Boyfriend told me that I smell.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, Op, that would be hard. He's been with you for 3 months so he must really enjoy being around you.

I see an add on Youtube every now and then for a product called Lume - google those commercials. Your story sounds similar to some of the stories in those commercials. Lume might be worth a try for you.

[Anonymous]

What would the physiological reason result from? Or is it like acne.... everyone thinks hey know and gives advice but there is simply acne types that are more severe?

[Anonymous]

Also, you might want to look into your diet and see if you are eating something aromatic that is seeping from your pores. Too much of a good thing...

[Anonymous]

I'd ask him what smells? Is it just your breath? Your body odor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't sound like a hygiene issue. It sounds more like a physiological issue.

+1. Have you had doctors check your hormone levels? My last pregnancy, I would randomly have these sudden onsets of terrible BO. Like literally out of nowhere, not related to what I had eaten. It was just a reflection of a hormone change. Thankfully they didn’t last long, but they were awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, you might want to look into your diet and see if you are eating something aromatic that is seeping from your pores. Too much of a good thing...

Good idea. Maybe there's something she can't metabolize.

[Anonymous]

Think about your diet.

Also visit a derm - make sure you don’t have a skin infection.

Also - how well do you shower? I’m dating a guy who sometimes smells not so great and I know from showering with him that he thinks he is showering well, but he is not. He doesn’t use enough soap in certain places like his face and sometimes his face smells as a result. I don’t think he washes his neck and ears etc well. A few times we have showered together and I’ve lathered him up and guess what - he smelled good! So think about your shower techniques.

[Anonymous]

Tell him it's not you, it's that candle you bought from Gwyneth Paltrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Think about your diet.

Also visit a derm - make sure you don’t have a skin infection.

Also - how well do you shower? I’m dating a guy who sometimes smells not so great and I know from showering with him that he thinks he is showering well, but he is not. He doesn’t use enough soap in certain places like his face and sometimes his face smells as a result. I don’t think he washes his neck and ears etc well. A few times we have showered together and I’ve lathered him up and guess what - he smelled good! So think about your shower techniques.

OP here. A dermatologist visit is a good suggestion. I've been having bad breakouts lately and that's not normal for me. I just chalked it up to stress

[Anonymous]

I have to tell you, OP. I was kinda grossed out reading your post. I feel bad for both of you.

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend specifically mentioned that you have dragon breath. Do you have old fillings in your mouth by any chance? If so, it's possible that there might be some decay under those fillings that is not showing up on your dental xrays...I actually had bad breath caused by this one time.

Maybe get a second opinion from another dentist? There is something going on.

[Anonymous]

Have you had a full physical? Body odor could be related to hormones. Also, what types of foods are you eating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Think about your diet.

Also visit a derm - make sure you don’t have a skin infection.

Also - how well do you shower? I’m dating a guy who sometimes smells not so great and I know from showering with him that he thinks he is showering well, but he is not. He doesn’t use enough soap in certain places like his face and sometimes his face smells as a result. I don’t think he washes his neck and ears etc well. A few times we have showered together and I’ve lathered him up and guess what - he smelled good! So think about your shower techniques.

+ 1

Buy an exfoliating washcloth and scrub your skin all over. If this problem has been going on since childhood I wonder if you never got the hang of getting all the way clean? Just letting water flow over you is not enough for most people. In my experience, brushing teeth, tongue and gums helps, same for flossing. Mouthwash makes things worse because it dries out your mouth. Your breath smells better fir the first 15 minutes, then much worse over the next few hours. Throw away your mouthwash. Drink more water throughout the day.

It’s also not normal to be constipated all the time. I bet the smell is a combination of bad diet/nutrition and subpar hygiene practices.

[Anonymous]

OP, I know you mentioned that you’ve been working with doctors/dentists. Do you have a diagnosis, like Trimethylaminuria? Or if not, do you know where the odor is coming from? You’ve mentioned both multiple showers and oral hygiene.

People on this forum have amazing google skills. Someone might be able to determine the right specialist for you if there are more details you can share.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it is rude. I I was dating a guy and his breath and body stank, I wouldn't want to have sex with him either.

It sound alike this guy likes her so instead of just breaking up he raised the issue like an adult to communicate how he feels as for the opportunity to dialogue about solutions.

Women are not weak. They can handle difficult conversations and especially when this is a known issue OP should be prepared to speak to it in dating relationships where there is physical intimacy.