Why would A SN Parent Not Pick Up Their Child From School When Called?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The child would have come in eventually. There was no emergency. If he was still on the playground when the school day ended, and he couldn't transition safely to the bus or however he gets home, THAT is when the parent should be called.

What if every kid did that? Just refused to come into the classroom? They are having a situation in the playground and choose to not come in. Then what?

Just back off the stupid "every kid" argument. The school was both unwilling, unable and apparently untrained to deal with something they are required to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The school should just get CPS involved

The school should have called CPS on themselves? Their actions were illegal, without a doubt, but were they abusive? That's an interesting question.

It is arguable that calling the police and traumatizing a child for....not leaving the playground was abusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The child would have come in eventually. There was no emergency. If he was still on the playground when the school day ended, and he couldn't transition safely to the bus or however he gets home, THAT is when the parent should be called.

What if every kid did that? Just refused to come into the classroom? They are having a situation in the playground and choose to not come in. Then what?

This sounds like OP. What if the moon was made of green cheese?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The school should just get CPS involved

The school should have called CPS on themselves? Their actions were illegal, without a doubt, but were they abusive? That's an interesting question.

It is arguable that calling the police and traumatizing a child for....not leaving the playground was abusive.

I agree, you could well make that argument. But hopefully, had the school realized they were being abusive, they would have not done it. Doing it and then calling CPS on themselves doesn't seem like the logical action.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The child would have come in eventually. There was no emergency. If he was still on the playground when the school day ended, and he couldn't transition safely to the bus or however he gets home, THAT is when the parent should be called.

What if every kid did that? Just refused to come into the classroom? They are having a situation in the playground and choose to not come in. Then what?

If every kid did that, they'd probably figure out something that didn't require calling 500 parents to come pick their kid up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You lost me at "SN parent." How about parent of a child with SN?

Who knows? Maybe the parent can't, is exhausted and thinks it is futile. Perhaps the school did not respond well to the child's needs. Why couldn't the social worker or someone stay outside with the child until the episode was over? Perhaps the school in the past has not deployed strategies well and dumped on the parents.

Because the child should be at school and the school should set up a plan to handle the child's needs. It's not appropriate for the school to ask a child to leave during the school day (unless they are sick).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any behavioral specialist will tell you that the absolute last thing you want to do is reward and positively reinforce this behavior (refusing to leave playground) by calling a parent to come pick him up! That's so stupid.

The parent is probably fed up dealing with the incompetent school staff. Why on EART would they call the police in a situation where everyone was safe and fine???

+1. Worst idea ever to reward school refusal by calling parent to come and pick up child.

Can’t even believe that was an option.

There is no way that every single warm adult body in school was occupied with something more important than this problem. There are principal, vice principals, counselors, teachers with planning periods, sped teachers and staff, all of whom can drop other priorities to pitch in and help in emergency.

This. I have seen a situation where the principal, vice principal and the teacher went out to try to get a kindergartener off the playground, while an aide stayed with the class.

This school sounds like it handled this situation terribly.