Would you mind if your 15 year old drank?

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Anonymous wrote:It is so scary to me that there are parents out here who even think this is a question. SMH.

I'll bite-- why is it so scary to you. Do you think everyone who has a beer at 15 end up with unhealthy approach to alcohol? Or that everyone who has a beer at 15 suffer lifelong health consequences?

Is it or is it not OK to break the law, moron? Oh it is? Oh but just THIS law?

Hope your kids enjoy jail, suspension, losing a job, and all the other natural, predictable consequences of breaking the law and the rules of schools and businesses.

I appreciate the thoughtful responses but I think this is hysterical.

Tell it to the judge when your 17- or 18-year-old gets a DUI.

We had a lot of parents like you when I was on the swim team. My parents were the "uncool" ones. Here are actual things that happened to some of my teammmates:

1) One did, in fact, get a DUI when she was a freshman at Michigan State, age 19. Lost a swimming scholarship.
2) One lost the team captain position when my coach heard she drank at a party. A high school consequence, sure. Low-stakes, sure. But a natural consequence of her dumb behavior.
3) One started abusing drugs while in high school and went down the full, predictable druggie path. Two babies with two different dads; she has never had custody, her parents raise them. She's been in and out of jail. Never held down a decent job. Rehab, lose a job at Pizza Hut or some such, rinse, repeat.
4) My friend got in too deep with some of the guys on the boys team and kind of became...known as a slut. She has a fine life now, but that can't be fun to look back on.

There were other teammates who drank and got away with it and no big consequences, sure. Maybe your kids will be like those kids, fine. Maybe not.

You must be a child of an alcoholic because you’re completely hysterical

Every single one of those things actually happened to people I was on the swim team with in high school.

And as I mentioned, yes, of course there were some kids who drank and there were no real consequences. But sure, go down the path of losing scholarships, DUIs and drug abuse and good luck.

Because you don't get to act like you can predict what will happen for YOUR kid. You don't get to declare that you will have a no-consequence kid vs. a kid who gets a DUI.

Best of luck!

Thanks for warning us, PP. I’m definitely not going to let my kids swim.

Best of luck! Gooooooood luck! Think of me when the entirely predictable consequence comes, PP. Think of me.

It’s a gateway. You think it will just be swim. But then they start diving. Or playing water polo.

Best of luck! Good luck. I will try to hide my smug smile when I hear about the latest round of dumb-ass behavior and predictable consequences from your set. I'll pretend to nod with concern and cluck sympathetically.

That would be just as pathetic as I acting smugly when I know your kid is guzzling beer and you think he’s perfect.

If you catch my kid drinking beer, let me know. I'll be on it and I will handle it. It's called parenting. Maybe try it some time?

You want me to parent your kids no thanks. How about you have open and honest communication with your kids instead of punitive and unrealistic expectations. If you were actually parenting your kid you would know if they were drinking not me.

Yes, parents who have open and honest communication with their kids NEVER get lied to, and their kids NEVER make bad decisions. That's definitely how life works.

How do I know it is, indeed, realistic to raise a kid who literally never drinks in high school? I am one. My siblings didn't, either. I have a group of friends in high school who made good choices and stayed on a good path. I also had friends who did drink, with no real consequences; great for them. I also had friends who drank, with disastrous consequences.

Best of luck! Good luck. It may well be that your kids will drink in high school with no real consequences. Then again, they may be the ones who get the DUI, lose the scholarship, end up on drugs. Time will tell. Because YOU can't tell.

Actually I can tell because my kids are 28 and 30 now. But yeah go ahead keep wishing bad things to happen to the kids in your children’s high school that are experimenting with alcohol see how that works for you. #Karma

It’s so funny to me that you think It’s unrealistic to raise a kid that doesn’t lie to their parents that’s actually funny.

You know how I know it’s realistic to raise a team that doesn’t lie to their parents? Because I am one!

It's not that your kids never lied to you. It's that you don't know what the lies were or when, dumb bunny.

Now trot off to Menopause n Dementia where you belong.

Oh your kids are definitely going to want to drink.

Sorry, was that a little too close to home?

Yes. My son has friends with parents like you and they are all on Xanax. It's sad actually, im sad for them and for your children. You are you kids biggest risk factor. You really need help.... but I'm not the first to tell you that am I.

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Anonymous wrote:It is so scary to me that there are parents out here who even think this is a question. SMH.

I'll bite-- why is it so scary to you. Do you think everyone who has a beer at 15 end up with unhealthy approach to alcohol? Or that everyone who has a beer at 15 suffer lifelong health consequences?

Is it or is it not OK to break the law, moron? Oh it is? Oh but just THIS law?

Hope your kids enjoy jail, suspension, losing a job, and all the other natural, predictable consequences of breaking the law and the rules of schools and businesses.

I appreciate the thoughtful responses but I think this is hysterical.

Tell it to the judge when your 17- or 18-year-old gets a DUI.

We had a lot of parents like you when I was on the swim team. My parents were the "uncool" ones. Here are actual things that happened to some of my teammmates:

1) One did, in fact, get a DUI when she was a freshman at Michigan State, age 19. Lost a swimming scholarship.
2) One lost the team captain position when my coach heard she drank at a party. A high school consequence, sure. Low-stakes, sure. But a natural consequence of her dumb behavior.
3) One started abusing drugs while in high school and went down the full, predictable druggie path. Two babies with two different dads; she has never had custody, her parents raise them. She's been in and out of jail. Never held down a decent job. Rehab, lose a job at Pizza Hut or some such, rinse, repeat.
4) My friend got in too deep with some of the guys on the boys team and kind of became...known as a slut. She has a fine life now, but that can't be fun to look back on.

There were other teammates who drank and got away with it and no big consequences, sure. Maybe your kids will be like those kids, fine. Maybe not.

You must be a child of an alcoholic because you’re completely hysterical

Every single one of those things actually happened to people I was on the swim team with in high school.

And as I mentioned, yes, of course there were some kids who drank and there were no real consequences. But sure, go down the path of losing scholarships, DUIs and drug abuse and good luck.

Because you don't get to act like you can predict what will happen for YOUR kid. You don't get to declare that you will have a no-consequence kid vs. a kid who gets a DUI.

Best of luck!

Thanks for warning us, PP. I’m definitely not going to let my kids swim.

Best of luck! Gooooooood luck! Think of me when the entirely predictable consequence comes, PP. Think of me.

It’s a gateway. You think it will just be swim. But then they start diving. Or playing water polo.

Best of luck! Good luck. I will try to hide my smug smile when I hear about the latest round of dumb-ass behavior and predictable consequences from your set. I'll pretend to nod with concern and cluck sympathetically.

That would be just as pathetic as I acting smugly when I know your kid is guzzling beer and you think he’s perfect.

If you catch my kid drinking beer, let me know. I'll be on it and I will handle it. It's called parenting. Maybe try it some time?

Please do the same if you see mine at the pool.

Actually, I saw you kids swimming in a lake, it seems a pool was just a gateway to worse things in life. I'm really sorry. Do you want a good recommendation for a counselor.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would absolutely mind!
College is the earliest kids should try alcohol (responsibly, although it might be wishful thinking).

Not trying until college reduces the likelihood your kid will try responsibly then.

You made that up.

Kids who have never had alcohol, particularly if it is because of parent restrictions, are more likely to go crazy with the freedom of college. They are also less prepared to handle the effects of alcohol so are more likely to get trashed, intentionally or not.

Again, you made that up. The data does not support it.

Ok, let's see this purported data.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would absolutely mind!
College is the earliest kids should try alcohol (responsibly, although it might be wishful thinking).

Not trying until college reduces the likelihood your kid will try responsibly then.

You made that up.

Kids who have never had alcohol, particularly if it is because of parent restrictions, are more likely to go crazy with the freedom of college. They are also less prepared to handle the effects of alcohol so are more likely to get trashed, intentionally or not.

Again, you made that up. The data does not support it.

Ok, let's see this purported data.

You made the claim- please post a single peer-reviewed study that indicates teenagers who drink are less likely to become problem drinkers in college/as adults.

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Hey crazy lady with the 28- and 30-year old, do your kids even talk to you ever? I feel so sorry for them!

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would absolutely mind!
College is the earliest kids should try alcohol (responsibly, although it might be wishful thinking).

Not trying until college reduces the likelihood your kid will try responsibly then.

You made that up.

Kids who have never had alcohol, particularly if it is because of parent restrictions, are more likely to go crazy with the freedom of college. They are also less prepared to handle the effects of alcohol so are more likely to get trashed, intentionally or not.

Again, you made that up. The data does not support it.

Ok, let's see this purported data.

You made the claim- please post a single peer-reviewed study that indicates teenagers who drink are less likely to become problem drinkers in college/as adults.

Read my post. I didn't make reference to peer reviewed studies or any claims related thereto. You are the only one who has said anything about studies. So let's see them.

(And you are somewhat misinterpreting my statement. I don't believe someone who drinks a lot in HS all of sudden changes in college. Brett Kavanaugh and his ilk drank plenty in college. But, when people have very restrictive parents who try to eliminate any alcohol use, it often leads kids to want the forbidden fruit and to be ill prepared to handle it. In contrast, someone who drank occasionally, and generally moderately, in HS is often better suited to handle the freedoms of college.)

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Anonymous wrote:Hey crazy lady with the 28- and 30-year old, do your kids even talk to you ever? I feel so sorry for them!

Hit close to home, didn’t it.

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Anonymous wrote:1. It's illegal! Not sure why parents think that doesn't pertain to their child or their friends children.
2.Good luck in college when they get a citation for public intoxication. Thousands of $ to get out of that one.
3. DUI yeah something to aspire to.
4. Am I naive to think my kids did not drink before age 21 nope. We discussed this a lot. With Uber and Lyft or two good legs there is zero reason to ever drive drunk hence don't call us if you do we won't bail you out of jail.

See the following:

http://www.legalflip.com/Article.aspx?id=20&pageid=94

https://www.criminaldefenselawyer.com/resources/criminal-defense/crime-penalties/virginia-minor-possession-alcohol-charges-penalt
Parents exception still exists in VA: “Parent or guardian supervision. A minor may be served alcohol by an adult in a private residence when the minor is accompanied by a parent, guardian, or adult spouse. (Virginia Ann. Code Section 4.1-305(A).)”

It is illegal to serve other people’s kid. Kids drinking on their own is illegal, and definitely needs to be squashed by parents like any other illegal behaviors.

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Serve my teen and I’ll report your ass.

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Not ok with even a sip . I’m 37 I’ve never drank. If I can’t a child can’t either.

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Anonymous wrote:Serve my teen and I’ll report your ass.

Nobody is talking about serving kids beer. Jeez suck freaks on this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Serve my teen and I’ll report your ass.

Nobody is talking about serving kids beer. Jeez suck freaks on this thread.

Wrong someone posted that it was okay to “serve the team” in their home.

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Anonymous wrote:Serve my teen and I’ll report your ass.

Nobody is talking about serving kids beer. Jeez suck freaks on this thread.

Wrong someone posted that it was okay to “serve the team” in their home.

Then quote that post if you just post you’re talking to the original post

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Anonymous wrote:2 beers at 15 is ok

It's actually not. You don't get to pick and choose what is legal. If you want your children to respect and follow the law, you have to respect and follow the law.

100 Percent agree.

Except it’s legal for your team to drink two beers in your house

Quote. Even if it’s “a typo”, I stand by my point.

Also, if you leave beer unchecked/unsecured at your home and my teen comes home drunk, I will report you.

I expect you to parent in your own home.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would absolutely mind!
College is the earliest kids should try alcohol (responsibly, although it might be wishful thinking).

Not trying until college reduces the likelihood your kid will try responsibly then.

You made that up.

Kids who have never had alcohol, particularly if it is because of parent restrictions, are more likely to go crazy with the freedom of college. They are also less prepared to handle the effects of alcohol so are more likely to get trashed, intentionally or not.

Nope. Not upheld by data.