but I'm not sure how to even approach this with him. I think I should end things as I don't feel like there isn't more that I can do to improve the situation and I don't want to be involved with someone who doesn't want to kiss or have sex with me.

There you go. There's no putting the toothpaste bag in the tube on this one. You know he thinks it and it's always going to bother you. Cut bait and find someone better.

[Anonymous]

So sorry from another smelly. On the bright side, at least he had the balls to tell you rather than ghosting you. So it's terrible, but be thankful for that.

[Anonymous]

do you brush your tongue? i mean scrub it?

[Anonymous]

Does your body absorb protein well?

[Anonymous]

Tonsil stones. Clean your tonsils. Waterpik

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:do you brush your tongue? i mean scrub it?

I have a tongue scraper and I use mouthwash faithfully

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tonsil stones. Clean your tonsils. Waterpik

I have done both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your body absorb protein well?

I'm not sure. How would I know this? What signs/symptoms should I look for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tonsil stones. Clean your tonsils. Waterpik

I have done both.

NP - I thought that tonsil stones were my problem too so I had a tonsilectomy. It's still a problem. I've been in a treatment cycle with my dentist to correct some problems and I hope that when we're done, that fixes it.

[Anonymous]

I think you should dump him. I'm sorry, but even if you are smelly, and I'm a sensitive to smell person saying this, it's just such a hurtful thing to do. You smell, I don't want to be have sex with you. It's just indicative of his character. Move on.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP. That must sting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should dump him. I'm sorry, but even if you are smelly, and I'm a sensitive to smell person saying this, it's just such a hurtful thing to do. You smell, I don't want to be have sex with you. It's just indicative of his character. Move on.

Agree. I don't blame him for not wanting sex because of your smell. But there are certainly kinder ways for him to bring it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should dump him. I'm sorry, but even if you are smelly, and I'm a sensitive to smell person saying this, it's just such a hurtful thing to do. You smell, I don't want to be have sex with you. It's just indicative of his character. Move on.

Nah I have a sensitive nose. It would be a turnoff for me if the person I was with had a bad odor and awful breath. I’ve actually dated ones who had bad breath and while they were nice people, I couldn’t do it after a few weeks.

It doesn’t mean the person is a jerk for not liking their bad breath.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't sound like a hygiene issue. It sounds more like a physiological issue.