Why would A SN Parent Not Pick Up Their Child From School When Called?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Police was called because school officials can not pick up and carry a child. I’m a teacher. We had a runner leave the school. We had two workers run after the child until police came. Police had to bring the child back. If we are not professionally trained and have the green light to restrain a child, then we can not do it. Police or parents can

The child was refusing to leave the playground, not running off school property. Right? Why were the police called? It was not a safety emergency. The child was fine, just not doing what the school staff preferred.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Parent was at home a few minutes away and picked up phone each time. Said couldn't leave because was waiting for a repair man.

so you know the answer... why as us?

Why, so she can judge. Judging's no fun if you do it in the privacy of your own head.

Best to get online so everyone can appreciate your superiority over all those careless slatterns out there.

[Anonymous]

My son is a second grader and has high functioning autism and this sounds a lot like something he would do. In fact, it's something he has done (run out the door to the playground and refused to come back). I don't think its uncommon, sadly. I'm surprised the school called the police, unless the child is known to have violent outbursts of punching or whatnot. We are in ACPS, and the aide or teacher has moved him gently and escorted him back in.

If i got a call like this and I was at home a few minutes away, of course i would go. Sounds like this parent is trying to prove a point. Maybe parent is upset with services provided or frustrated or trying to prove that school isn't able to properly supervise and care for him.

it's a frstrating situation for everyone. Speaking as someone who is there.

[Anonymous]

Any behavioral specialist will tell you that the absolute last thing you want to do is reward and positively reinforce this behavior (refusing to leave playground) by calling a parent to come pick him up! That's so stupid.

The parent is probably fed up dealing with the incompetent school staff. Why on EART would they call the police in a situation where everyone was safe and fine???

[Anonymous]

It is a denial of FAPE to ask parents to come pick up a child with unwanted behaviors. How many times do you think the school has called in the past?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Police was called because school officials can not pick up and carry a child. I’m a teacher. We had a runner leave the school. We had two workers run after the child until police came. Police had to bring the child back. If we are not professionally trained and have the green light to restrain a child, then we can not do it. Police or parents can

Every school has somebody trained in restraining and moving children.

If you school doesn't it's a problem with the school.

It's a 2 day training. jeez

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is a denial of FAPE to ask parents to come pick up a child with unwanted behaviors. How many times do you think the school has called in the past?

Totally Team Mom here, but she should say this when they call. Just to be crystal clear to them.

OP, maybe next time you see the mom you could let her know!

[Anonymous]

For the people that feel that it was escalation to call the mom, and then call the police, when kid was "just staying on the playground and safe"
The only way to insure the safety would be for one staff person to remain outside with that student.
Unless that kid has a 1-1 aide, that is not something that can happen. Staff have other assignments.
If, as others have suggested, this is building toward an argument that the kid needs a 1-1 aide, then this is the process that has to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any behavioral specialist will tell you that the absolute last thing you want to do is reward and positively reinforce this behavior (refusing to leave playground) by calling a parent to come pick him up! That's so stupid.

The parent is probably fed up dealing with the incompetent school staff. Why on EART would they call the police in a situation where everyone was safe and fine???

+1. Worst idea ever to reward school refusal by calling parent to come and pick up child.

Can’t even believe that was an option.

There is no way that every single warm adult body in school was occupied with something more important than this problem. There are principal, vice principals, counselors, teachers with planning periods, sped teachers and staff, all of whom can drop other priorities to pitch in and help in emergency.

[Anonymous]

I do not blame the parent AT ALL in this situation.
There are times when you just don’t have the bandwidth anymore, especially if you’re dealing with another issue at home and stuck waiting for a repair man.

Our school is very good at managing such situations, it welcomes students with SN who cannot be educated in nearby schools, and police has never been called. Seems to me like this school team lacks experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the people that feel that it was escalation to call the mom, and then call the police, when kid was "just staying on the playground and safe"
The only way to insure the safety would be for one staff person to remain outside with that student.
Unless that kid has a 1-1 aide, that is not something that can happen. Staff have other assignments.
If, as others have suggested, this is building toward an argument that the kid needs a 1-1 aide, then this is the process that has to happen.

plus what if he runs from the play ground?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the people that feel that it was escalation to call the mom, and then call the police, when kid was "just staying on the playground and safe"
The only way to insure the safety would be for one staff person to remain outside with that student.
Unless that kid has a 1-1 aide, that is not something that can happen. Staff have other assignments.
If, as others have suggested, this is building toward an argument that the kid needs a 1-1 aide, then this is the process that has to happen.

plus what if he runs from the play ground?

then the person who has "other tasks" does not get those other tasks done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In addition to the above possibilities, Maybe the school calls constantly and the parent feels (rightly or wrongly) that the school should do a better job managing student instead of relying on parent.

This was my assumption. This is a child behavioral issue. The school needs to figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Why would you not call the parent, "a parent of a child with special needs," or, even better, specify what SNs we are talking about, so we can better assess?

You don't seem very up on even the correct terminology so that is raising a red flag to a lot of us that you are not aware of the issues surrounding children with SNs, and, maybe the rest of the educators at this school are not either.

No wonder this poor mother is floundering, trying to get her child the help he needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Parent was at home a few minutes away and picked up phone each time. Said couldn't leave because was waiting for a repair man.

Considering that many places charge $100 if they show up and you aren’t there —even if they are 30 or more minutes late— I understand. I couldn’t cancel a visit from a utility even after the problem was fixed because the employee had been dispatched. He arrived two hours late, but I was told I’d be charged if I left.